I thought I was being a good influence

[Nikki98]

Well I've been trying to eat TF/whole foods for the last 7 months. Which means I've been going out of my way to purchase good wholesome food (mostly), even if it means that I have to do food shopping 2-3 days a week (since no one store carries everything). Anyway my dh came home with some groceries that kinda bugged me (fat-free cheese, sugary yogurt drink for the kids, sauces with all types of crazy ingredients). I mean I try not to be too uptight about such things, but for some reason his grocery picks has made me a little uneasy. Really just wanted to vent. Thanks for reading.

[chloeM]

I sooo do not trust DH doing the shopping, he is totally off limits when it comes to that activity. Can we say control freak? I hardly trust him with step by step directions going to the grocery store, I never know what he'll come home with. Hes getting better though.

[425lisamarie]

Well, my DH doesn't shop or cook so I have not problems with that , but I'd be annoyed about it too

[ani'smommy]

Ugh, I HATE it when my DH goes shopping. He doesn't buy a lot of convienence foods, but he does buy cold cuts which makes me crazy because we have a huge freezer full of perfectly good meat. I always make tons of food for suppers so that we can have leftovers for lunches, but he always wants to bring those sandwiches. Could be worse, I suppose.

[abclan]

Did you give him a list?

If I give Dh a list, he buys every single item on it without fail. If I don't give him a list, we get totally random food reminscent of his bachelor days (- mustard, ketchup, triskets, grapes and waffles??? how do I feed three kids with that? )

I always think, "Oh, he knows what we eat." Well, he does but he has no clue how to shop for it. I will credit him with finally knowing which yogurt I like to buy but after years of marriage, the right yogurt is about all I count on when he runs to the store. Hence, the list.

[oyemicanto]

DH at the store with the kids last weekend when I was at work:

Oscar Meyer hotdogs
Cheezits (the jumbo box)
popsicles with Splenda

He was just raised with crappy food, and that's what he falls back on in a pinch. I guess I didn't prepare enough - sometimes I forget that if I leave him to wing it, he makes really bad food choices. What are you gonna do?

At least I know that 90% of the time my kids are eating well.

(just to add, in my particular case, I know he is not doing it to undermine me, he just doesn't know how to think out of the box, and the box he was raised in was filled with processed microwavable crap)

[gardenmommy]

If I want my Dh to buy good food, I have to SPECIFICALLY list exactly what I want him to buy. He, like a PP said, knows what we eat, but he doesn't know how to shop for it. He appreciates good food, but just doesn't have a clue about shopping.

FTR, we've been married for almost 13 years. I'm really just happy that he'll actually shop for me in a pinch! I try not to stress about it; his expertise really lies in other areas, and that's ok.

[tbone]

Recently while I had the flu, dh and ds went to the grocery store to get food, b/c according to dh there was 'no food in this house'.( There was actually plenty, but simply reheating something is too much work for him ) So they came back with:

Two boxes of Cinnamon Toast Crunch cereal bars
A box of cookies
Two bags of chips
A six pack of Soda
And store brand "yellow" cheese.

Seriously, the label says yellow cheese!

[brookescott88]

glad to see this! so my husband!
when he goes shopping i always wonder aloud if we are having a cocktail party.....olives, crackers, cheese (we don't even eat cheese!) and of course chips!
gotta love those crazy guys!

[Rachel J.]

My dh is pretty good about shopping, although I usually send him with a list and forget asking him to buy anything organic. He often returns with the random bag of chips, possibly some soda, ice cream or hot dogs but I'm not complaining too much; at least he'll go (and take ds1). When it comes to preparing the food, that's another story. When I had a stomach bug I was craving some chicken bone broth, a precious commodity to me. He know I don't use the microwave and respects my wishes with that but he nuked it for about 30 sec. to get it out of the container then put it in a saucepan without a lid and it burned as it was defrosted. I was so bummed out that it was ruined but couldn't complain because he was just trying to take care of me.

[JaneSmith1010]

I know!!! My dh does the same things, but lately only for himself. I am not sure why men seem to care soooo much less about health and nutrition than we do. It seems like I spend most of my time trying to figure out ways to keep dh from undermining my goals for my family's health and well being.

[saratc]

I think when my DH is involved, it's not that he doesn't care, but since he doesn't shop regularly, he falls back on old habits. Even after we had been on NT for awhile, he would look fondly at certain things in the supermarket or want to go to certain restaurants. I learned though that if you've been truely hardcore, it's better and easier to just let DH get things that he remembers as being good. In every case lately, DH has found what he remembers as so good completely repulsive now. The impression of the food no longer tasting good seems to make more of an impact than me reminding him of the bad qualities.

[rbriansgirl]

Originally Posted by oyemicanto

At least I know that 90% of the time my kids are eating well.

(just to add, in my particular case, I know he is not doing it to undermine me, he just doesn't know how to think out of the box, and the box he was raised in was filled with processed microwavable crap)

Yeah that!

I finally sat down with DH and we talked about how it made me feel because I was trying really hard to prepare healthy meals and only buy wholesome groceries. He really understood and now he leaves the grocery shopping up to me. He still buys something junky now and then, but he is a lot better now. Sometimes you just have to have a talk because you think that they know, but they don't always.