i think i joined this thread once before...anyway i really need to rejoin now, and get some advice before i lose internet access...
we are very frugal, no extras (except internet which i needed for ds's school which is out now, thankfullly)
any advice for dealing w/homelessness with children?
long story short, dh self employed, worked for contractor who owes $4000-said contractor doesn't want to pay, basically said he just won't work in OR anymore when served w/lien on business(he is in WA state) anyway, dh finds work in another town, (finally, a great job, great benefits, etc.-we just don't have deposits etc. saved yet) has been working a week now, but our rent is way past due (because we were counting on the check) and now we are evicted, moving this wknd. (family can't or won't help, we tried) we have friends to stay with until the end of JUne, thankfully. my younger 2 are ok, a bit stressed as you can maybe imagine but my 14 year old is really taking this hard, and i am so lost as to what to say, this is so hard for all of us. we knew we were moving, we just didn't know it would be like this. it isn't like we are lazy, on drugs or drunk, etc... he worked so very hard, for so long, missing my brother's visit because he was working...i am just shocked at where i am in my life right now, i never thought this would happen to me. i have tried many avenues of help, we have plenty of food, clothes, are healthy just nothing else. i am not looking for help in that way, i am just really needing some advice from someone who has been there. i love my family so much, we are so strong and happy together. i am going back to work (dd is 3) as soon as i can, i am not sure how but i never, ever want to be in this situation again. please only reply if you have something to share advice wise, and support, at this point in my life i have beat myself up enough, i don't need anymore of that.
I guess the best advice I can give is to be gentle with yourself. You and your Dp are doing the best you can and you can't spend energy beating yourselves up...that's just a downward spiral. I know it's really hard to do because I'm not easy on myself a lot of the times and honestly last year I felt like I had flat out simply failed, with everything, including my responsibility to my children. I felt like, well I failed can I just give up now? How I found the strength to hang in there..I knew I had people rooting for me. I'm rooting for you mama.
sarah_bella1050 - yay! :
eta: Lisa - yay too!