Originally Posted by fuller2
if you really don't want to be pregnant, why aren't you using a form of birth control that's known to be actually effective?
If you *really* don't want to get pg, the only "reliable method" is abstinence or surgical removal of reproductive organs. There are methods that are *more* effective, but none of them are 100%. So when people talk about methods that are "actually effective," it really means "more effective." Anyone having sex, regardless of what kind of b/c they are using (or any at all), has a chance of getting pg. People decide on different methods based on a number of factors -- reliability, ease of use, price, personal preference, religious beliefs, etc. Someone who has big problems with other forms of b/c might very well decide that the greater chance of conceiving is worth the benefits of the method. And of course, I don't think most women who use it are deluding themselves about the reliability of it compared to other methods, any more than most women who use the pill, or a diaphragm, or condoms are deluding themselves about the reliability of those methods. There is still a chance.
I really doubt anyone would tell a woman with an unexpected pg who used a more reliable method of b/c would be advising her to use abstinence if she really didn't want to be pg.