Weekly Thread April 23rd - Page 2

[DoulaClara]

I'm just so tired and cranky. I wish I had the power to breathe fire. That is all- nothing constructive. Not helping matters is that I washed and rewashed prefolds, flat-folds and some motherease AIO's this AM, and tumbled them dry and tossed them on my bed. The PFs and AIOs are awesome; the flat-folds are pilly and linty and shedding all over my bed and floor. Back to the washer they go- I think at best these will function as liners for overnight.

Clara

[bdavis337]

It's getting warm here again, finally. And I wish I had some maternity dresses - I'd forgotten how uncomfy it is to wear shorts.

THe boys are all downstairs playing foosball, and I'm up here eating yet another bowl of fried rice. Someone gave us one of those industrial sized pans of tofu and veggie fried rice, and I'm slowly eating my way through it before it goes bad. I've had at least 2 bowls each day since Saturday. Mark will eat it as well, but nobody else wants to touch it. I can't stand the thought of wasting food......I'm going to gain 10 lbs this week if I keep eating this much every day.

[supermuma]

Hi everyone .

Things are okay here...just really tired all of the time..and I have this horrid back pain that is getting worse and worse everyday. It started pretty soon after I found out I was pregnant and was just a minor bother...but now that has become a VERY major bother that is making it hard for me to move in certain ways. Very bad..and soo painful. I am assuming that maybe it is just from the extra weight out front (Boobs and belly...since they are all huge now!)....I have thought about the support bands, but really do not want to spend the money AND I really do not know if I could handle anything on my belly..I really hate the maternity pants being over it and have to roll them down around my waist.

*Sigh*, the back pain is really making me feel helpless...and I HATE feeling helpless. Nothing has gotten done around the house for the past several days (and it is really starting to show!) because it is often too painful for me to even walk around...I can do things in VERY short bursts and then I must sit or lie down flat on my back (I know, I am not supposed to do that...but it is often the ONLY position that relieves my back for a few minutes..and I only do it for a few minutes at a time!).

Anyway, sorry..enough complaining about my back .

Other than that..I have noticed a bit of a slowdown in baby movements and a change in the feeling of them. I am hoping that it means that this baby has decided to like being anterior rather than posterior like my other two stubborn ones!

I really feel like time is crawling by....oh well!

[manitobamama]

Originally Posted by Shahbazin

I feel like time is both slow & fast - I'm not ready for another child yet, but on the other hand, I want to meet the new LO, & the 3rd trimester is no fun -my DD (a year old in May!) is sleeping well - often goes to bed late (around 10 pm) but once she's down, only wakes once to nurse - I'm dying here though, as between heartburn, no bladder capacity, & hip pain, I'm up every 1 1/2-2 hours - aack! I think I actually got *more* sleep after the baby was born, last time, than during the 3rd trimester. Hurry up July!
Here's a couple of recent pics of Anneliese (DD#1):
http://shahbazinanatolianshepherds.c...sorter4470.jpg
http://shahbazinanatolianshepherds.c.../situp4454.jpg

OK, my big vent, since I know you all will understand:
It's rather frustrating too, since all of my near-to-my-heart activities are not real compatable w/late pregnancy, & I have a hard time getting anyone to help out at all; I *cannot* wrestle an uncooperative 85 lb sheep while wearing DD & 28 weeks along - DH is complaining about watching DD for 15-20 min. in the evenings after he gets home from work so I can get the rejected lamb to nurse -"Why did you breed them this year? You better not raise any for a few more years!" (I've had 1 other rejection case in over 8 years & nearly 200 lambs)- I'm tired, my feet hurt, I'm waddling out to the pasture through the dark & rain to catch & hold this idiot sheep so her lamb can nurse. It looks like a garden isn't going to happen this year either - I'm just too tired to haul manure, dig up weeds, & no one will water it but me. DH does help w/the house, but just isn't a country kind of guy, & I never minded doing all the mowing, pruning, muck shoveling, & etc, (I was working full-time then myself) but I just wish this once he'd step in & help out. He does about 5 hours a week watching our DD, occasionally giving her breakfast while I'm out doing chores (but then doesn't clean her off or change her clothes, or do dishes during) - doesn't change diapers, bathe her, etc. Will play w/her & read her stories. He isn't uninterested, just expects me to do everything; I point out when #2 comes along, he'll *have* to do more, but he's fussing that he might have to cut back on his 2 hour daily exercise routine, or his computer surfing : My mom lives next door, but spends all her time out running errands, shopping, socializing, etc - I do all the billing for her business (she boards horses), answer her e-mails (it's too hard for her to figure out how to answer an e-mail?) & while she will come over for 1/2 hr weekdays in the afternoon so I can run up & feed the livestock, I never get to relax, it's always "hurry, hurry, I've got something else to do" (Do what? I'll never let our kids go next door to her house, she never cleans it - I mean, it's like a haunted house over there, nice antiques, but dust, cobwebs, mice, papers, magazines, & clothes all over the floor...). Dad lives out of state, but maybe when he retires & moves back, he'll help her get stuff cleaned up.
Whew! Enough whining, I know there's folks w/worse problems, but sometimes it feels good to just get something off your chest.

Wow you are an AMAZING WOMAN! I'm exhausted just reading your post!
I was just out helping dh rake the yard and I got tired of hearing "Don't over do it!" I think he just hates hearing me whine when I over do it!

[manitobamama]

Originally Posted by AmBam

Hello ladies!

I don't see my mw for a couple more weeks. I've had very minimal prenatal care this preggy which I'm ok with. It just took us so long to find a mw and now the one I found is a 4 hour drive so we just don't see each other too often. I think I've had a total of 3 prenatals so far! If only my deliveries were easier I could just go UC!! I would love it, but dh would freak! I keep telling him the mw won't make it in time and he'll deliver for me...He doesn't find me funny at all!!

I thought my dh would freak about going uc too, but once he realized that I was committed and serious and 100% confident he came on board. IMO you should just oops wait too long to call the mw! or is that passive aggressive! Anywho you should read Laura Shanley's book it was such a great book! Did you watch the uc twins birth that was posted? The dad really didn't do anything at all! Which made my dh sigh a big relief sigh!

[proudhsmommy]

I'm doing well today and getting things accomplished in the house. It's so nice to purge things that we really don't need or have extras of.

I was very blessed to receive a Beautiful quilt last week from some Very supportive mums on another board in memory of Roo. I'm going to make a post about it and you can see just how beautiful it is. I have hung it up in our room and wake up to it every morning and know that I am loved and being prayed for daily.

Melody is having a hard grieving day and has been extra cuddly. It's so hard to see your child grieving when 99% of the time you can fix things. We openly grieve in front of her and allow her to go through the emotions, feelings and thoughts that she is having about her sister. Every day is very different for her and we just go with the flow on how to support her.

On Wednesday I get to sign up for the breastfeeding seminar that our hospital is doing. They do one every weekend towards the end of your due date and I'm looking forward to it. I'm also reading through LLLI's breastfeeding book and am really enjoying that. I so desperately want to BF this little one and am glad to have the support that I do.

Well, that is all that is new on this end.

Blessings,

Denise

[Mel L]

Will everyone who is super emotional please raise her hand? It seems like everything around me depresses me lately. Stupid little things will make me want to crawl up in a ball and ignore the world.

For example, dh's parents were supposed to bring a car seat for us (they made this huge big deal about me not buying one because they would bring back one of the triplets' seats), Well, they brought back all this stuff (none of which was really needed), but they left the seat. It turns out that my mom is going to be up in the dc area twice before the baby comes so she is going to grab the seat and bring it back. Until I knew that, I was over the edge on Saturday. I mean I couldn't stop crying. Dh kept saying that it would work out, but I was really mad that we were going to have to spend more money than we would have (if I had bought it that day, with coupons and such, I would have saved about $30). Dh likes to tell me that everything will work out (ok...the car seat may), but I just don't believe that anymore.

I may not get the sling I wanted due to a big mix up. I understand, but I really love that sling.

Plus, my sister isn't pg this month. I want her to be pg more than anything on earth. She has one sweet boy, but they have been trying for 3 years for another. She is now on drugs and such, and we were all hoping this would be the month. Why is it that there are so many people in the world that don't mean to get pg do and get mad about it when there are people who would do anything for a baby? Life is really not fair, and I want to be able to make everything better for her. I am really feeling depression hitting me hard, and I don't want to do anything all day. It is also hard because time is moving so fast.

Ok, sorry for the vent! I am just having a rough day. Like someone else said, I know others are having it worse than I.

[trmpetplaya]

*raises hand* I've been WAY emotional lately... partly probably because we're in the process of moving and I hate hate hate moving, but I think a lot of it is being pregnant and tired. Everything dd does drives me nuts lately and dh just can't say or do anything right either.

I also have a giant pile of dishes to do and I should be getting to that soon while dd is napping.

I've been feeling depressed about almost everything the past week too. I'm always either totally elated over something or down in the dumps about something else (or about nothing at all...). When I'm depressed I don't eat enough : So, I'm working on it, but we're also low on funds right now due to moving costs (increased rent, feeding all the folks who will be helping us, etc.) so we can't afford to buy special foods that sound good to me.

I can't wait until we're all moved and done with it!

love and peace.

[bdavis337]

*raising my hand as well*

I cry over the silliest things, and lately I've noticed how BIG my boys are getting and I'm a total blubbery mess over it. MT is stringing short sentences together now = "Mummy drink coffee", "Mark do bath" "Daddy helps you", that kind of thing. He plays so hard outside that he already has skinned up knees and elbows, and bruises all up and down his little toddler legs. He'll be two years old next month! I noticed T at the playground this evening - he looks like a REAL KID, not a little boy anymore. He rides his bike like he's been doing it since birth, and he's got another loose tooth. It's nearly too much to handle sometimes, and it's mostly where my emotion surfaces.

I'm also really, really short tempered, which is far less manageable than just crying at the drop of a hat.

[bdavis337]

As if there isn't enough drama right now.

Tom got up this morning and was all happy, wanting to make me coffee, eat breakfast with us, walk the kid to the bus stop....all the things that he has no real, actual interest in. The stuff that disintigrates after a few days when it becomes tiresome.

In all reality, we can't afford to live separately. It would be a financial disaster, and it would destroy my kids relationship with their father. I can't be that selfish. He's not abusive, he doesn't physically harm me and he's not any type of addict. I want to live my life apart from him, but I have no means to do so. I can't afford to work AND pay childcare for 2 or 3 kids. Tom's job is barely enough for us when we're all in one household. Splitting that household, and his income, isn't workable. We're stalemated. I want out and he knows it. He also knows that I can't get out.

[Panthira]

OMG I'm so embarrassed. DH got me laughing so hard tonight, with you know, the kind of laughter where you almost make no sound because you are just overcome with it? I started to pee my pants and RAN as fast as I could to the bathroom which made him crack up even more, which made me laugh even harder, and of course, I peed my pants AND farted as I ran. OMG, this is awful. I've never had trouble like this in prior pregnancies. It was so funny, yet so embarrassing at the same time! He was holding his stomach from laughter and told me it was ok, he almost peed his pants too. LOL

Oh, and I also made him prick his finger with me tonight with the glucose monitor. I told him it was his baby too, and he should share the joy and the pain. He did it without complaint. I'm happy to report that his blood sugar level is fine. No GD for him.

It was a good day overall. My DH stayed home to help me with the young ones, and we went to a park that had a water sprinkler thing and a couple of playgrounds. Tomorrow he goes back to work (today now, it's late), and I'll be running around, as Tuesdays are our busiest days, but at least the time flies.

I have to watch my 15 mo. old like a hawk. He escaped out of the house, down the sidewalk, and halfway down the block yesterday before dad caught up with him, by running! My 15 mo. old is TINY but he's like a bullet and full of trouble, with a sweet disposition.

[jee'smom]

I swear, men are freakin' idiots!!!!!! I told dh that dd was suppose to wear her new monkey outfit (with cute embroidered bananas on it: ) to school today. I told him it was in the wash and that when I got up today, I'd fold the clothes. I told him to look for the matching monkey and bananas... I call him and he bitches that I left no clothes out for the kids (b/c he didnt SEE them on the rocking chair in the kid's room- they were on the changing table... DUDE, LOOK TO YOUR RIGHT ABOUT 1 1/2 FEET... THEY ARE RIGHT THERE!!!) He was like, "Well, you didn't leave the monkey skirt out." I go, "I told you that it was in the laundry." He's like "Yeah and you left it downstairs in the laundry room". OK, so I didn't carry the basket up... go downstairs and get the damn basket yourself!!! So, he put her in multicolored capris, with an Ariel shirt, that doesn't match AT ALL. Not even close. Seriously clashes!!! My dh is AWESOME at buying clothes for me and dd, so it's not like he CAN'T pick something nice out. I was like, "Why didn't you just put on the plain pink, or white, or peach shirt that could've matched? She only has 4 shirts to pick from and you pick the only one that doesn't match?!!!!!" I swear he does this stuff to irritate me.: It's like he's trying to punish me for not doing what he asked (leave the clothes out.) Like he's stupid and can't pick out an outfit if (God-forbid) I'm running late and don't get to do it for him. He goes, "Well, just like you need to write lists out b/c you forget everything, I need to have all of their clothes left out."

I understand that in the grand sceme of things, this means nothing, but it's so irritating when as a wife you don't do something once, and the whole thing goes to hell in a handbag!- that's actually what this rant is about.:

Panthira~ That is so funny! I love laughing! Did you know that 15 sec. of a good laugh is equal to 15 mins. of workout- cardiovascularly? (or something like that) I read that somewhere... my heart must be in good shape!

Bethany~ I know you want out, but is it a situation that you could live in for a little while longer, just until the baby is a little older, so you can get on your feet? Praying for you and your family. This must be hard right now.

Anyone know why Lelani'smom's birth announcement thread was removed? I feel so bad for her... she came on here to announce her birth, and then it was removed (did they think she was a troll or something?)"

[DoulaClara]

Keri- I think it had to do with some posts by other people. Emotions are still running a bit raw over the incident with a person who supposedly committed fraudulent acts in another DDC. I made a Birth Announcement thread though, so if all is well and good, that should stay up.

Bethany- I know this is a trite and idiotic thing to say, and it's hard to hear anything right now, but time is absolutely the only thing in my life that has helped me through something difficult. Just time. Deal with things on a day to day basis, and you are the only one who knows what to do. Focus on you and your baby, and you and Tom can both focus on the boys together, and eventually whatever is "right" will sift to the top and you'll be able to make it happen.

I feel like the queen of extreme emotions lately. DH is calling it the "Pregnant Crazies." Everything is pissing me off, and it doesn't help that I still have 33 days left of work at the craziest place on the planet. I came home from an aggravating day of work yesterday (the kids were awesome, it was the directors who are making me wonder if I'm the only adult there) and just wanted to scream. But, I called my mom, and talked to her for two hours. I'm so blessed to have her as a mom, I swear. She made me laugh, and told me little things about my and my siblings births, and what we were like as newborns. Nothing I've never heard before, but she was just so positive and reassuring about my birth choices, and it's such a freaking rarity that people are being positive to me.

Not only am I super angry lately, but I feel like if I have any fears, they're majorly heightened. I read a stupid message (like a chain email) the other day that said something like, if I don't forward the message to five people, some little girl will reach through the mirror in the bathroom in the middle of the night and kill me. Daytime- I scoff and laugh. 3AM today- I pee, and dash back into bed like no pregnant chick should be moving. Creepy.

So that's my novel for the day. Now for an ice cream sandwich.
Clara

PS- I should add- nothing scares the crap out of DH like a 3 AM wake-up by a wild-eyed charging pregnant lady rushing the bed like a rhino. It woke the dog up, too. The End.

[supermuma]

*raising my hand too*

This morning I was watching the news and started crying at one of the stories...and I just randomly want to cry at the seemingly smallest things...*sigh*. I feel like I am two!

On a happy note...my friend at work just told me she was pregnant yesterday ...and guess when her due date is???!!! DECEMBER 24th!

--it makes my due date seem SOOOO close, and than makes me SOOO happy .....but I did almost cry when she told me, darn hormones .

[Lissybug]

Goodmorning ya'll. Not in the mood to type, but wanted to say hi

[luckydog]

PS- I should add- nothing scares the crap out of DH like a 3 AM wake-up by a wild-eyed charging pregnant lady rushing the bed like a rhino. It woke the dog up, too. The End.

I'm sorry that you were scared , but that was a funny picture you painted!

[manitobamama]

Panthira ~ too funny!

Bethany ~ I've been where you are and it SUCKS! It was soooo hard when I finally did leave the crappy marriage I was in but well worth it. It took 2 years for me to get sick enough to do whatever I could to be without him. Ok he was a lying cheating sob which made things way worse. I found out for the first time he was cheating when I was 36 weeks and went into labor which led to a horrible intervention birth for my dd2. I also was not in a position to be on my own with a newborn and a 20 month old so I made the best of the situation for 2 years before I had it! I had to move in with my parents with two preschoolers for 6 months it was HORRIBLE! If you aren't happy it doesn't matter if he is abusive the most important thing to your children is a happy mama! When the time is right then things will work out! Now is the time to focus on your precious little one and your birth! PM me if you need to talk. Have you thought about going to see a counsellor even if it's just for you? In the end, my life (10 years laterow 10 years in May) is so unbelievably great! I don't even know who that woman was that survived that horrible marriage! I do know that I am a much stronger woman now! Things will work out for you I promise!

CLARA~ A charging pregnant mama scared to death in the middle of the night is just too funny! I am like this too, I make dh come to the basement to do laundry with me if it's dark outside... I'm such a loser!

[manitobamama]

Oh I guess I could put in my update...
on the weekend we found a great deal on a dishwasher!!! Half price!!!! Dh and dd hooked it up Saturday night, it was fun to have some bonding time with a 13 year old. It is amazing how much she can talk when the power is off and there is not tv or computer!
I have said that all I need for this baby is a car seat, sling and dishwasher (I did not want to be home all summer with a new babe and 4 kids without a dishwasher!) and my friend just loaned me her beautiful bright multi colored maya sling (never used) for the babe!!! Now just the darn car seat and I'm set, hoping dh's granny offers to buy something and then whoooohooooo we will have the seat!

We have been so busy with yard work that I'm soo tired and sore! We also spent the day with my dad on Sunday for his birthday and hiked the hills of our family farm. It was so nice to be out with mother earth on earth day! But now I feel like I stretched all those fun muscles under my belly and between my crotch FUN FUN!

[Racecar]

My girl cat died a few days ago and that's taken the wind out of our sails.

I am basically doing nothing but making lists of things I should be doing and trying to soothe myself that that's enough for now. The closets and painting are what really need to be done. I think I should be able to accomplish that in the next 12 weeks.

My throat is getting a little sore and I am soooo tired.

I also hate all of my clothes. I wish I looked like a different kind of pregnant person.

My ds is treating me so well. He barely bumped into me while helping me cook this morning and he apologized so thoroughly. It made me feel guilty like I am usually so snippy at him! We are all feeling fragile around here because of the damn cat, I think. Our boy cat, even my ds says he isn't that smart , keeps looking around for his friend and mewing. They've been together since the Humane Society. :

[jee'smom]

Racecar

Clara~ that's SO FUNNY!!!