Originally Posted by wsgrl84
Emily, Tell me how you get energy to last through the day and night with 2?! How is your kids' sleeping at night? Do you cosleep or share a family bed? We have a King family bed here and it's starting to not work out for us...but I don't have any other ideas.
Oh, hugs to you, Nonny. I think of you daily, and remember how it was when Sarah was a month old. You're not out of the woods yet, but I PROMISE it will get better. I started getting "good" when Sarah was about 3-3.5 months old. Not that my experience is the end-all, be-all of parenting two kids, but I really began to get it together around then. Adam was beginning to get a little more used to her and realizing that she wasn't going anywhere and he started to calm down a little. I began to realize that I was doing the best I could, that I was going to be just fine....
--And energy? Simply - like everyone else here, I do the best I can. Some days are great - my house is tidy, the kids are happy, and we eat beautiful, nutritious food and do stimulating, wonderful kid activities. Other days...well, let's just say Adam likes organic mac & cheese and is allowed to open any kitchen cupboard he wants while mama has another cup of coffee.
On those days, I throw in a teaspoon of regular grounds with my decaf and pre-emptively apologize to Sarah for any issues I may cause by drinking a little caffeine. She just smiles at me and I know I am forgiven.
--And sleep? Better. Adam slept with us in the family bed until he was 10-11months, and from then, I started putting him to sleep in his own bed; he would come in with us at his first nightwaking. Now, he usually comes in at his second. The first, I'll do with him in his room - the second, I say to h@ll with it and bring him in...
Sarah has an Arms Reach cosleeper next to the bed, and she starts off the night in there. I bring her in with me on her first nightwaking, and she nurses all night after that (4-5 times, typically). So I am not sleeping all that great, but here's my secret lately --- I make Sarah take a nap (as best I can) when Adam does --- and we all sleep together for 2 hours during the day, in mama's bed. I had tried for a few months to have "me" time during the day during A's naptime, and I was just too tired. So I am back to sleeping when they sleep during the day, and that is helping. Survival mode.
---Nonny, I know it's cliche, but take it one day at a time. You are going to have awesome days, and you are going to have days where you ask yourself why on God's green earth you spaced your kids this close and how on earth you are ever going to survive AND raise productive, happy, attached children at the same time. But I promise it gets better. Do you wear Justin? Put him in the Maya/Ergo/Moby/whatever you use and do your thing with Christopher. My Ergo and Moby are life-saving around here. And find things to do that you can look forward to on a daily basis!! Even if it's just a coffee from the Starbucks drive-thru, make sure there's something awesome for *you* every day. I promise promise promise it gets easier. Adam is beginning to try to play with Sarah, and he dances around the room laughing now because he knows it makes her laugh. When she laughs, he laughs harder and tries even harder to make her laugh again. I am so happy I get teary during these moments - I do not think there is anything better in my life than hearing my two children laughing together, with one another. You are going to experience this, too - in not so very long - so hang in there, and take good care of yourself, and don't get hung up on the silly things, and remember that it is going to get easier!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
to you, too, Rivka -- I hope that there is an end in sight or a solution to your situation soon, despite how it looks at the moment. I hope you can find some time to yourself during the day (I think I'm busy, and then I remember you have five....) to do whatever you can to de-stress a little.
to you, Jamie. I'm sorry it's hard clearing out the maternity/baby stuff.
And easing stress? Hmmmm... Napping. Reading. MDC. Phoning friends to wash dishes/do laundry together over the phone. Outside time has been great lately - we've been out daily, and I feel better than I have in months!
Can I just say again how glad I am it is spring?
Love to all.