Heyla all!
Dh went to pick up the rental minivan this afternoon (for our trip to Boston tomorrow) and for some reason they didn't have one available despite the reservation. So they gave him a suburban instead (for the same price). He's bouncing like a kid he's so excited about getting to drive the "real vehicle" instead of the "look I have kids vehicle".
Anyway, we'll visit my best friend IRL (she's in her first trimester with her second babe) and spend the night there, then do an IKEA visit Sunday on the way back to NY. It'll be a long weekend, but I've been wanting to see this friend for a while and there are a dozen IKEA type things we need before babe arrives (like doors for the kitchen cabinets, and a bed frame for our bed).
But after this weekend I think we're technically "set" in terms of having all the baby stuff we need.
Cosleeper, pack n play, diapers pail and newborn diapers, new Isis pump (my old one was pretty grungy), baby bath tub, a dozen onsies and jumpers and sleep sacks, I found a wonderful cloth infantino carrier for DH at a thrift store, and a tiny newborn first aid pack. And dd and I went to a local kiddie coop where I'd been given a "baby gift cert" and got a moby wrap (sage green) and dd picked out a "snuggle" for the baby. Honestly it looks a bit like a dead bunny (it's sort of a fleecy soft pink blanket with a sleeping bunny head attached to one corner) but dd insisted that it was the "right thing" for the baby. So there it is!
Anything I'm forgetting?
Shell Ell- I'm sorry your friend worried you! Maybe when she said "not perfect but okay in the end" she meant that for a while it would seem like you'd need to transfer, or that your partner or midwife wasn't there and didn't seem like they'd make it (so you're alone with your toddler), or something like that? But then he situation resolves and you don't need to transfer, or your partner arrives, or whatever it was that was going on resolves and everything is okay.
And when she said the birth isn't "better" than the last but that it is different...well...focus on the difference and the fact that everything ends well! I mean, maybe this time the birth itself will be easy and fast and joyful...but you'll have a lot of prodromal labor before hand (which might mean you wouldn't realize when the "real thing" hit and so your partner almost doesn't make it!). Or something like that.
And overall I think the reading she did was pretty positivie...floating on a cloud, everything ending well, etc.
But I totally hear you on how a single thing can affect confidence. I was having lunch with my mom last week and mentioned I'm using hypnobabies this time. And she said "well, I'm glad you're trying something different since the yelling you did last time sure didn't work! I could hear you in the waiting room and if I'd been in labor then I think I would have gotten out of bed and slapped you!". I told her I really wasn't all that loud but she kept saying over and over how I was "yelling" and how inconsiderate it was of me to do that, and how the doctor's should have insisted that I have pain meds since obviously I wasn't handling birth (the way she did, in silence and with stoic composure) and it wasn't fair to other laboring women to have to listen to me like that.
I was pretty annoyed (I know I was loud. I know the staff didn't have any problems with that. No one mentioned it then or later, other than to suggest at one point that the tone I was using shold be more "open throated" (more of an ooooooh rather than an uuuuuuu if that makes sense in typing). But this comment is just stuck in my head and now I'm worried that come birth I'll be really inhibited and not able to make the sounds I need or want to make. Most of me is sure I'll just ignore everything and BE in my birth, just like last time, but right now I'm feeling really vulnerable and insecure...because of one stupid conversation. Ugh
So I feel for you...but just keep focusing on your ideal birth, keep in mind that the reading was essentially positive, and maybe (if you think it would help) talk with this friend and tell her that her reading bothered you and has had a real impact on your confidence. Perhaps she can do a deeper reading and reassure you?
Dh went to pick up the rental minivan this afternoon (for our trip to Boston tomorrow) and for some reason they didn't have one available despite the reservation. So they gave him a suburban instead (for the same price). He's bouncing like a kid he's so excited about getting to drive the "real vehicle" instead of the "look I have kids vehicle".
Anyway, we'll visit my best friend IRL (she's in her first trimester with her second babe) and spend the night there, then do an IKEA visit Sunday on the way back to NY. It'll be a long weekend, but I've been wanting to see this friend for a while and there are a dozen IKEA type things we need before babe arrives (like doors for the kitchen cabinets, and a bed frame for our bed).
But after this weekend I think we're technically "set" in terms of having all the baby stuff we need.
Cosleeper, pack n play, diapers pail and newborn diapers, new Isis pump (my old one was pretty grungy), baby bath tub, a dozen onsies and jumpers and sleep sacks, I found a wonderful cloth infantino carrier for DH at a thrift store, and a tiny newborn first aid pack. And dd and I went to a local kiddie coop where I'd been given a "baby gift cert" and got a moby wrap (sage green) and dd picked out a "snuggle" for the baby. Honestly it looks a bit like a dead bunny (it's sort of a fleecy soft pink blanket with a sleeping bunny head attached to one corner) but dd insisted that it was the "right thing" for the baby. So there it is!
Anything I'm forgetting?
Shell Ell- I'm sorry your friend worried you! Maybe when she said "not perfect but okay in the end" she meant that for a while it would seem like you'd need to transfer, or that your partner or midwife wasn't there and didn't seem like they'd make it (so you're alone with your toddler), or something like that? But then he situation resolves and you don't need to transfer, or your partner arrives, or whatever it was that was going on resolves and everything is okay.
And when she said the birth isn't "better" than the last but that it is different...well...focus on the difference and the fact that everything ends well! I mean, maybe this time the birth itself will be easy and fast and joyful...but you'll have a lot of prodromal labor before hand (which might mean you wouldn't realize when the "real thing" hit and so your partner almost doesn't make it!). Or something like that.
And overall I think the reading she did was pretty positivie...floating on a cloud, everything ending well, etc.
But I totally hear you on how a single thing can affect confidence. I was having lunch with my mom last week and mentioned I'm using hypnobabies this time. And she said "well, I'm glad you're trying something different since the yelling you did last time sure didn't work! I could hear you in the waiting room and if I'd been in labor then I think I would have gotten out of bed and slapped you!". I told her I really wasn't all that loud but she kept saying over and over how I was "yelling" and how inconsiderate it was of me to do that, and how the doctor's should have insisted that I have pain meds since obviously I wasn't handling birth (the way she did, in silence and with stoic composure) and it wasn't fair to other laboring women to have to listen to me like that.
I was pretty annoyed (I know I was loud. I know the staff didn't have any problems with that. No one mentioned it then or later, other than to suggest at one point that the tone I was using shold be more "open throated" (more of an ooooooh rather than an uuuuuuu if that makes sense in typing). But this comment is just stuck in my head and now I'm worried that come birth I'll be really inhibited and not able to make the sounds I need or want to make. Most of me is sure I'll just ignore everything and BE in my birth, just like last time, but right now I'm feeling really vulnerable and insecure...because of one stupid conversation. Ugh
So I feel for you...but just keep focusing on your ideal birth, keep in mind that the reading was essentially positive, and maybe (if you think it would help) talk with this friend and tell her that her reading bothered you and has had a real impact on your confidence. Perhaps she can do a deeper reading and reassure you?
I worked yesterday (Thursday) and had a really tough time. Basically, I felt weird from the morning. It seems like, any time I am moving around, I am getting the "weird" feelings. Braxton Hicks? I'm not actually sure! Baby's been moving like crazy, and sometimes that feels like BH ctx to me, too. Resting stops them--100%. (That's why I didn't go to the midwives ASAP.) Nothing else stops them (drinking water, etc.) They are NOT painful--just tight-feeling.
I'm so ready to be on break from school.
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: ? I don't know, but I'm really uncomfortable and I just want to cry 
: I've officially reached the "I'm really uncomfortable" stage of pregnancy. Wahhhh. Anyone else want to whine with me?
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