Can we discuss the pull-out method (aka p&p)? - Page 2

[bananabug]

Originally Posted by fantesia28

I will say that I wish I were in that small percentage where it fails though as I want another baby so bad it almost kills me!! No luck for me though.

I can relate to that! I wish we had an oops one of these times! (DH doesn't want anymore.) The withdrawal method works very well for us, unfortunately!

I have read elsewhere that the pre-ejaculate contains sperm if prior intercourse took place within 12 hours??

[Brisen]

Originally Posted by bananabug

I have read elsewhere that the pre-ejaculate contains sperm if prior intercourse took place within 12 hours??

Prior intercourse, or prior ejaculation?

[sahmof2girls]

what she means is if he had ejaculation without peeing or anything before the pullout was used. Sperm can still be in the ureatha if prior ejaculation occured soon before.

[jee'smom]

It's worked for us for 11 yrs.! Both kids were tried for. This one was an surprise, but only b/c he didn't pull-out in time, and we knew it when it happened. (We had a little too much to drink at our kiddie Halloween party! ) I also wished many times that I'd get pg using the method, but I never did!

[Brisen]

Originally Posted by sahmof2girls

what she means is if he had ejaculation without peeing or anything before the pullout was used. Sperm can still be in the ureatha if prior ejaculation occured soon before.

Thanks for the clarification

[bornbythesea]

We were told in nursing school that this method of birth control is one of the best kept secrets, because it is actually an effective method. (Keeping in mind that no method is 100%) The problem with listing it as such is that the couple and expecially the man must know their bodies very well, making it not a good choice for teens and non monogamous couples. The pregnancies that result from this method are almost always because of not withdrawling or being too late.
That said, it still makes me nervous to rely on this method when I know I'm ovulating.

[ilovetiger]

If anyone is attempting to consider the "pull-out" method of birth control based on how successful others have been, I find that ludicrous (no disrespect intended). Success of the pull-out method is perhaps similar to the success of trying to conceive. Another words, some couples conceive easily WHEN TRYING, and some have trouble. If someone says, "we've been pulling out for years with success", this has no bearing whatsoever on how another should go about their decisions for effective birth control. IF YOU DO NOT WISH TO GET PREGNANT, then look for something more statistically effective.. A method that provides more of the same odds as everyone else out there. The pullout method isn't the right one. This is my opinion. Good luck to all!!

[angie7]

This is the method that dh and I have used for the 8 out of 10 years of being together. The first 2 years I was on bc and I gained 15lbs and my periods were awful so I quit. I am allergic to latex so condoms are out so we are old-timers when it comes to the pull out method. : We did have one oops pregnancy that resulted in a m/c shortly after we got married.

We know we are fertile b/c when we decided to start a family, we got pregnant with twins on the 1st try :

And for the person that asked about "when", he pulls out right before he feels that he is going to, well you know and finishes on a towel...WAY TOO TMI, huh??

[fuller2]

Wow, um, I am trying not be judgmental here, but...if you really don't want to be pregnant, why aren't you using a form of birth control that's known to be actually effective? I guess this doesn't make a lot of sense to me--I mean, there are plenty of options, right? Cervical cap--you can leave it in for 3 days, doesn't affect spontenaity that much, for instance, and no drugs involved.

Sorry. I hope you are not pregnant if you don't want to be. But hey, use some effective birth control next time, OK? Then you won't have to worry.

[Thystle]

My 14 year old is a P&P baby.



You most likely are not pg, but it CAN happen. So just make sure you test in two weeks!

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To use the P&P method you MUST be ready for the consequences!

[sunnysideup]

#4 was a p&p baby. We only had sex once that month. It was the day after my period ended, so we thought it was safe.

The pregnancies that result from this method are almost always because of not withdrawling or being too late.

That was not the problem with us. A few super sperm must have snuck out early.
If you don't want to get pregnant, I'd find a more reliable method.

[cdmaze]

We need to do SOMETHING until we decide whether or not dh will get a vasectomy or not. I just dont cant imagined we'd be able to do this....

[gobbledegook]

Ahh, the pull-out method.

This is how I became a mommy two years ago

I would not rely on using a "pull-out method" as a form of bc at all, way to risky in my opinion.

[BetsyS]

It works for us, and it did work for us for the 3 years before we TTC.

However, it took us 2+ years to get pregnant, so we might not be the most fertile folks out there.

I like the 80% effectiveness with relatively no work (well, none at all on my part). I am willing to accept the 20% failure rate for getting to be a lazy slug when it comes to birth control.

[a_work_in_progress]

P&P during ovulation resulted in my youngest child. However, I was aware that some ejaculate dripped down, when he tried to catch it, and it did come into contact with the area.

[Brisen]

Originally Posted by fuller2

if you really don't want to be pregnant, why aren't you using a form of birth control that's known to be actually effective?

If you *really* don't want to get pg, the only "reliable method" is abstinence or surgical removal of reproductive organs. There are methods that are *more* effective, but none of them are 100%. So when people talk about methods that are "actually effective," it really means "more effective." Anyone having sex, regardless of what kind of b/c they are using (or any at all), has a chance of getting pg. People decide on different methods based on a number of factors -- reliability, ease of use, price, personal preference, religious beliefs, etc. Someone who has big problems with other forms of b/c might very well decide that the greater chance of conceiving is worth the benefits of the method. And of course, I don't think most women who use it are deluding themselves about the reliability of it compared to other methods, any more than most women who use the pill, or a diaphragm, or condoms are deluding themselves about the reliability of those methods. There is still a chance.

I really doubt anyone would tell a woman with an unexpected pg who used a more reliable method of b/c would be advising her to use abstinence if she really didn't want to be pg.