Maybe you'd think it was horrible if you had MY mother. The last thing I want to do, after her verbal and physical abuse and lies, is take care of her in her old age. However, that's EXACTLY what I'm going to have to do- assuming she MAKES it to old age- because she's spent every last penny of money she's ever had on drugs and there's no one else who can do it. The thought of taking care of her makes me feel even worse than my own prospects for retirement. I let her stay with me once, and it was a disaster which ended with her trying to seduce my boyfriend so *she* could stay while he'd kick *me* out. So yes, I do view her as a burden, and imo, rightly so. :
If my daughter chooses to take care of me when I'm older, that's one thing, but I think leaving her with no choice is unfair.
I agree, not having a choice is not really fair in this day and age, I was just trying to make a point that it used to be the way it is does(and was expected and not such a big deal, and is still done that way in many countries), but we did not used to have the major social issues we have today(high drug abuse rates, etc).
I should have put more thought into my response.