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April 22-29 Manifesting Divas!!

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ShaZAM! Yipppeee, I got to start the new thread!! Happy Sunday, mamas! What are your intentions for the upcoming week?
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Yay Devon started the thread!
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whoo-hoo! I'm #2! unless someone else is typing faster than I am right now, which is entirely possible! er... #2 to respond, to Devon who is #1 (of course!) which makes me #3... unless someone else is posting while I'm going on and on

My intention for the week is to focus on allowing good to come to me. I was listening to Abraham/Esther last night and I'm thinking that my habit of always wanting to figure out why things aren't going right, which I do by trying to figure out, essentially, what I've been doing wrong, is a real vibration lowerer, and thus may be the thing I'm doing wrong, actually. If anybody is following me, here without getting : Anyhow, focus on allowing, which means focus on feeling good! tough assignment, eh?

mamadege You are a wonderful mama! Your dd is having very tough feelings right now. The good thing is that feelings change and pass. Hold an image of her happy and whole, and know that will help her to become so. Know in your heart that she is wonderful and healthy. She's lost sight of that right now, but you can hold it for her.
And we can hold you in our hearts, a happy, beautiful, wonderful mama!
post #4 of 709
Awwww, I thought my multi-quote would follow me. Oh well.

Yeah! A new week! Woo!

Mamadege

Thanks, everyone, for your responses to my questions. I really liked Amris' response about justification.

And Pat I want you to finish that cliffhanger!

Devon, you crack me up! Let's get back to your love life! I don't want to talk about deep philosophical state of the worl stuff anymore!

Oh, can I just say how much I everyones TM!!??!! Isn't it amazing that they are ALL so beautiful? You can't make a bad TM! That's great!

To all the mamas with sleep issues, I feel for you!

My ds woke up several times a night till about 15 mo (he still does, but now he just comes and gets into bed with us, so it doesn't really wake me up, and that's all I care about! ) and woke up at 4:30 a.m. for the LONGEST time!!!

But fast forward to today (25 mo)....last night he fell asleep at 5:30 and stayed asleep till 7 a.m. this morning!!! Woot!!

That's highly unusual, but he does normally sleep in till at lesat 6:30, usually a bit after 7. My point is that it has gotten 100% better!! So there is hope!

I will think about my intentions and post later today. Yawn. I need more coffee first.

I like the idea of feeling good. I can get all kinds of into that!

Now I'm off to figure out how to save the pan I burnt last night when dh made me make gravy (I obviously manifested this, because I don't believe I can make gravy and I burnt it beyond recognition....and I'm a good cook!)
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Ok, I saw the teeny tiny type that allowed me to multi-quote from another thread as I pressed post!

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Originally Posted by memiles View Post
On some level, don't some people DO want war? Not exactly the everyday realities of war, but it's effects? If nothing else, in the US, war is profit driven. Combine that with the apathy of so much of the population, and I can get my head around the idea that war is attracted. That is why that, since learning about LoA, I've focused specifically on attracting peace, not only in my life but for the world.

As for bad things happening to individuals, I do think it's important to distinguish between the individual victim and the universal plan for their life (which I believe they chose), and those who love the victims.

As an example, my aunt was brutally murdered when I was a child. While I don't think she deliberately manifested being shot, she did manifest the relationship with the man that killed her. She manifested a lifestyle that, while fun and exciting, wasn't safe.

The effects of her death can be seen in my family.........my grandma became ill and died of cancer within a few years of my aunt's death. While I don't believe that she manifested the horror of having a child killed, I do believe that her thoughts after Doris' death had a powerful impact on her health. My mom slipped into a deep depression at about the same time, and my parent's relationship started a slide that ended in a messy divorce. Did my mom manifest her sister's death, I don't think so. But I know in my heart that she is a person who NEVER reaches for the thought that feels better, and that Doris' death started a long run of what my mother would call terrible luck.

As a person who had a pretty bad accident and spent several years recovering, it would be easy to say "I didn't do anything to deserve that". But I know in my heart that I did. I desperately wanted to quit my job and be a SAHM, but I didn't believe it was possible. My accident and surgeries really were the manifestation of a deep desire to leave my career path. Would it have been more fun to manifest it in another way? Sure. However, my thoughts were not exactly the most positive, so my manifestation wasn't either.

I struggle with this idea often, but it always seems to come back to the fact that our thoughts are powerful things, and that some things we chose before we come to our physical bodies.
Yes!!! This is what I think. There are people with a victim mentality that attract negative happenings, there are people that set up their life in such a way that makes them more likely to experience certain, and there are people who want a certain bad thing to happen because it is good for them!

But I also really like what Amris said about the reasons why people do whatever.

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no one here

long story: my dd (17) called 911 because she was going to kill herself, driving her car, we thought she had slept over at bf house and dh was on the way there since we couldn't reach them by phone, at 7am yesterday i got a call from the psych unit at hospital, she'd been there since 3am, bf was w/ her
she hates us(dh&i)
she wants to move out
the dr rec'd her to therapy, she has an appt tues, evidently she has sought treatment before, and is on meds (prozac) (f-ing hipaa laws, i dont know ANY of this)
we took her car keys and she spent the day w/bf, slept over (he lives w/ his nana btw)
she came home this am, went to work as usual i saw her this afternoon, seemed fine
tonight bf went to some other friends and she insisted on driving to another friends house...or she was walking/ or riding her bike (9:30pm)

i am heartbroken, worried, scared S H I-less
how does my baby dd hates me?
i want to crawl in a hole myself
I have no advice for you, but a big

Not that this helps or anything, but my mom and I fought all the time when I was a teenager and she died while we were still in that phase and I know she knows that I loved her and was just being an insufferable sh*t. She does love you. She does love you. She does love you.

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Originally Posted by *Devon* View Post
Ummmm... what I want to know is HOW did the conversation go from the extremely important discussion of MY love life to this philosophical nonsense? :

I believe we manifest not only consciously, but also unconsciously, through our "Inner Self". We may even set intentions for our life and death before we're even born. I think this is the problem a lot of people have with The Secret -- it makes it seem too simple. No, I don't believe that everyone who is killed or hurt consciously attracts it. What about kids who are abused? There is NO WAY they are all sending out vibrations to attract that. I think those situations are either lessons our soul needs to learn, or something our soul wants us to do. Does that make sense?


Thanks for this input. This was one of the things I was thinking about. I guess I'm still wrapping my brain around the idea that before we are born, we choose our experiences.

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Originally Posted by Momtwice View Post
I want to add something important to my comments to Petersmomma last night...

When we concenctrate on joy and happiness, that doesnt' mean we become selfish or lose our compassion. It doesn't mean we stop caring about people going through painful things, or stop caring in a judgemental way because they "brought it on themselves" or other judgemental phrases.


There are some people who feel "The Secret" is selfish because they say don't focus on the negative and I feel that's a misinterpretation but we are each entitled to our own opinion.
And FWIW, I'm not trying to be all high and mighty and say we should all focus on the pain in the world, etc.

My personal philosophy is that the ONLY way you can make change is to NOT try to change anyone other than yourself. By changing yourself, others may model those changes, or not. But you can't change anyone else. And if I am happy and others model that, we are well on our way to a more peaceful world!!
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Awwww, I thought my multi-quote would follow me. Oh well.
Here's the secret -- when you hit Reply in the new thread, right under the box in somewhat teeny letters it will say "You have quoted 3 posts that are not part of this thread" or something like that. It asks if you want to use them here. Click it and your multi-quotes will appear! Just like magic

My intentions for the week:

~Live in the moment at all times
~Take care of various unfinished business to really wipe the clutter slate clean!
~Re-learn how to be happy by myself
~Work on changing my mindset about relationships
~Continue to love and care about my students
~Send my order to the Universe for my soul mate, then forget about it -- look at it, love it, release it!
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Originally Posted by Petersmamma View Post
Thanks for this input. This was one of the things I was thinking about. I guess I'm still wrapping my brain around the idea that before we are born, we choose our experiences.
Oh good, you figured out the multi-quoting thing!

My mom and I always joke that you wait on a bunch of "Lines" before you are born in order to create your human self, and some are longer than others and you can never get to them all. We say things like, "Why did I spend so much time on the Great Hair line and miss the Rich & Famous line?" or "She spent so much time on the Big Boobs line she forgot about Brains" (not that I say stuff like this about other people anymore...:

Cause everyone is such a mixed bag of qualities, you know?
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This week (with lots of help from my universal manager) I am manifesting

-joy, Joy and more JOY
-a safe, fun, easy trip to VA
-the perfect *matron of honor* hair and makeup
-deep self-love and confidence
-increased connection to Well-Being

and maybe even a new MDC username

Lots of love to all as the new week begins.

Big to mamadege5 and family.
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and maybe even a new MDC username
Your username is cute! Why do you want to change it?
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P.S. Do y'all love how I manifested the DDDDC cleanout so we could start playing again?
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Originally Posted by *Devon* View Post
ShaZAM! Yipppeee, I got to start the new thread!! Happy Sunday, mamas! What are your intentions for the upcoming week?
Yay Devon!!!!

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Ok, I saw the teeny tiny type that allowed me to multi-quote from another thread as I pressed post!
Yeah, I think Devon pointed it out in another thread how small that bit of type is...otherwise, I would have missed it too... I'm so glad you found it!!



New week....new thoughts....

~Definitely allow good to come to me!
~To keep relaxed as we continue to look for the perfect house for us!
Even better if we find it this week!
~To work on my book...really start flowing with it!
~To have a fabulous week filled with harmony!

Keep Shinin' Ladies!!!!
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Morning, manifesting divas!
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Morning everyone! Just wanted to get in on the first page!

I've missed you all a lot and have been reading here and there but the break I took has been wonderful in that I have gotten a lot of stuff done! I guess that's what happens when you're not hitting *refresh* every five minutes waiting for replies

I'll be here! *waves*
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Ok, ONE more post and then I'm stopping for a while, I promise. I don't even know why I'm awake, I went to bed at like 3 am. Some of this is repeated from the old thread but I'd really like some input (thanks to April and those who already commented )

My relationship issue:

Catgirl made me realize yesterday that I think I really do have a blocked mentality about relationships. I think, because of my parents' relationship, that I don't see marriage as a real partnership, and that may be why I attract the guys I do.

Even before they were married, my mother basically had to drag my dad, kicking and screaming, through every stage of their relationship (he didn't want to get engaged, he didn't want to get married, he didn't want kids, he didn't want to buy a house, etc etc. He was always glad afterward, though. She is clearly blind to red flags, but if she weren't I wouldn't be here, so I'm grateful!).
Growing up, she was a fantastic mom, and he was always kind of on the periphery. Always there for parties, holidays, get-togethers, etc, but really distant on the day-to-day stuff (I hope I am explaining this so it's clear). He was not a partner to her or a real father to us... he still isn't, he's more like my funny, charming, screwup older brother that a parent. They split up when I was 14 but it was ROUGH for a few years before that, and he still continues to mess up her life at every turn.

Ever since I was little, I have been able to imagine being a mom, but there was never really a "Prince Charming" in the picture.

I think this is why I have a hard time manifesting a real relationship with my soul mate. How can I change my hidden, unconscious, deep down beliefs about marriage and manifest a relationship that is a true, shared partnership between two equals who want similar things in life and love to spend time together?
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My intentions for the week:

To be a patient, loving, unconditional, consensual mama this week to my nearly two year old who has remnded me this past couple of weeks why people refer to it as *terrible twos* -- we call it *terrific twos* around here (sarcastically of course )

To let abundance in!

To let *the slender* in

To continue meditation, gratitude and visualization
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Devon

At first, it takes a concious effort to realize how important it is to "co-habitate" with someone rather than trying to control them. To be honest, here's my story.

My dad drank, my mother is controlling, life wasn't ideal growing up. I grew up watching my dad holler at my mama after coming home from the bar.

When I got together with my hubby, I hollered at him, tried to control his every move, and actually used to physically hit him. I figured, if my parents could stay together through all that drama...I'd see how much my husband loved me... I was NOT the ideal wife.

For the first few years of our marriage, this went on like this... We separated several times...never really knowing how to fix things...knowing we loved each other no matter what else we couldn't get right. Things got alot worse at some points....really bad....lots of hurt done.

Finally, he moved out for 6 straight months. I had to realize that I had to learn to live WITH him, not dictate to him. It was a concious realization and it took a concious effort to learn how to live a different way.

We found a totally different way of living together and are now extremely close and extremely happy. Alot of people look at us today and can see that there's lots of love and companionship there... It wasn't always this way....

So, for you....realize that YOUR relationship is based on what YOU desire... Not on what you've seen.... On what you want AHEAD.... Give yourself the gift of a good mate...look at it as a gift to be treasured....and know that you deserve it.... Because, YOU DO!

(((((Hugs)))))
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Ok, ONE more post and then I'm stopping for a while, I promise. I don't even know why I'm awake, I went to bed at like 3 am. Some of this is repeated from the old thread but I'd really like some input (thanks to April and those who already commented )

My relationship issue:

Catgirl made me realize yesterday that I think I really do have a blocked mentality about relationships. I think, because of my parents' relationship, that I don't see marriage as a real partnership, and that may be why I attract the guys I do.

Even before they were married, my mother basically had to drag my dad, kicking and screaming, through every stage of their relationship (he didn't want to get engaged, he didn't want to get married, he didn't want kids, he didn't want to buy a house, etc etc. He was always glad afterward, though. She is clearly blind to red flags, but if she weren't I wouldn't be here, so I'm grateful!).
Growing up, she was a fantastic mom, and he was always kind of on the periphery. Always there for parties, holidays, get-togethers, etc, but really distant on the day-to-day stuff (I hope I am explaining this so it's clear). He was not a partner to her or a real father to us... he still isn't, he's more like my funny, charming, screwup older brother that a parent. They split up when I was 14 but it was ROUGH for a few years before that, and he still continues to mess up her life at every turn.

Ever since I was little, I have been able to imagine being a mom, but there was never really a "Prince Charming" in the picture.

I think this is why I have a hard time manifesting a real relationship with my soul mate. How can I change my hidden, unconscious, deep down beliefs about marriage and manifest a relationship that is a true, shared partnership between two equals who want similar things in life and love to spend time together?
Devon, while making my treasure map and struggling with the relationship part, I had a strong desire to make a smaller map solely for love and relationship. I will have pictures that represent a good relationship, affirmations of what I want and deserve, a list of things I want in a mate, and also a list of things that I want to be for my partner. This last on is huge for me, since in my current relationship I don't open myself up fully. I really want to be in a space where I feel safe, and with a man who is (as dr. phil says) "a soft place to land."

Maybe making a second treasure map would help you clear out some of your old beliefs, and put you on the track to what you want.
post #18 of 709
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Hey fek&fuzz!! I manifested you! Saw your name on the TM thread and I was like, I miss her!! Sorry, didn't mean to control your free will :
How's The Law?

That sounds like a good idea... my TM does have a lot of love stuff but I am also making a detailed list of everything I want from a partner and from a relationship. Hopefully it will help me get to the "Feeling Place" of what I truly want!!

I think once I get it all out I'll be able to let it go and get back to focusing on me.

Any thoughts on creative visualization?
post #19 of 709
Hi Fek& Fuzz, good to see you around!!!



Devon, I am going to be like Joe Vitale and "be a little bit in your face" and tell you that you have the ultimate choice in life. It's great that you recognize things in your parents' relationship that you DON'T want, and it is good that you recognize all the other things you DON'T want... what about what you DO want??

Jack Canfield says in "The Secret" says about childhood issues: "that's just called so what" -- I don't think he was being flip about it, I just think you could probably do a poll on this thread alone and you will hear story after story of hard times -- failed relationships, childhood abuse, abusive adult relationships etc --- but what matters is what you choose now. That is completely in your power.

I saw that when you were seeing Chris, we hardly saw you at all on here -- you were so wrapped up in him that you forgot about what YOU wanted in other aspects of your life. I say this with complete love and without judgment -- then things sort of fizzled and now you are back (and we love having you back!!) and wanting input on how to create the relationship you are wanting -- It really is as simple as choosing it. Now, I am not saying it is EASY, but it is simple. It is useful to notice what you don't want, regarding your past and your family -- and now you have that *reason* you mentioned -- but it is important to not let the reasons you have come to know as why you haven't had a positive image of a marriage be the excuse why you don't develop and have that in the future.

My parents were certainly not the image of positive marriage. My mom was a single mama to two children before she met my dad. She married him because she got pregnant with my sister and didn't want to be a single, struggling mama anymore. She became a married, struggling mama to three children who was married to an unmotivated, dissapointing, lazy alcoholic who she didn't love and barely liked. This was the early 70's, so because he wasn't hitting her or being traditionally "abusive" and because she had *made her bed* so to speak, she stayed for a while. Three years later she was so unhappy, fed up, felt so hopeless and unhappy she had a one night stand (the only time she ever cheated on anyone) with an attractive stranger and 9 months later I was born. She told my dad it wasn't his, but he wanted to be on the birth certificate anyway and raise me as his own (that was kind of admirable imo) -- however, he was still an alcoholic, unmotivated, not working man she didn't love -- she worked to support 4 children and him while he *cared* for me as an infant for the first year of my life... the second year of my life she finally had enough and left.

He barely visited, he was too drunk all the time. He would say he was going to visit and we would beg him to (my sister and me) and I would ride my tricycle down to the bus stop to wait for him all day and he would never show. I learned that men who claimed they loved you always let you down. I learned when I was 18, after years of that, that he wasn't even my biological father, but can't talk to him about it because he doesn't know I know and despite everything, it would break his heart.

In addition to that my mom was a single mama of four working all the time to make ends meet. We were POOR... like, playing games on drives home from my grandmom's house wondering if our electric would be on or off poor. As a result of that and old school thinking on her part, she was frazzled, impatient, verbally abusive and we got hit a lot out of frustration.

My dad got sober when I was 11 and I am proud to say he hasn't had a drink for nearly 20 years. However, at the time he got sober and wanted to attempt a real relationship, my mom married my stepdad and moved us 1000 miles away. My stepdad is a huge jerk who BEAT, not hit, not *spanked*, BEAT me while my mom just sort of... let him. Didn't like it , but didn't want to raise a fuss because he had moved us from basically the ghetto to a four bedroom house with a pool in a subdivision with safe schools and electric that would always be on and where my mom never had to count change for groceries again...

Point of that digressing and insight into part of my life story (all of which looks like a fairytale compared to what people like Amris have experienced) is that is just called SO WHAT.

CHOOSE the life you want. When I met dh, the first thing I noticed about him (besides the fact that he is a hotty was that he had a diet coke at the BAR we met at... big plus... he wasn't a drinker and still isn't. I chose that night that I wanted to marry him. I can sit all day and said *I just knew* and all that, and maybe part of it was that we were meant to be, but the BIGGER part of it is that I made a choice to spend the rest of my life with him. I liked what I saw and what I felt and experienced, and I figured the rest would fall into place. I was twenty.

We moved in together after 6 weeks, married in a little over a year... DIVORCED after about 2 years because of my emotional infidelity, then didn't speak for over a year, then reconnected. and have been married for 4 more years (in total we have been together about 10 years but for the year divorced) --

We are best friends. He is an uber hot, talented musician and artist, he is caring, kind, funny, helpful, and truly my soul mate -- I know unless one of us dies, or I catch him with the babysitter (which would never happen!) we will be together forever...

I chose it, I manifested it. Even the parts about him I didn't like or sort of wished were different, I manifested those parts into parts that bothered me less or that became complimentary to what I wanted -- I didn't change him, or try to (well except in the beginning which didn't work out lol) -- I simply aligned myself and my vibration to match the vision of how I wanted my marriage to be...

I won't say it is *work* but it isn't just sort of this fairytale in the movies where you gaze into eachother's eyes then life is cake from then on -- I mean it gets MORE like that as time goes on because we are in a *vibe*, and the ball is rolling in that direction so the more it picks up momentum, it is takes less effort to roll if that makes sense.

Point is, you CHOOSE your experience... you choose it, each and every time, especially when dealing with romance --

Your soul mates are out there -- I say *mates* because I think there are several for everyone, my personal opinion. It would be a really messed up God (imo) to put one person among 6 billion that you had to find like some freaking needle in a haystack (and hope they don't live in like Iceland or something!) -- I found *one* of my soul mates, and he became my ONE because when your vibration and focus is on that particular one, he becomes THE ONE because the others fade away.. you aren't looking for them or focusing on them because you don't want or need them...

Intend it. Choose it. See it. Hold it. KNOW IT....

...then release it and be your bad ass self loving every minute of it (life that is!)...

... and it will manifest.

*hugs*
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Tara wins longest non multi-quoted post of all time award!



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