Here is what I have so far--feedback please
So I have read through this whole thread borrowed some very useful idea's and added my own. Are any of these completely irrational or likely to be tossed out by a Judge? Oh by the way they are worded funny and pretty random. I meet with a Lawyer through my school on Tuesday and would like to have a general Idea of what I want.
I will consult you regarding all major decision but will have sole decision making authority if we cannot come to an agreement.
My home will be considered Liam's Primary residence
Both Parents will agree to make Liam's needs and best interest a priority in all decisions and communications with each other
They will not participate in any behavior that would diminish Liam's love and respect for the other parent.
If there is an accident, serious injury other parent will be called and allowed to come see Liam even if it is not their time
Both Parents and Liam can call at will (within reason as far as times and amount of calls) Liam will not be forced to talk.
Calls to and from Liam by either parent will not be interfered with, monitored, or recorded for use in any future custody litigation, by either party
Calls between parents will not be monitored or recorded for use in any future custody litigation by either party
Both Parties will remain residing within 60 miles of Eugene until Liam is at least 14 and emotionally ready for long distance visits--unless it is deemed unavoidable?????? not sure how to work this one. but we both need to commit to staying here for Liam though I don't think anything like this would fly unless I could figure out how to word it right
Liam be allowed to breastfeed until he chooses to wean
Both parents must provide itinerary if traveling with Liam out of state
50% Visitation is gradual, step wise and according to Liam's needs and readiness
Whoever has the greater tax advantage and return AND does not have outstanding debt that will be garnished from the return will claim him and split the return with the other party
Child support will be based on guidelines
Child care costs and/or
School Tuition will be split 50/50 includes summer camps and activities. (I am fine covering them for a while and having the cs based on you contributing to his child care costs but my subsidy in not permanent)--this gets sticky if he never pays his half and CS is based on him paying his half but he is truly unable to pay it right now.
The Van will be payed off or refinanced out of my name by the time the divorce is final.
You will pay half of the credit card debt to Me and I will make payments to Alliance
No passing messages through Liam.
Both parents will claim right of first refusal
You will set up a trust account for Liam listed as beneficiary of your Life insurance policy with annual proof.
A full background check is provided to the other when one of us plans on living with someone.
No smoking in front of the children
No abusing Alcohol and no illegal substances starting 12 hours before the visit, ending after the children are dropped off with the other party
No Driving with Liam if parent has been consuming any alcohol
will not spend more than one consecutive night with Father until he is at least 42 months old and is deemed ready by both parties.
cannot meet significant others until they have been dating for 6 months and parties will both agree to meet the other significant other prior to introducing to Liam
extracurricular over $100 is split based on percentage income
additional medical/dental or therapeutic expenses over 50.00 is split based on percentage of income--this includes prescriptions, copay,braces and regular counseling etc
Homeschooling/alternative/charter/Waldorf and Montessori will all be viable options for Liam's k-12 education