Originally Posted by Yoshua
umm why is he going to have a testicular exam weather he likes it or not?
I did not have a doctor look at my testicles until i was 23 years old and worried I contracted an STD from my then soon to be ex-wife. I had the routine exam for std's and checked out, but I never even contemplated having my testicles examined prior to that.
Having someone look at or touch your genetalia should be a personal choice, and should not be forced on you by anyone.
You can explain to him why it is no big deal, but I would NEVER force someone to undergo such an invasive exam until THEY were ready.
For what it is worth, teens and young men are at a higher risk for testicular cancer and having exams BEFORE helps, like with breast exams, to get a baseline.
At 20 my brother got testicular cancer and it took the docs 4 months of complaints to finally get a clue. He lost all his hair, a year of college, one testicle, and likely his fertility. He was in the hospital for almost a month. It had spread into other areas of his body by the time he got treatment. He was so weak he could not walk to the bathroom and I stayed home from high school some days to wipe vomit off of him while he layed unable to get around.
Lots of people underestimate how important these exams are but by 23, it would have been too late for my brother.
That said, your brother needs to be okay with it for it to happen, I agree that forcing is not the way. While I argee that opting out at 12 is fine, I also think this is an issue that would be worth resolving in a way that recognizes the importance of such exams.