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post #41 of 305
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Is that standard? My stbx doesn't make much and lies about his income but I'm still shocked at how low that is...not that i know anything about it. I think I'll be getting about 1800-2200 in cs for my two kids.
I've got one even lower I know my DD's dad works super hard and i'm not knocking him at all, but i'm assigned $120.00 a month in child support. I know it's really low but i'm very grateful that I'm even getting anything.
post #42 of 305
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Is that standard? My stbx doesn't make much and lies about his income but I'm still shocked at how low that is...not that i know anything about it. I think I'll be getting about 1800-2200 in cs for my two kids.
CA must have much better c/s than WA. I get $745 for two (one of whom is disabled, and we make too much for SSI), and my friend whose ex was quite well off, was getting $1,000 for one (it wouldn't have doubled for two- I think it would have been about $1600.) In WA, the more the mom makes, the less they get in c/s, regardless of how much the dad makes. Real fair!
post #43 of 305

be aggressive now; you can be nice later

So I haven't went through divorce, so don't know what things actually count and which things don't in terms of negotiating a settlement... however, my brother recommended that I should be aggressive now because it is more difficult to get more later on. Or the reverse, that if you ever have to renegotiate they could look at your stuff and say, well you were ok with that to begin with, why is it a problem now? KWIM?

I wasn't planning on doing a whole lot, But it looks like I really need to get my stuff together so that my son and I get what's fair.
post #44 of 305
boobybunny, how did you get your ex to agree to interest on late pays and retirement contributions?
post #45 of 305
I've got one Even Lower!! ready..... $20 per month, yes, that's twenty dollars. one kid, X is in Utah living with his mother and Carlin and I live in WA. In 4 years, he never paid voluntarily and they garnished his SSDI payments as soon as they started. but Utah won't punish him for being a deadbeat until he owes $5000 and at 20/month it would take over 18 years...

Now Carlin gets 50% of those SSDI so we are better. he gets $528 a month, but that cut me off TANF and subsidised childcare. and I'm looking into buying a singlewide trailer with the backcheck.

love and light,
Bryanna


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I've got one even lower I know my DD's dad works super hard and i'm not knocking him at all, but i'm assigned $120.00 a month in child support. I know it's really low but i'm very grateful that I'm even getting anything.
post #46 of 305
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oh mamas. i feel so lucky. what a struggle this whole thing can be for us.
post #47 of 305
Those mamas that get cs, do you have to pay for all of the medical bills and stuff, or how does that work?
post #48 of 305
~sigh~

subbing... just in case.

to all you mamas.
post #49 of 305
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Originally Posted by MissSavannahsMommy View Post
I've got one even lower I know my DD's dad works super hard and i'm not knocking him at all, but i'm assigned $120.00 a month in child support. I know it's really low but i'm very grateful that I'm even getting anything.
See, that's why I haven't filed for child support. I get $250 a month (since she was 8 months old) and I'm SOOO afraid of winding up with less if I take it to court. I do wish we had a legal agreement though!
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post #50 of 305
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Originally Posted by Still_Snarky View Post
Is that standard? My stbx doesn't make much and lies about his income but I'm still shocked at how low that is...not that i know anything about it. I think I'll be getting about 1800-2200 in cs for my two kids.
Do you know how CA caculates child support? I live in CA too but I have no clue and the state website is more confusing.... LOL!
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post #52 of 305
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Do you know how CA caculates child support? I live in CA too but I have no clue and the state website is more confusing.... LOL!
CA uses the DissoMaster computer program to calculate child and spousal support. You can download a 30 day trial of the program here
http://www.cflr.com/download/dmsuite2007.php

There's also an online calculator I found that is very basic and just for CS, but I don't know how accurate it is. You can do a web search for dissomaster california free to find more info.

God, how I wish I didn't need to know that...
post #53 of 305
subbing for a friend, she has a very spiteful husband so we need to get the specifics!! Her kids are teens though 11, 13(twins), 17, any advice for older kids?
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post #55 of 305
I haven't had time to read the entire thread but I *REALLY* wish that health insurance, medical bills, child care, etcetera would have been put in the original decree. As it stands now, he has me fighting over so many other things that I don't have the money to worry about those things right now. It's actually cheaper for me to pay for it all out of my own pocket than fight him at this point in time. He's already refused to pay for anything outside of child support unless I take him back to court.
post #56 of 305
I don't from personal experience about things for older kids... I can imagine to think about things geared toward the extra expenses associated with that age group, like:

-buying a car?
-gas money
-Extra activities (sports, clubs, camps, special interests)
-entertainment (movies etc.)
-allowance?
-Paying for college or vocational training


I know my nephew is just getting into lots of sports, and that changes the schedule... plus there are times when the visitation schedule conflicts with his social life... So I suppose she would want to consider how that would be arranged and what things would be allowed.
post #57 of 305
Bumping so I can read this tomorrow.
post #58 of 305
I am taking notes here.

I have been divorced before (11 years ago) but my first husband was TOTALLY different than this one. The first divorce was fairly simple (even though I didn't think so at the time) but I am scared this one won't be so easy.
post #59 of 305
I tried and tried to get these things in but failed -and I couldn't afford a long, lengthy legal battle financially or emotionally. I wished he had to split preschool costs. Also he refused to pay for college He never went and doesn't see the value. Honestly, I care more about preschool. Yeah in 13 years, I start to feel the financial pinch with college. I have loans up to wazoo and I didn't wat my kids to have the same thing, but unfortunately, that may be a reality.
post #60 of 305
One book I read about California divorce says that if the Father earns 4000 dollars a month and mother 1000-1500, then CS would be around 900 for the first child.
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