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Originally Posted by Punkymom  Ok, here's my 2cents. I was 6 when I found my dad's stash of porn. 6. He had a subscription to PentHouse and Play Boy and he also had a variety of movies. I saw it all. My mom found out. She was devistated. My dad found out. He really didn't care. He would read his mags in the living room while he watched football on Sunday (we were church goers). I was basically addicted to porn until a few years ago and it continues to be a challenge for me. For me, it ruined my childhood. I thought about this stuff constantly. I wish that my barbies could have been just having a food fight or something, but instead they were having sex. In every position bc at the age of 7 I knew them all. For me, I really wish my mom had put her foot down and made my dad get rid of it. She wanted him to, but he wouldn't. I feel like I was ruled by that nightstand in my parent's room and would sneak these magazines out and read them, cover to cover. I really wish that they would have put their foot down and gotten rid of them. If he's that upset by looking at them, then it sounds like something he wants to stop doing. It's like drugs. You're addicted to them, but you want to stop. So you're caught and instead of getting help like you're seeking, you're told that it's perfectly normal and you're allowed to continue. If it were me, the decision would be that until he's at the age to make that decision on his own then he's not allowed to have it in the house. My brother also feels the same way about the porn, he knew about it and sneaked it, also. That's JMO and I could be off about him wanting to stop, but if he wants to stop, he's just having trouble stopping, he needs some help. Help him by not allowing him to see it at all. He'll be better off in the long run if that's what he's trying to say.
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I am sorry for everything you went through, truly am. But when a child shows curiousity in something I think it is time to inform them about the truth of they are curious about.
I am not advocating handing a preteen porn. far from it. But their curiousity is not going to stop just because you want it to.
I agree he will be better off in the long run if he managed to stay away from porn completely until his early/mid teens. And by porn I include maxim/fhm and basically any magizne defined as a 'gentlemens' magazine, which is a concept I never understood.... why they call them gentelmens magazines.
But once the can of worms is open, as you know, it is nearly impossible to close. I would have an in depth conversation with him about why you dislike the porn industry, which it sounds like you have already touched on a bit? and I would ask him what he wants to do about the situation and if he didn't feel comfortable talking about it maybe he could write it down?
This is a very awkward stage and adding the education about sexuality is confusing. And then putting 'fake sexuality' which is what I deem porn is even MORE confusing on top of that.
I don't have alot of advice because I have NOT been there, I know what my dad did with us worked and didn't work at the same time, but I was about a year older than your son and my brother was also there to talk to about it. I never would have talked to my parents about wanting to look at porn and I would have just told them what they wanted to hear instead of the truth at that age.
), but are there any issues with the 13 year old, that you know of? Do you feel there's any reason to be concerned about having your boy around him? That would get my spidey-sense tingling just a teense, but of course, I am a bit (just a bit! I swear!) overprotective.
: Don't support Playboy, people! Let's not give our money to an industry that is brainwashing us all with its misogynist propaganda. Why should Playboy define American sexuality?
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