Bad Bad Day... WARNING LONG...

[StephNelson]

I am sorry to vent on here, but I really do not know where else to go...

It has been a very bad day and I feel very overwhelmed... I feel like I just need to scream and cry like a big baby, but I know that will not help...

First I woke up at 4am with something crawling on my leg only to get up and find that is was a scorpion!!!
I got up late, the puppy had an accident that makes me sick to my stomach so I can not get any breakfast down, then I have to rush and drive an hour in the rain to my MW appointment. Once there I am measuring small(30 @ 31.5 weeks) I know that is not too bad and she told me not to worry at all because he is all crammed into one side and that is most likely what is causing that, then baby boy is breech again, and to top it off I only gained 1lb in 3.5 weeks...

I have been ill with allergies and so sick, tired all the time, my back hurts, my ribs hurt...

We live in the country on 170 acres, we rent the house and some of the land, but the biggest part of the land is rented by a rancher that has cows. Well I usually don't complain about the total lack of privacy due to the fact that he or his son or someone who works for them is almost always showing up and making some sort of racket, BUT I have had it with them... I am worried that once we have the baby here they will do the same and wake him up all the time, I know you can not tip toe around babies, but I would at least like to have a week after the birth with no one that I did not invite coming out here. Today I came home and could not get into the gate w/o waiting due to him being here with 3 other men and thier trucks blocking my way, then he stops me to tell me that I HAVE to close the gate when I come/go, well we ALWAYS do, but he says that sometime last week we did not and his cows got out? I HIGHLY doubt that since both of us were here all week due to DH being ill. What he really wants is for us to lock the gate all the time, I don't when I am here due to me being VERY pregnant and it is a VERY long walk to the gate if someone wants to come see me. Plus what if something happened while I am here alone and I needed medical help? They would not be able to get to me... SIGH...SCREAM! not to mention the fact that we live here and he does not so I do not appreciate him telling me what I have to do...

We talked about moving and we may now have to due to all this, that will be VERY hard to do with our goats and this close to baby...

I guess I am just overreacting and hormonal, but I really really feel more upset than I have in a long while..

Sorry for seeming like a big baby... Thanks for reading...

~Steph

[willoLevin]

Oh, honey, take a deep breath! Certainly don't apologize for needing to vent here! We're all happy to listen.

What a horrible day. I'm so sorry. I hope tomorrow is a million times better.

What exactly are the terms of your lease? Can you go to the landlord and have him clarify the details of whether or not you are expected to lock the gate? Is there only one local emergency medical agency/ambulance service that, perhaps, could be given a key?

In many areas, there are also noise ordinances that might protect you from unreasonable amounts of noise by the rancher--there's a legal term about your reasonable expectation of enjoying the property or something like that. Can you discuss this with the property owner? Obviously the cows need to graze and all that, but, if you are asking for one or two weeks of peace, maybe they can stay on a different part of the land? (I really don't know anything about ranching or how likely any of this is!)

At least with the pregnancy stuff, I think you sound like you are probably doing fine. Isn't it okay to measure off by up to a couple of weeks, and it is really a progression of "off" measurements that causes worry? My baby is breech, too, right now, but we still have time! My acupuncturist will give me a moxibustion treatment if we're still breech at 35 weeks. I think most medical procedures are done even later. Most babies turn on their own.

Good luck. Feel better. Vent to us if you need to.

--willo

[Marvelleaux]

Your day sounds really crappy . You really got me with the scorpion...

[herbmama3-7]

I am sorry to hear about your bad day. I completely understand not being happy/comfortable with where you are living. I tend to get very uncomfortable with my surroundings when I am pregnant, (we moved twice in my last pregnancy, and we are moving this saturday). My DH is tired of moving when I am pregnant and is starting to see the theme. These days get the best of us and just remember in the end you can say and ask for whatever you need. You are the mother with the belly and soon to have a newborn, don't be afraid to voice your needs and concerns. One week is very reasonable to ask for privacy, it is a precious time.

[NullSet]

Ack! Hope tomorrow is less stressful.

[mommajam]

Aaarrgh!! I hope things work out better!
M.

[StephNelson]

Thank You

My Thanks to everyone... It looks like today is going to be better... My DH has told me to take it easy today and try to relax. I am not very good at relaxing and not worrying about everything...

Thanks Again... I really needed the support!
~S

[torio]

Hang in there--you had a lousy day and it's absolutely okay to let that vent!

On a more pragmatic note, maybe you can (on a calmer day) talk to the landlord about your concerns (access through the gate for visitors and medical profs, some quiet time for pregnancy and babymoon, etc.) Or ask your DH/partner to have the discussion for you. Give the landlord a chance to accommodate you before you feel forced to make big changes just now.

good luck and be good to yourself! xo