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post #661 of 832
Hi all. I just found this thread, and, well, I'm here.
Dh needs a transplant but before he can get one he needs to fix his teeth. We have no dental coverage and it will cost alot of money
I am not worried about groceries because thank G!d there is a community program that has been giving us food packages. I am worried about rent and just general expenses, dh was always the sole financial provider while my work was home and kids. Now I am due in 2 months and dh is too sick to earn money.
I do have faith that it will work out okay, just every once and awhile it gets me very, very down. The money part is very small compared to dh's health.

to you all.
post #662 of 832
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Originally Posted by Lisa Lubner View Post
First of all... Ruth, what does your "friend" have to say for herself?? Holy crap, that would infuriate me.
She hasn't said anything. I just brushed her off the phone quickly after she came up with some other "excuse" about what she says happened after I discovered it didn't. "Oh, I spoke to the secretary, not Mr R (who I spoke to who told me she hasn't sent them a dime.)"
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Originally Posted by JesseMomme View Post
I'm just reeling right now. Dh was on his way to work late this afternoon and I guess our car was on a lookout list b/c he was pulled over (for no outward reason so I know the plates were ran)...yep we've been one of those evil people that haven't been able to keep up with the insurance on the car and when you can't do that you get punished ten times over (can't keep up registration, or inspection, then they want your plates, etc) he got three tickets and the car is now impounded
I'm so sorry.

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Originally Posted by BelovedBird View Post
Hi all. I just found this thread, and, well, I'm here.
Dh needs a transplant but before he can get one he needs to fix his teeth. We have no dental coverage and it will cost alot of money
I am not worried about groceries because thank G!d there is a community program that has been giving us food packages. I am worried about rent and just general expenses, dh was always the sole financial provider while my work was home and kids. Now I am due in 2 months and dh is too sick to earn money.
I do have faith that it will work out okay, just every once and awhile it gets me very, very down. The money part is very small compared to dh's health.

to you all.
What on earth does his teeth have to do with getting a transplant? Can't they do the dental work while he's in the hospital since it's "prep work" for the new kidney?

Anyway, my car died again when I was driving on Friday. It just stalled out when I was stopped for a red light and then wouldn't start again. Mom came and rescued me and now she's talking about selling it to the mechanic and us sharing her car until the mechanic finds something reliable for me.

And the UA violation of a debt collector called again today- on a Saturday when I can't answer the phone due to Shabbos. Um, what on earth does he expect me to do before the banks open on Tuesday anyway? I mean, when I spoke to him last Tuesday I told him there was no way I could arrange anything whatsoever this week, it's just too busy with holidays and holiday prep and I can't do anything before next week. So why has he been calling me daily anyway?

Oh, and the check for that debt from 2 weeks ago (the one AFTER the one I know bounced) also bounced. WTF????
post #663 of 832
Thread Starter 
Hi BB, s to you

Ruth- I'm so pissed at your friend, it's not even funny.

I just ended a friendship about a month ago due to money. She bought our old computer for $100 and said she would pay us in two weeks. I thought I could trust her. Months went by and nothing. Finally I said to her, "I need to money by Friday(this was on a Monday)." She gave me 50 on Wed, told mark she would get the rest on friday. Lied to her husband, husband called me and said she told Mark she would get it to us next week, even though he told me she said friday (she told mark that her husband told her she would have to pay for it out of her paycheck- yet he told me that he would get HIS paycheck on firday and they would pay then).

She then got MAD at ME because of it. oy! She has a track record for using people (I now learn). She uses people, says they are friends then when the friend gets tired of the using and calls her on it, she gets pissy so I can relate a little, although this situation didn't screw with my credit.
post #664 of 832
So exactly what is the difference between this thread and the Financially challenged thread?

Anyway, are gas prices KILLING anyone else?? We have a bigger family so we need a bigger vehicle. I'm thinking bus pass.

I can't believe how things are for some of you. I'm so sorry. I'm hoping things get better for you. They aren't much better here.

Hang in there, Mama's

Chandi
post #665 of 832
BelovedBird {{{{{Hugs}}}} Good luck to your hubby!



Ruth... if your teeth are bad and in need of pulling or root canals, the bacteria can cause some pretty bad things to happen... like a heart attack. The infection can spread. Some people have died from this. You have to be in tip top shapre for transplants or they give them to someone else.

I assume this is what she is talking about!


It also looks like time to cut your friendship off and possibly take her to small claims if needed. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}



Nursingnaturalmom
Yep it's about $3.40 a gallon here and costs me about $53.00 to fill up. And they say the prices will be well into the $4.00's by the summer. : There is really no difference in threads... this one came first... and both threads are having slightly different talks so I think both will offer something to everyone.



I hope everyone's cars get fixed! We have had to do a bunch of work on both of ours too, but luckily my dad is a mechanic and there is a good junk yard out here and we have gotten by spending pretty little.



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post #666 of 832
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Originally Posted by Ruthla View Post

What on earth does his teeth have to do with getting a transplant? Can't they do the dental work while he's in the hospital since it's "prep work" for the new kidney?
One cannot have bad teeth- any! when on anti rejection drugs, as any small infection can kill them. Hospitals do not do dental work, dentists do. He will hopefully have a transplant in the states, but hopefully do the teeth work here. You cannot fix a mouthful of bad teeth at once, it takes many appointments.
post #667 of 832
Okay, I've read but I'm wiped.. so no replies. I suck.

We went over to my parents today for a BBQ (last minute). They have a park directly across the street from their house. So we spent almost all day in their backyard or at the park. And yay, free food. Plus, they gave me a Best Buy GC for my bday.

We then came home and washed our vehicle. I scrubbed that thing top to bottom (outside only). So many grooves to scrub out, ahhh! My hands are hurting.

Anyway, a NICE day and it didn't cost us a thing - except gas and our own energy.

Tomorrow the IL's are taking us out to dinner (for my bday, again). We're going to a nice spaghetti place, woo hoo.

I hope everyone has a good Memorial Day weekend. I'm trying to sort of take a mental break from the stress of $ for the next day or so. Difficult but I'm trying.

PS Thystle - We're too afraid to fill up our tank completely. I know, silly. We should just do it, it'd save time/money that we spend going to the station more often. Ours is $3.39 a gallon right now.. was higher a week ago, but surprisingly dropped..
post #668 of 832
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Originally Posted by josybear View Post
ds has celiac disease... he's a fussy eater and none of the things we have for him are to his liking. he won't touch any of the half dozen things i've prepared for him but is crying with hunger.
Beans are wonderful, so are potatoes (chips for snacks, baked for meals), meat, fish, fruit, PB & celery, cottage cheese... at our local co-op they sell GF in bulk.

You didn't mention how old he is, but I'd still reccomend talking to him and telling him calmly that, that's all there is to eat. I've had good luck even explaining to my four month old why it's important for him to be quiet while mommy's in class. Remember you're stressed to the max, he may be crying more because he's picking up on your stress level that he is his own hunger.
post #669 of 832
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Originally Posted by Dillpicklechip View Post
I stopped having a social life so long ago because when people invited me to the movies or to go bowling or to go out for tea or whatever I never had any money to go.
Totally sympathize. I remember one time I invited a friend to go with us to a local place where we had a yearly membership that allowed us to take like 2 other people. Then on the way home she wanted to stop for food. She was always complaining about money too, so I couldn't believe she wanted to stop for fast food on the way HOME somewhere, but I didn't want to tell her no, so we spent $15 we really couldn't afford and just never asked her to go someplace again.
post #670 of 832
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Originally Posted by josybear View Post
is there a smilie for pulling my hair out?
ds has celiac disease so there are about ten million things he can't eat, and most of the things he can eat are bloody expensive. so far we've gotten by feeding him cheap things like carrots and eggs and cornmeal mash. but as of today he's a fussy eater and none of the things we have for him are to his liking. he won't touch any of the half dozen things i've prepared for him but is crying with hunger. i can't just go out and buy what he'd like to eat, since gluten free foods are crazy expensive, but i can't listen to him cry and whine for much longer, either. HELLLLLLLLLLLLLP! (emphasis on the hell part of help)

Buy? mama, get off your butt and bake the boy something! (this is coming from a totally lazy person!) Is gluten the only thing he can't have? We've been GF for almost 7 years now and rarely do I buy the prepackaged stuff because GF can be done cheap when you put in time in the kitchen and no I don't mean using nasty rice flour I think the only thing I tend to buy prepackaged are Cherry Brook Kitchen Cake mixes (I gave up finding a good cake recipe), Dino chicken nuggets and mini choc chip cookies cause I'm to lazy to make them and its usually a craving/moment of weakness thing while at the store (there's totally worth the $3 since there's like 40 cookies and it takes dd and I all day to eat the bag )

Anyway, you might want to post over in the nutrition forum for idea's. How long has he been on the diet? I'm guessing not long if he's rejecting foods still. What foods is he wanting? Maybe some mama's here will be able to give you ideas on what to make/recipes
post #671 of 832
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Originally Posted by UberMama View Post
PS Thystle - We're too afraid to fill up our tank completely. I know, silly. We should just do it, it'd save time/money that we spend going to the station more often. Ours is $3.39 a gallon right now.. was higher a week ago, but surprisingly dropped..
I'm terrible with conversions, but I think gas is even more expensive in Canada. Right now in most cities it's $1.15 per litre. One litre is 0.26 gallons, so I guess that means roughly that we'd be paying around $4.45 per gallon.

We were really blessed to have a car given to us by my dad, but too bad it's a gas-guzzling Intrepid. I don't even know how much it would cost to fill the tank because we never fill it completely, either! We just put 40 or 50 bucks in when we get it.
post #672 of 832
Thread Starter 
This is where the cost of the Avalon is saving us in gas. It gets pretty good mileage and thankfully 15 mintues south of us in SC gas is nearly 10 cents cheaper.
post #673 of 832
Thread Starter 
after payday we are going to go fill up.
post #674 of 832
Thread Starter 
look at this:

www.gasbuddy.com

enter your city or state and find the lowest and highest gas prices.

Our lowest in NC is 2.84
The highest 3.35
post #675 of 832
I always wonder why gas prices can vary so much across a state or province. But then, I guess the prices are completely arbitrary anyway, gas stations just charge whatever the heck they feel like charging at that moment in time...:
post #676 of 832
gas prices plays a HUGE part in why we are moving.

Right now we are 15-20 miles from 'civilization'

We are moving to a place with a slightly higher cost of living, but we'll be a 1/2 mile walk from *everything*

Dh has been walking with the kids, since the weather is nice, and even our 4yo has been walking nearly 3 miles at a clip! I couldn't believe it! 1/2 mile is going to be nothing for them!

now if one of these stupid jobs would just get back to DH already!
post #677 of 832
I only have a few minutes but wanted to give to everyone. We're preparing for Mark to be out of work (he'll know something about the job *hopefully* by the end of next week) so we're not replacing his computer motherboard that fried, which means we're sharing mine so i only get a few minutes here and there.

Also, yesterday my glasses broke. Again. We've glued them back together about 5 times now, and I think this is the last time they'll hold. I have awful eyesight, past -10 in both eyes, and can not function without some type of corrective lenses. Mark says I need to go get contacts and we'll put them on the credit card, but I'm terrified of doing that with this joblessness (is that even a word?) looming over our head. The stress of it all really hit yesterday, when I started sobbing while fixing my glasses. Total overreaction, but I did feel better afterwards, so I guess i needed it.

Gas is a killer here too. We used to go to parks and the library and other "free" entertainment, and now we can't even do that. I'm hoping, but not really expecting, that it will go down again.

And on top of it all, it's time to renew our Medicaid. Ugh ugh ugh. I've called every day for a month trying to get an appt and only get busy signals... guess I'll have to go down there in person.

I'm keeping all you mamas in my thoughts.
post #678 of 832
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Originally Posted by Dillpicklechip View Post
I always wonder why gas prices can vary so much across a state or province. But then, I guess the prices are completely arbitrary anyway, gas stations just charge whatever the heck they feel like charging at that moment in time...:
This is so true! I worked at a gas station for a few months while going to school in 2004 and the manager drove around town every morning to check what other stations were charging. He would set our price based on that.
post #679 of 832
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Originally Posted by kytheria View Post
Also, yesterday my glasses broke. Again. We've glued them back together about 5 times now, and I think this is the last time they'll hold. I have awful eyesight, past -10 in both eyes, and can not function without some type of corrective lenses. Mark says I need to go get contacts and we'll put them on the credit card, but I'm terrified of doing that with this joblessness (is that even a word?) looming over our head. The stress of it all really hit yesterday, when I started sobbing while fixing my glasses. Total overreaction, but I did feel better afterwards, so I guess i needed it.
I glued my last pair 3 times.

Try here:

There are at least 25 locations near your city: http://www.twopair.com/
$69 gets you two pairs of glasses AND the eye exam. We have used them several times (I get my son's there too) and they have been awesome. You also got to choose from a good selection, just say no to the "add ons". Glasses for most would be more "frugal" as they are harder to lose and dont require solution!
post #680 of 832
josybear

The "Special Needs Parenting" and the "Traditional Foods" forums have alot of good info!


You might want to try buying some coconut flour... it's awesome!
These guys have the best coconut products and they run specials on the flour several times a year: http://www.tropicaltraditions.com/or...onut_flour.htm
If you get on their mailing list you will find out when the sales are and sometimes they have free shipping too.


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I have a SPD child with serious eating issues and I know how tough it can be!

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