Recently ds15 was asked, "What grade are you in?" and he replied, "Well, if I was in school, I think I would be finishing up 9th grade, but my educational level is mostly way above that". Her response to that was, "I don't want to know how smart you are, but what grade you are in." then she looked at me, "Are you educating him with a goal for college, and how do you ensure he can get into college?” I reply with, "Well if he so chooses to go to college we have lots of options open, and of course we'll help him if he needs it, but if he chooses not to go to college, that's fine as well, as long as he's able to provide for himself and is happy, that's more important to us". "So, you wouldn't mind it if he was just a well educated garbage collector?" "No, I wouldn't mind, as long as that was his choice and he was happy with that choice". “So you wouldn’t mind if he didn’t go to college?” “No, I wouldn’t mind, as long as it was his choice and he was able to provide for himself and he was happy.” DS15 later said, “Wow, Mom, if I want to be a well educated burger flipper, I will!” LOLROFLMBO.
That whole conversation left me

I'm still now sure where she was coming from or going with it.