I'm going thru a time with my 2.5 yr old. 
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He has broken my 2nd pair of glasses by ripping them off my face and throwing them down on the ground. I have scratch marks on the backs of my arms from him digging into my arm when I'm holding him and he wants to go down. He throws things at me. He growls at me. He has also recently started biting me. He screams at a high pitch when he cannot have his way,so loudly it really sounds like he is injured. He has constant meltdowns over almost everything. My ds *is* pretty verbal,and he can,and does sometimes express his frustration,but it still doesn't lessen his meltdowns. He verbalizes by screaming at me that he doesn't love me,or yelling in my face.:
As for the giving a reason,it doesn't matter to him. I can explain why something is unnaceptable/dangerous/whatever the case may be,and he freaks even MORE. He will then scream at me,"Why you don't love me mom!?"
Empathy,same thing. He gets more mad at me and asks me why I don't love him.:
I do try to give him acceptable alternatives,but when he has his mind set on one thing,alternatives mean nothing to him. Yesterday at the store he wanted to walk by himself (translation,he wanted to run away from me),and I gave him the choices of riding in the cart of being carried. He ripped my glasses off my face and broke them,then started scratching me while I was searching for my lens. That's how he felt about his choices.
Then,other times,he is SO sweet,loving,and gentle,it's like he has split personalities.
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:He has broken my 2nd pair of glasses by ripping them off my face and throwing them down on the ground. I have scratch marks on the backs of my arms from him digging into my arm when I'm holding him and he wants to go down. He throws things at me. He growls at me. He has also recently started biting me. He screams at a high pitch when he cannot have his way,so loudly it really sounds like he is injured. He has constant meltdowns over almost everything. My ds *is* pretty verbal,and he can,and does sometimes express his frustration,but it still doesn't lessen his meltdowns. He verbalizes by screaming at me that he doesn't love me,or yelling in my face.
:As for the giving a reason,it doesn't matter to him. I can explain why something is unnaceptable/dangerous/whatever the case may be,and he freaks even MORE. He will then scream at me,"Why you don't love me mom!?"
Empathy,same thing. He gets more mad at me and asks me why I don't love him.
:I do try to give him acceptable alternatives,but when he has his mind set on one thing,alternatives mean nothing to him. Yesterday at the store he wanted to walk by himself (translation,he wanted to run away from me),and I gave him the choices of riding in the cart of being carried. He ripped my glasses off my face and broke them,then started scratching me while I was searching for my lens. That's how he felt about his choices.
Then,other times,he is SO sweet,loving,and gentle,it's like he has split personalities.
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