Originally Posted by emilyrose
If you can put things in like being vegan, can you also put things in like that you don't want dds being raised with tv? (we don't have tv, but when I picked up dd2 today from where h is staying, dds were watching tv, which I don't want them doing!!)
Theoretically, yes, you can include it--but I think your ex would have to agree. Honestly, I don't think any judge would order someone to keep a TV out of their house (or even off when the child is around) simply because the other parent doesn't want it. The only time I've heard about a judge ordering legal, not intrinsically dangerous items out of house is as part of a criminal sentence (i.e. a hacker can't have a computer).
Same with veganism, really--the PP indicated "we" put that restriction in, which seems to me to mean they agreed. But at the very least, I don't think a judge would order a party with joint legal custody to maintain the child's vegan diet (or any non-medically-required diet, really; religious diets may be orderable in situations where one parent can direct the child's religion).
Unfortunately, there's not a lot you can do about day-to-day stuff at the other house. (And really: Do you want your ex to try to dictate what goes on in your house? Because that's often what happens when one party makes requests/demands for the other to honor, even if the requests/demands are completely reasonable.)