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post #21 of 362
Christina - how do you like the monitor? I'm - determinately frugal, and I nearly swallowed my tongue when I saw the price. Did you start with OPK's and then move to the monitor, or have you been using the monitor all along?
post #22 of 362
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Kiya, I just got the monitor last month. I really never thought I would need one, since I've been charting for several years. But after several months trying, I thought I'd try the monitor just to see if there was some fluke and I wasn't actually ovulating, or if I was ovulating at a different time than I thought, based on my other signals. But, as it were, the monitor just confirmed ovulation on the same day that my temps did. So, I'm not sure right now if it was worth it. But, I bought it on ebay for $90 incl shipping, so for me, it wasn't such a bad deal.

Last month was also the first time I used OPKs. I was starting to think my monitor, or the test sticks, weren't working - since I got them on ebay, they were expired, so I got the opks at the last minute. : I was on a spending spree last month.

So, that all is to say, I'm not sure if the monitor is worth it. Some women swear by it. But if you have long cycles, it'll cost quite a bit for those sticks. The machine insists on testing in stretches of ten (a marketing gimmick if you ask me) but I'm not sure if it'll blow up if I don't use all 10. or 20.



But of course, I'm going to continue to use it anyway.
post #23 of 362
Hello, All-

My name is Jasmine. My hubby (Kev) and I are TTC #1 (I'm 33 and he's 39). We're both very excited and scared, but more excited than anything else. I didn't think we could be any closer than when we got married 2 years ago... I was wrong.
post #24 of 362
Thread Starter 
Welcome Jasmine!

I'll add your name to the first post.
post #25 of 362
Good evening ladies! I hope you're all doing well. I'm feeling great: just had some yummy sushi with my sweet DH, work is going well this week... did a little painting after work... enjoying a good book this week... not sure why but I'm in a great mood... :

Judy - Is Linden out in the country a bit? My mom and sister are kinda close to you in Waterford. It's so pretty up there! I hope that Robitussin works for you! It's supposed to increase CM, right? Timing is lookin good.

Xenon - a walk with DH sounds very nice - even if you didn't go for a run. I hear the *bit of hope* & *some neutrality* & *a little resignation* in your *voice*. Don't we all know that little dance of emotions at that time of the month!? Maybe you'll be PG - that would be really wonderful!! Maybe you're not - you'll be ok in that case too... Sigh. I feel for you, I was in your place a few short days ago...

Jentina - I also hope your stay here is short! We are very open here, and you are welcome to tell me "none of your business" but may I ask why you are using frozen sperm to ttc?

Kiya - Glad you are gettin into the lusty theme this month! I can already feel my estrogen kickin in too! :-) Spring fever, baby! So glad you had an actual 5 day period this month! You asked me if I plan to do anything different this cycle? Hmm.. good question, I'm glad you asked. I hadn't really thought about it... We'll see the OB/GYN right around O time so I don't think he'll have any advice that will help at that point. I may try to drink a little less and encourage DH to do the same. I have about 2 drinks a week and DH probably has one per night. I'm not sure if DH should give up caffeine or not - but I don't think he could!! He could cut back tho. But I heard recently that caffeine is supposed to help get a boy baby and we would like that (and we'd obviously like a girl too!) Every other day sex worked ok for a little while last month but it was hard to sustain! So we probably won't do that again this month... : I'm a little worried about working out too hard... I'm probably giving myself too much credit... my workouts really aren't that strenuous. And I don't want to give them up. But I'll ask my obgyn what he thinks. Any suggestions?

Christina - Looks like you are gearing up to O! Go bananas! And get lusty girl!

Sarah - Looks like you O'd! Your timing looks great!!!

Jasmine!

See y'all tomorrow!
post #26 of 362
Good morning ladies

Thanks for all the well wishes and the dusting from the grads, I you forever! I'm pretty positive I O'd yesterday but ff wanted to put my O date two days before the +OKP so I changed the tuning method. I also realized I entered in the wrong temp yesterday so I fixed that. This morning when I woke up I just felt HOT so I'm pretty sure yesterday was the day. I'm going to violate the neutrality clause by saying that this month feels completely different than last, comparatively last month felt like things were groaning back to life in there and this month it feels like they're working properly so I'm staying optimistic. I won't be reading into any signs for the next two weeks because you all know what happened last month

Xenon I can't help it, I'm very hopeful for you this month. Cover line or not, your chart makes other charts jealous.

Welcome Jasmine and Jentina!

Kiya yay for lusty deeds

Christina I hope the "computer says yes" for you soon.

Judy happy BDing :

And so much for lurking, I knew the 2ww would have me back here obsessing!
post #27 of 362
Happy Friday-eve! TGIFE?

Oh, yay, Kiya found us again, and Sarah is out of lurk mode! Kiya, thanks for chastising me about the temperature thing. Intellectually, I know you're right, but this part of the TWW is not dictated by intellect... all emotions, all the time!

Welcome Jentina and Jasmine! Here's to a short, sweet, enjoyable stay for both of you.

Christina, you must have had best-logged ovulation ever last month Are you going to trust the monitor this month, or double up with OPKs again?

Jen, wheee for your high spirits! Your plan for the month sounds good. It's always nice to have a strategy, isn't it? I actually did a bunch of things opposite to your plan this month... I started drinking coffee again and I lifted the moratorium on alcohol in the TWW (at least the first week of it). I decided to add back in caffeine and alcohol because I had been avoiding them for a few cycles, and, based on results, it didn't make a difference.

Sarah, welcome to the TWW. I hope your stay is neutral and fruitful! It's such great news that you're feeling normal this month... a month without unprovoked crying jags is always a good month

Thanks again, everyone, for looking at my chart and thinking positive thoughts, and thanks Jen for the empathy on the muddled emotions. You called it!

In an attempt to promote neutrality, I've decided to stop temping, so my lovely chart will be preserved in time like a fly in amber. Yesterday I moved my thermometer really far away from by bed, so that I couldn't get a good temperature this morning even if I wanted to My morning was so much more relaxing without the thermometer! I'm going to be off temping for the next couple of cycles anyway, due to imminent travel and disrupted sleep schedules, so I figured I would get going a little early.

Have a great Thursday, everyone!
post #28 of 362
Thanks everybody for the warm welcomes!

Jencat--Good question! Since my partner is a woman, we have to "outsource" our sperm production. Frozen was the best choice for us.

We're actually using the Clearblue Fertility monitor for the first time this cycle. Frozen sperm is a little pricey, so we thought if this saves us even one month of trying, it'll pay for itself. We had some friends who tried unsuccessfully for a year and then got a BFP on their second cycle using the monitor.

So far, I'm not sure how I feel about it. The egg picture on peak days is really reassuring. But, it put my peak days at yesterday and today, though, instead of Sunday-ish as I'd thought. Since it's not supposed to be all that reliable during your first cycle, I'd been trying to just ignore it. Now I'm very much paranoid that we tried too early. With frozen, your timing has to be fairly precise since the little guys only live 12-18 or so hours. But we'll see in two weeks, I guess!

Happy almost Friday to everyone!
post #29 of 362
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Xenon, you’re not temping? I logged in just so I could stalk your chart! I totally understand.

Jentina, I definitely think the monitor is worth it in your case. That was the pro side that I failed to mention yesterday – it is very helpful to know when I’m about to ovulate, rather than just saying “well, I think today is peak day, but I’ll found out tomorrow, if my temp rises” like I always did before. This month I think we’re going to cut back BDing to every other day. And in future months (esp if we get the results from a SA) we might even just wait until peak day, or go every 3rd day.

And I agree, it was definitely reassuring to see the little egg picture on peak day!

Sarah, I think it’s great that this month feels different. That you are in tune with your body to feel the changes….

And I think FF is just trying to rely too heavily on the lowest temp again. They seem to do that a lot. Your O date looks right to me.

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Originally Posted by xenon
Christina, you must have had best-logged ovulation ever last month Are you going to trust the monitor this month, or double up with OPKs again?

I have 3 OPKs left from last month, so I might just use a couple of them to back up the monitor.

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I found out yesterday that OPKs (and HPTs) are covered under our flexible spending acct. This is an account that we set up in December through our employer to set aside pre-tax dollars for health care expenses. We decided back then to just bite the bullet and put aside enough to cover a homebirth (assuming one wouldn’t be covered under regular insurance). The money for 2007 has to be used by March 08, or it’s lost. So, we have until July to get pregnant. If not, then we’re going on a shopping spree for anything else they cover. Acupuncture is covered (massage is not), so I might look into that next month.
post #30 of 362
Jasmine!!! May your stay here be short and sweet!!!

Jen - ooooh. Sushi. It's so funny - our FAVORITE sushi here comes from a gas station!! There is a sushi-prep spot behind the counter (like in the gas stations that sell fried chicken/sandwiches) and the sushi chef (who also owns the gas station) makes fresh sushi daily. I LOVE his BBq'd Eel - so not traditional, but SO appropiately Memphis.
You should try every other day for - 2 weeks, maybe? Right around the time that you figure you should O? That way, you don't have to sustain the effort over an entire month (or however long your cycles may end up being!)


Sarah - no matter WHEN you O'd (FF's date or yours) it looks like your bases are NICELY covered.

Xenon - I know!! It's so - interesting - for me, esp. since NORMALLY I'm a VERY logical, very see it/touch it/feel it person, and during the TWW, all of that goes out the window and it's pure emotion & vibes. *pokes* And ahhhh!! No more temps? : Oh, the suspense.
I think I tried that for one day in the last TWW, and no. NOT knowing my temp drove me even crazy.

Christina - OOOOH!! That's brilliant - using your HSA for a homebirth, that is. I really should start doing that, as I'm pretty certain that HB isn't covered under our insurance. Hrm, I'm definitely going to have to check that out.

Has anyone else noticed themself becoming more superstious/omen-noticing? I'm not sure if that just rides into being more aware of EVERYTHING, or if I'm just pulling at straws in a mad attempt to break the veil of the future.....
post #31 of 362
Sounds like we are all looking quite forward to Friday. I'll second that motion! Happy pre-Friday!

Sarah - sounds like you are very judiciously complying with the Neutrality Clause this month. Good for you. (We all still have our fingers crossed tho!)

Xenon - you're so strong! I love it that you decided not to temp. Ahh, the waiting... We're right here with you! (I am TOTALLY sick of temping, it interrupts my sleep, so it seems like a great idea!)

jentina - Ah ha! That explains it! So, since sperm is expensive, do you only get one try per month? I can see how OPK's and a fertility monitor would be essential. Now again, feel free to tell me to bug off... but... (is anyone else wondering this?) do you thaw the sperm before inserting it? I'm cringing a little at the thought of icy cold sperm being inserted you know where! Welcome to the 2ww! Feel free to obsess as much as you like... We all enjoy a little obsessing sometimes...

Christina - here's hoping you get PG asap so you can pay for the homebirth out of your flex dollars! If not, that will be an interesting spending spree...

Kiya - gas station sushi sounds awesome!! I hope it's cheaper than some restaurant sushi... I spent way too much on our sushi last night... I'm cheap so I don't like to spend a lot on eating out (even tho we really like to do it!)

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Originally Posted by Kiya
Has anyone else noticed themself becoming more superstious/omen-noticing? I'm not sure if that just rides into being more aware of EVERYTHING, or if I'm just pulling at straws in a mad attempt to break the veil of the future.....
YES! I think it's both... My omen this month is that today is May 3 and CD3! I love it! I don't have to check FF to find out where I'm at... I hope it's a good sign. It could also be an omen that my birthday is this month - what a great month to get PG! (right Judy!?) (I'll be 36 this month!)
post #32 of 362
Yes, I think I overthink a lot of things! Good omens, dreams, etc. I dreamt about my Mom who died 7 1/2 years ago the other day, and if we have a girl we plan to name after her (Maureen)--so there is another omen, right?! LOL.

Jencat I'm not really out in the country (but it isn't as compact as the Detroit/A2 area)--but I suppose it was country not that long ago. There has been a lot of development around here in the recent years. I'm right on the Fenton/Linden border.

Hope everyone is having an amazing day!
post #33 of 362
Thread Starter 
Oh Judy I love the name Maureen, it's a beautiful name.

Hmm, it's interesting, I used to have baby dreams quite often. But, since we started trying last year, I really haven't had any. Is that an omen in itself?

Maybe my energy is all tied up and I need to work on it (another reason to consider acupuncture.) I really wouldn't be surprised if that was the case right now.


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I meant to mention this the other day, since we're all about the 80s pop culture here.

We played this game called Commercial Crazies this weekend. My BIL picked it up off Ebay. It's a VCR game from ~85, featuring all these commercials from the guy who made the Where's the Beef ads. I never realized that the same people made all these commercials, but when you watch them, their similarities are obvious. Very plain set design (almost cardboard-like), tuba music in the background....either fast talking (the guy from the Micromachines ads) or slow talking actors. It was hilarious. If you've ever played SceneIt, it's just like that....they play the ads, then you have to answer random questions, like what color the guy's tie was.

What a great game...brought back a lot of memories. And I never heard of it before. (we didn't have a vcr growing up.)


Oh, and the one ad was for a computer....it was so ancient looking...and a steal at $1200!
post #34 of 362
Thread Starter 
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If not, that will be an interesting spending spree...
I know, right? At first I was thinking we'd buy everyone we know an eye exam. But apparently you can buy sunglasses with the flex money. So, I think maybe I'll go nuts with those.

post #35 of 362
Ok.

Look, I started a new chart! I'm not expecting much yet. I think I'm supposed to wait and see for a cycle to TTC again, but, in 2 weeks when we're allowed to DTD again safely, you'd better believe we will, and without a raincoat too!

So. Whatever will be, will be.

I'll catch up with everyone so I can do personals again.

Oh, and the most annoying thing physically now...no Diva cups or tampons. I feel like a kid with big thick Kotex again....meh.

post #36 of 362
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Ok.

Look, I started a new chart! I'm not expecting much yet. I think I'm supposed to wait and see for a cycle to TTC again, but, in 2 weeks when we're allowed to DTD again safely, you'd better believe we will, and without a raincoat too!

So. Whatever will be, will be.

I'll catch up with everyone so I can do personals again.

Oh, and the most annoying thing physically now...no Diva cups or tampons. I feel like a kid with big thick Kotex again....meh.

YAY!! For the new chart - it's still nice to get those temps on there, no matter what, eh?

And yeah - I know that is one thing I'm dreading (already) about PP bleeding - I can't use my cup!! Whhhyyyy???? :
post #37 of 362
Kiya,

I KNOW! Whyyyyyy? Rationally my brain understands the risk of infection...but. I seriously think it makes it worse. I don't think I've used a pad in ages. AGES.

And now, I start chart stalking again!
post #38 of 362
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Kiya,

I KNOW! Whyyyyyy? Rationally my brain understands the risk of infection...but. I seriously think it makes it worse. I don't think I've used a pad in ages. AGES.

And now, I start chart stalking again!
I hated that part SO MUCH I can't even tell you! And please, don't get me started on the ones I bought with the wrappers that said "have a happy period". I swear my head nearly popped off over those ones.
post #39 of 362
Morning everyone! TGIF!!

Xenon - how ya doin? Day 26 right? How long will you wait for AF before testing? How do you feel?

Hope everyone is doing great. What is everyone doing this weekend?
post #40 of 362
Thread Starter 
TGIF Indeed! I'll definitely be working on the garden this weekend; sleeping; hopefully putting up a clothesline; sleeping; and oh yeah, BDing!

Yeah, xenon, how are ya? :

Michelle, welcome back :
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