Originally Posted by LolaK
I have no idea where you live but it is a bubble I would like to live in too. I live in one of the most liberal states in the US, in one of the most liberal towns in said state. Everything in that list except for spanking is 100% mainstream to the 100th degree.
There are many people around here who do those things, but there's also a lot of diversity. My friends in various medium-to-large cities in the US and Canada have reported the same thing. If you go out and about, you'll see babies in car seats, strollers, slings, front packs, backpacks, etc. Nursing, formula-feeding, and pumping are all common (and then there's the occasional young infant drinking green kool-aid from a bottle
). And all kinds of discipline, or lack thereof. It seems as if there's no single definition of "mainstream," unless perhaps you break it down quite precisely by ethnic, socioeconomic, and religious group.
"Mainstream" for Indian immigrants != "mainstream" for Mexican immigrants.
"Mainstream" for conservative Protestants != "mainstream" for liberal agnostics.
"Mainstream" for college professors != "mainstream" for people without a high school education.
Given that we have many families from of all these groups, and lots more, it seems pretty much impossible to define "mainstream parenting practices" based on what the neighbors do.
OTOH, it's somewhat easier to establish what constitutes "mainstream parenting advice
." While parents are unlikely to follow this advice to the letter, many do pay attention to it, especially those who are well-read, conscientious, and without a strong commitment to their extended family's traditions. And these days, those parents (again, from what I've seen) will tend to find themselves becoming more inclined toward AP/GD than they would otherwise have been. (Which is kind of funny, given that one of the basic concepts of AP is to "throw out all the expert advice, and just follow your baby's cues." Of course, we also now have a whole publishing industry to tell us how to cook "traditional foods" the way our mostly-illiterate ancestors did.