Feeling sad.....and angry

[Jillie]

Again, I knew they would do it, but to have it confirmed just makes my heart sink and I want to cry for that poor boy. My bil and his wife (dh brother) had a boy 2 weeks ago. He was kept longer at the hosp. because of some minor issues and the fact that he was only 5# 5 oz or so. Tonight she was rushing to change his diaper and decided to do it right on a table near me. I didn't even realize that was what she was doing until I was standing there. I just wanted to see the little guy (who is still under 7 #). Wham she whipps of the diaper and there is my answer to did they circ. DH walked up behide me and saw to and knew I was upset. What kind of a 'doctor' would do that to such a small baby?! How could they do that? I have lost all respect I had for them. I'll help if asked, but I'm done trying to be nice. I've been dreading this since I found out they were having a boy. I just dont understand. And they wonder why he crys when he wets his diaper or poops. Gee do you think maybe it hurts????????????? I cant stand it.

[TigerTail]

I hope you said something (even if merely not hiding a gasp or retching). The conspiracy of silence is what allows it to continue. Let perps suffer some disquiet, and assume that the results of casually showing of your baby's bloody penile stump are socially equivalent to displaying the cigarette burns on their belly.

[drnmd1216]

I know how you feel A lot of times, its easier for me to not see my friend's baby boys as they are changed, so that I can pretend that mabye by some miracle they might have listened to their hearts last moment and not done it....but it never proves to be the case I am working on yet another friend now that is leaning towards circumcision for the most assinine reasonings. I just wish the whole horrid thing was illegal.

[eepster]

Originally Posted by Jillie

What kind of a 'doctor' would do that to such a small baby?!

I gave birth on the weekend so I got the on call OB/Gyn. He kept asking if I was sure I didn't want ds circ'd. DS weighed 5 lbs 12 oz at birth and was down to 5 lbs 8 oz the third time he offered.

[buckeyedoc]

The preemies and tiny boys are always especially heartbreaking to me. I can't believe some people go through weeks or months of preemie health scares only to circumcise the first moment they are able to. Shouldn't they just be 100% grateful that their baby survived?

[~Megan~]

I felt exactly the same way. I didn't find out about my nephew until he was 4 months old because I sorta didn't want to know because I was sure they would do it.

It look so sad now that I know what a real penis looks like.

[zak]

That's hard.

[Daisyuk]

As the children are growing up, if you're going to stay friendly with their parents, make sure the kids know what their sick parents did to them when they were babies, and that they knew what they were doing to them. Let the kids know that their parents were given all the information, but that they decided to do it anyway, for stupid reasons.

Make sure the parents have some very awkward questions to answer, and that their sons ask "why?" they were given genital reduction surgery.

[LavenderMae]

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[Jillie]

My dh and his brother work together, so if tradition holds, the kids will see each other a lot. And we live in the country, lots of peeing on trees and the like. It seems likely the questions will come up. And I will not let my son be the one who is "odd" because he is normal. It should be interesting. I cant stop thinking about it. I really didn't want to know because at least then I could pretend they didn't do it. I just don't know how to act around them now.