Wow, I just saw a CIRC video - Page 2

[quarteralien]

You are one courageous and amazing mama. : And best of luck to you.

[Nodtveidt]

Congratulations Erika! I'm sorry it took such an extreme measure to get you to see the truth but sometimes, people have to go to extremes to "get through". I'm one of the most psychologically desensitized people around and circ videos even disturb me so I can imagine what it must have done to you. I'm glad you came around though, you've done the right thing for any future boys you may have.

[Bella Mia]

Erika - I can relate. I have just recently started investigating circ and really didn't have a strong opinion before about it. Although I felt that circ might not be right, I watched a circ video today and have felt literally ill all afternoon. It's like a train wreck where I can't stop watching, but I don't want to see any more.

DH now refuses to watch it because he can't handle watching babies in pain - let alone being subjected to such a barbaric procedure.

Thanks for posting! :

[Lovemy3babies]

Previous poster above me....

My husband wouldnt watch it, I thought he MIGHT since it isnt fictional (he will NOT watch shows with children being abused or hurt, but this is truth). He wouldnt watch and at first said "Denyed" for me saying not to do any more boys.

Then he said he didnt care, if I didnt want to, he doesnt care either way... I thought he would be more like that then anything.

[Quirky]

Originally Posted by Lovemy3babies

Previous poster above me....

My husband wouldnt watch it, I thought he MIGHT since it isnt fictional (he will NOT watch shows with children being abused or hurt, but this is truth). He wouldnt watch and at first said "Denyed" for me saying not to do any more boys.

Then he said he didnt care, if I didnt want to, he doesnt care either way... I thought he would be more like that then anything.

Have you read the article by Vincent Bach on the vulnerability of men? It may help explain where your dh is coming from unconsciously.

http://www.udonet.com/circumcision/vincent/index.html

Many women believe that they should defer to their husbands on the circumcision issue because "he has the penis, he knows more about them than I do." But what they don't realize is that these men were deeply wounded themselves at birth, and it was allowed to happen by those who had a primal duty to protect them -- their parents. And what they don't realize is that circed men have a very difficult time recognizing what they have lost, because men don't want to think that their sexual abilities and responses are not what they should be.

So for a circed man to admit that a) he himself was victimized and traumatized by circumcision and that b) his parents allowed him to be harmed, resulting in c) his sexuality and sexual sensations will never, ever be what they could have been if he'd been left alone -- all of these are very big pills for men to swallow.

Add that all together with a culture that values men appearing strong, and not admitting to pain or to being victimized, and you have an incredibly strong motivation for denial of the harms of circumcision. "I'M JUST FINE" they say, with their fingers in their ears going LA LA LA LA LA I don't want to hear anything to the contrary that would force me to give up my protective shell of denial. Much, much easier to refuse to talk about it, or refuse to learn about circumcision -- and to insist that it be done to their sons as well so they don't ever have to look at their own pain and victimization. If they do it to their sons, they can maintain the shell of denial, even at the expense of perpetuating the cycle of violence.

It's so awesome to read how open your mind has been to learning about the truth.

One day, though, it's going to be your responsibility to gently educate your sons when they're of an age to have children, so that your grandchildren don't suffer the same fate.

[PuppyFluffer]

I am so glad you have been open to learning and have watched the video to see what we are so passionate about.

Circumcision is where sex and violence meet.

I completely agree with Quirky's post above.

[Lula's Mom]

Really well said, Quirky.

Lovemy3babies, I'm so happy you and your husband agree not to circumcise any future boys!

[TigerTail]

Originally Posted by Quirky

You're a very strong mama for having the courage to examine your past beliefs and actions.

That. Good for you for watching & thinking & caring. It's got to be the hardest thing to do, admit you made such a mistake.