Weekly Thread April 23rd - Page 4

[Mel L]

I took an old dresser, put a contoured pad on top, and used that as a changing table. It was great because it was a better height for us (kind of tall people) than the normal changing table. My parents still have our (as in belonging to my sis and self) changing table, and we are using that for Bella's room. I just like something tall because the bed or cradle or couch are just TOO low for me, and I am not that tall.

Clara- Now I am going to panic. My posture has been bad with this one, but that is because of where she is. If I sit up straight, I seriously can't breathe. Got to love that one. Does running around the house to change my days away from 3 child count as exercise? I also do a lot of cleaning, but I forgot how much exercise is in that. I didn't think that Benji was in the right place though, and he found the right position when my water broke.

I really need to start my hypbirth stuff today, but I am doing a ladies night out so we will see how that goes.

We got about 5-6 inches of rain yesterday which was crazy! Our neighbors' trampoline blew all the way to the back of thier yard with those lovely 50 mph winds. I am afraid to see any damage to the front!

I also made my final sewing list last night. It doesn't look that bad really...if I do a little every day. Hopefully, I can finish everything and not go into early labor from doing too much.

[jee'smom]

I can't stand myself, I think I have a serious problem... all I want to do is clean and organize (I never thought of it as nesting- but maybe that's what it is?) It's like I want to pay someone to come and take my kids for the day, just so I can clean and organize. Last night, I tore apart the kid's games and crafts, and craft center, etc. I got rid of SO MANY crafts! I wish some of you lived closer so you can have them. Seriously! I would love to find a home-schooling mama to give everything away to (I have SO MUCH!!! That's what made me purge to begin with. I have like 8 bags of pipecleaners- who needs that many pipecleaners? And i have a whole dresser full of craft stuff like that, that I have SO MUCH of!!! Maybe I'll take it all to the next LLL meeting and give it all away.)

[supermuma]

Originally Posted by jee'smom

I can't stand myself, I think I have a serious problem... all I want to do is clean and organize (I never thought of it as nesting- but maybe that's what it is?) It's like I want to pay someone to come and take my kids for the day, just so I can clean and organize..)

I am glad I am not the only one...it sometimes feels like I HAVE to clean more..or organize more...and I don't want to stop once I start..and I just want to get it all done..ALL of it..hmm, maybe I will pay someone to take the kids for the day...that sounds like a fantastic idea . I wish I had this NEED to clean more often when I was not pregnant--

[jee'smom]

Yeah, I just feel guilty b/c dd will ask me "mommy can you play with me?" and i'm in the middle of, for example, tearing my dresser apart and I'm like "No, I'm in the middle of cleaning..." and then she gets all sad, so I've been trying to do only so much and stop and play with them, which is SO HARD for me to stop in the middle of a project. I'm the kindof person that once I get an idea in my head, I DO IT. ALL. So, I've been trying really hard to pick ONE thing at a time to do. Do it, and then stop (so not in my nature!) Just wait until next week when I start spring cleaning. I'll have to have my parents get the kids one day and in-laws another, so I don't feel guilty, like I'm neglecting the kids or something, and then haul-a$$ when they are gone!

[amnda527]

Just wanted to celebrate - I've been checking my registry, and someone bought the baby wrap off of it!! : I'm soo excited!!!

[Lissybug]

Sorry so many people aren't feeling well.
Clara- I found it helpful to have enough little baskets in the house so that I could have one near me with some dipes in it wherever I was "parked" at the time. I had all my stuff in one main place, but if I was in the living room I could have a basket in there- not only with dipes, but also whatever I was needing for breastfeeding, lanolin, bra pads, water bottle, etc. At that time when ds was new born we were staying with my parents, and it was nice to not have to go upstairs each time I needed to change him.

Uhg- I slept horribly last night. I got a couple books on birth yesterday (which I was excited to get) but then last night I wound up just contemplating the birth of this baby. I kept on waking up and thinking of it, and you know when you're too tired to think straight anyhow, but you're stuck thinking and it's just a stupid cycle. I'm noticing that I'm having some fears of the pain this time around that I need to work through. I think it's kind of funny because this time I think during labor I'll have that touchstone of knowing my body can handle birth and that I can do this, I think that is powerful for me. However, I don't want to anticipate and get all worried about pain before labor, as I can't afford to forstall labor beginningby being anxious about it- I'd like to be able to be very open and welcoming to it's beginning. I also don't wish to...invite in pain? If any of that makes sense. I guess that I don't wish to increase feelings of pain by worrying about them, and I'd like to be able to look at the feelings of labor in others ways too. I think I had a good birth with ds, but would like to be more aware maybe during this one- wanting to really "get it right" Yet I realize there is NO "RIGHT" way And I don't want to put that silly pressure on myself. So, anyway thanks for letting me begin sorting through these feelings with this rambling.

[~Demeter~]

Ugh, make it stop! I feel so icky right now. My sinuses are so sore, my neck hurts and I'm just miserable. I kept Jakobi home today because he was crying about how bad he feels too. Why is it whenever I have a doctor's appointment I've got kids staying home or off school? Eh no biggie. I'm trying to decide what I want to eat for breakfast, I'm not very hungry with this cold and it's been hard to decide what I want.

Those of you bothered by your cleaning and nesting could always either send me some of your energy or come on over and help me get going. Everything is so slack over here right now..

[jee'smom]

Anyone else totally addicted to watching Psalm and Zoya's birth? I can't get enough of it!!!

Lissybug~ I hear you about wanting to go into this with a different perspective, yet still afraid of the pain. With either birth I've had, I didn't think labor was painful, and I was in a totally "safe" place mentally, until transition (OMG!!!). Then pushing... (OMG!!!) I remember last time being like "Why did I do this again? OMG... this HURTS!!!" Now, they put me flat-on-my-back (after I told them not to, but I was in too much pain to resist), so I'm hoping that that was why I was in so much pain. This time I'm going with a midwife, whose philosophy is "I'm not the one delivering the baby... YOU'RE the one delivering the baby, I'm just here to help if you or the baby need me." and will not interfere with any positioning I choose. I'm SO CURIOUS to see what my body does if left alone...

[IamPink]

It's been crazy here!! The boys have their baseball practices the same damn nights and times at opposite ends of the county every other night. Fun.
Ds2 is supposed to go to the hospital lab today to get a random blood sample to test to see if his sugar is too low. He had some sort of attack last Friday at school and it has me pretty worried. After we get the results from that, we'll go from there.
I had my girlfriends come over Monday and yesterday and got my house cleaned out and tidied up. I am pooped!
My mw is coming tonight for my first home visit and I'm really excited to see her again. I can't remember who said it, but I also have had only a couple of visits because of the distance between she and I.
What else....
Oh yeah. I hate our house. My dh hates our house. I shared a while ago about us not being able to move b/c the house is in our ds1's name, well- f*ck it! I talked my girlfriend into moving in here with her dd and paying the payment for us. Then I had to bite the bullet and call my a$$ of a dad and ask if we could move into the house that I lived in growing up. He has been renting it out and my stepmom told me at Easter that he wants to sell it. I know that it is silly, but that is MY house that I lived in for 20 years and I hate that other people have been living there! It makes me cry.
Well, I think that we worked it out so that we can live there making his payments until we can get out of our mortgage here. Then we will buy it.

Can I tell you what a mental and emotional release that I feel now? It's like any and all stress that we had is soon going to be gone.
Who's up for helping me get moved with the dh and 3 kids in the next 9.5 weeks before I am due?! But, I just can not have the baby in this small house. I am so emotionally disgusted with the whole situation, I know that I can't deliver here without having problems. But being back in my house, I will feel like I am finally home.
Enough rambling!

*hugs* to you guys that are sick and to the mamas that need one.

[manitobamama]

Keri ~ have you thought of trying to give your craft stuff away on FREECYCLE! I'm not sure if you have this in your area but worth a look to see. I have got lots of cool stuff on there and I know a homeschooling mama who uses it to get great stuff.

[jee'smom]

Great idea... thanks! (Yes, I'm actually registered on it, although I've never used it.)

[bdavis337]

i am a HUGE freecycle addict! If you want to be sure it goes to someone who really needs it, you can specify such in your posting. Lots of people on my group say things like "homeschooling craft supplies", and that will limit your responses a bit. You can then reserve the right to pick and choose who you respond back to - there are a lot of users that I won't give things to, b/c I know they just turn around and sell them, and to me that's not the spirit of Freecycle.

[jee'smom]

Yeah, I'll try my local LLL meeting, or church first. See what happens.

[SleepyMamaBear]

Addy is feeling better. YAY.
thats all for now. will stop back by later and post more.

[DoulaClara]

Tiffany- Glad Addy's on the mend! Sometimes those "drive by" illnesses are the worst!

Anyone with spare energy- loan me some, wouldja? Or come and organize? I'm usually not this much of a bum, I swear. I used to have everything labeled and organized. Now... I think it's the lack of sleep. Last night I woke up at 2 AM, and, well, here I am. Never got back to sleep.

Fortunately, we had an early kindergarten day at the petting zoo (which essentially bit big time- it poured, was chilly, and another school was there and spent so much time in the main barn, my kids got to pet exactly one animal- a lamb.) So now I'm home, and can hopefully catnap before I have to make an early dinner so we can go to the HOA meeting. We're still new here, and have never been to one, but supposedly they're doozies. We've been told we have to see to believe. DH wants to just go right on ahead and believe without seeing, but I want our road paved before the elderly gentleman who takes care of it loses one more body part.

Clara

[bdavis337]

My big accomplishment for today..........I switched OB's. AGAIN. Only this time it wasn't insurance related. It was the statement my OB made when I was about 4 months pg, at the first visit we had. Went something like this: "You waited HOW LONG to come in? No, you MUST come in when your cntx are 5 minutes apart. Anything less is dangerous. What if you'd had that baby in the parking lot, your car, or your bathroom? No, you need to be in the hospital room where I can monitor you..........". So I said "I prefer not to consent to continuous fetal monitoring. I need to move around". She says "well, I'll admit freely that I'm the kind of doctor who wants you in bed the whole time so I can make sure things go properly".

I have been SO FREAKED OUT by this for 3 months that I finally called my insurance company and what a stroke of luck but there was 1 remaining OB who will still take new patients. I used to see her, years ago as a teenager, and I remember being quite comfortable with her. She's my mother's age, but her reputation precedes her in a very good way. She's hands off, doesn't push the hospital agenda and although she's very very busy, one of the most popular ob's in the practice, she's very personable and spends good time with her pregnant women. Sooo, I'm feeling quite encouraged. I even spoke to the nurse to let them know I'm declining the 3rd tri glucose test, and I didn't get hassled.

[Mel L]

Bethany- My contractions didn't start until 2-3 minutes apart...in the car...on the way to the hospital! What on earth would your ob have said about that? I am trying to convince dh to wait a few (we only live 10 minutes hitting lights from the hospital), but he quickly vetoed that idea. I just want there to be less time for me to change my mind about the whole natural thing! If I am at home for 30 more minutes, what is the harm in that?

[jee'smom]

Wow... that sound SO much better Bethany!!! Good luck!
BTW, what your old OB doesn't understand is that things won't go properly if you are strapped in a bed the whole time!

[bdavis337]

I KNOW! I didn't even bother to ask her about episiotimies, pushing from a dif position, all that stuff.

[Mel L]

MM Sling co-opers

My day just got SO much better! They found the box! I know a couple of us were going to have to pick something else, but now we don't. :