Originally Posted by akichan
Soooo, I don't understand. Regardless of what you have in your parenting agreements, nothing happens if the agreements are violated? Unless you go back to court? Isn't it already a court order? Does the police enforce those?
excuse the typos tonight...
stbx & I actually get along decently & we really only have interactions dealing with dd, but from what I've seen it's one thing to have something in the decree and another to follow it. A good friend has an awful divorce & her x is not doing many of the things listed. There is nothing she can do but document it, and will bring it back to court to amend the agreement. For example, since hw is not consistently done & the kids are not prepared for school, she'll be asking to amend their agreement & not have them stay over during the week.
ANd from what I've seen, the police enforce what is in the agreement - child is returned at x time but it's now y o'clock so they can be there when you get your child without a fight. It's not like the police can enforce all the parenting related things. Financially you can document, but it will cost you more to go to court each time he doesn't pay for something, so it's more beneficial to document and have something adjusted as lump later on.
Hope that made sense - I'm kinda tired & rambling on.