I think this is a great topic. I have a 14 month old who is and always has been high needs, so I got pretty used to jumping whenever she cried, which was a lot. But some time a couple of weeks ago, I think it was, she was sitting on the couch, and she was pointing at some Cheerios on the coffee table and whining for them, and I (who was trying to do something at the time) was giving them to her. Then she was pointing and grunting at various things around the room that she wanted and I was getting this book or that toy for her. Suddenly, I thought, "Waaait a minute. She knows how to get down off the couch! She is just sitting there on her little throne demanding this and that and I am bowing and scraping her to her just to prevent a tantrum!" I realized that what seemed like the easiest thing to do at the time may not be the best thing for everyone involved. I decided it is time for her to start learning that other people have needs too. We are going slowly, and I never tell her no, "on principle", only when I truly have something else I need to do, or in instances like the one I described where she really can satisfy her *own* wants. Or when I truly will lose my mind if I have to read "Baby's Book of the Body" one more time that hour. And of course when what she wants isn't safe.