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post #21 of 114
If the camp says you can't opt out they better have a damn good reason why. I can not imagine one that would matter for 12 year old :
post #22 of 114
The camp isn't going to see the medical records, this is all on the doctor, the OP, and her brother.

I would never expect a 12 year old girl to go through a pelvic exam, why expect a boy? Because there's no fingers going inside him? It's still a private area, at a very shy age. Leave his testicles out of this.
post #23 of 114
This is intersting. My daughter is going to have a physical for volleyball camps this summer. The last physical,aound 12, she was very uncomfotable with the pelvic exam portion. She tends to be very private and modest. The dr. she has had since infant has retired. With the new one, this has inspired me to ask to hav ethat portion skipped. Sallie
post #24 of 114
I'm seriously boggling at the idea of a pelvic exam for a 12 year old minus exceptional circumstances. Much less for a volleyball camp. I didn't have a pelvic until I went in for a bcp prescription. I think I was 18 and sexually active. At 12, I would have been traumatized, no overstatement.
post #25 of 114
I would definately let him opt out. I actually see it as a positive and normal reaction that he doesn't want anybody down there at that age. I see no real point having that on his physical anyway.
post #26 of 114
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I'm seriously boggling at the idea of a pelvic exam for a 12 year old minus exceptional circumstances. Much less for a volleyball camp. I didn't have a pelvic until I went in for a bcp prescription. I think I was 18 and sexually active. At 12, I would have been traumatized, no overstatement.
I was traumatized at 5 when they took my pants and made me put on a stupid gown so I could have my tonsils out. Took my mom and two nurses to get them from me, kicking and screaming the whole way.

No way in heck I would let them do a pelvic exam at 12.
post #27 of 114
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I called the camp and they said it was absolutely ok to not have that exam done. I also called the doctor and he was ok with the camp's rec. Thanks though for all of the comments. It made me think....which is a good thing Sometimes I get too worked up about believeing what the "professional" thinks I should do instead of using logic and common sense. I can't begin to express how much better I feel about this whole situation. My brother will be relieved as well. Thanks again!
post #28 of 114
I'm glad its not a problem. In this country no-one has 'medicals' for anything unless you are actually ill. When my son goes on trips I sign to say he has no medical problems or allergies but state that he wears glasses and has a second pair with him. I give the name of our doctor but the doctor has nothing to do with it.

My mind is boggling too that a 12 year old would need to have his testicles examined or a pelvic exam. All contact with doctors is with consent - as an adult or a child. Tell your doctors to keep their hands off your children.
post #29 of 114
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Umm, nobody said he's going to have a testicular exam whether he likes it or not.

Apparently the nether regions/private parts/'down there' exam is a standard part of the 12 y.o. full physical exam as established by AMA. That the young man's camp required a physical exam is coincidental; they aren't asking about his testicular health anyway. The doctor can sign the medical form without having done that portion of the exam.
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Dh and I adopted my brother, who is now 12. Yesterday DH took my brother to get a physical for camp. As soon as the doctor told him he was going to have to look at his testicles.....my brother freaked and left the room and ran outside of the clinic. He refused to have the physical and did not care that he would no longer be able to go to camp. My brother is diagnosed with bipolar disorder, which I realize has something to do with the behavior and the reaction to the physical, but the reality is.......he is eventually going to have a testicular exam whether he likes it or not. Soooooo my question is: "How do I get him to go through with it?' To my knowledge he has never been sexually abused. I really feel this has more to do with his need to stay in control of every situation, as well as the fact that he is embarrased. Any thoughts and suggestions would be appreciated.


Yes they did....
post #30 of 114
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Originally Posted by gumby74 View Post
I called the camp and they said it was absolutely ok to not have that exam done. I also called the doctor and he was ok with the camp's rec. Thanks though for all of the comments. It made me think....which is a good thing Sometimes I get too worked up about believeing what the "professional" thinks I should do instead of using logic and common sense. I can't begin to express how much better I feel about this whole situation. My brother will be relieved as well. Thanks again!
Glad to hear the outcome of this. Always good to bounce off a sounding board when in doubt.
post #31 of 114
At my son's last physical the doctor didn't look or feel.

I would explain why a doctor would want to do this. I would also talk to your brother/son about testical cancer and how to do his monthly self exam, then OPT OUT of that part of the physical.
post #32 of 114
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Originally Posted by smillerhouse View Post
This is intersting. My daughter is going to have a physical for volleyball camps this summer. The last physical,aound 12, she was very uncomfotable with the pelvic exam portion. She tends to be very private and modest. The dr. she has had since infant has retired. With the new one, this has inspired me to ask to hav ethat portion skipped. Sallie


I am majorly shocked that a 12 year old would be asked to have this kind of exam as part of a routine physical.

What kind of information is the doctor looking for with this? I don't think 12 year olds need to be worried about cervical cancer (or testicular cancer).
post #33 of 114
Apologies, my mistake.
post #34 of 114
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I am majorly shocked that a 12 year old would be asked to have this kind of exam as part of a routine physical.

What kind of information is the doctor looking for with this? I don't think 12 year olds need to be worried about cervical cancer (or testicular cancer).
It's not at it's peak at 12, but it is a worry, and I highly doubt a 12 year old would really know what he's looking for if he were to do the check himself.
post #35 of 114
Uh, how hard can it be? The breast self-exam is pretty straightforward--get used to what the usual texture is and if it changes, look into it. DH says the self-exam is simple and a 12 year old could DEFINITELY do it, that's about when he learned (health class handout.)
post #36 of 114
If, at age 12, anyone forced me to strip for a Dr. I would scream like I was being raped. : Not cool.
post #37 of 114
Is there a link on what to expect at well child exams at different ages?
post #38 of 114
I had my physical exam for school sports when I was 12, and my teammates talked about the pelvic exam. Some of us had it and others didn't. I was terrified! But much to my relief, my doc skipped it. It's obviously not a huge deal if some docs skip it.
post #39 of 114
I'm horrified to hear that this is considered part of the general exam aged 12 in the US!!

A pelvic exam is suggested in the UK for the first time that you see someone as an adult! And even then its the cough test (males) and for females is palpation of the uterus *only* which would be part of a general check of the stomach area anyway. There is absolutely no expection of suggestion of anything more intimate unless there was a damn good reason why! Smear tests are suggested to be every 3-5 years and then only once one is sexually active; and never never done on an under 16 unless there is another situation that warrants it (like pregnancy, rape etc. and then only with the complete consent of the female herself, possibly her parent/guardian (or a.n.other adult if she chooses to either not involve her parents, or her parents are those whom are under question).
post #40 of 114
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Smear tests are suggested to be every 3-5 years
Wow 3-5 years? They are just no saying every 2 years is OK. I can't imagine 3-5. Well it makes me feel better for going almost 4 years between my last one.
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