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Hello everyone!

Andrya brought me out of hiding!

I had been mia for a long time because I felt I just didn't fit in. I suppose I do..I guess it had gotten to me. Where did we leave off?? Who knows...

ok, hubby dear finally got an awesome job at a place called CSL Software Solutions in Burlington, VT and he's a project developer and wow, it's a fantastic job. It's a company that provides statistical sales reports for pharmaceutical sales companies (yep..he's a geek!) anyway.. LOL though he's making over 10k a year more than the last job, we were out of work for so long that we're still struggling and feel like we're sliding backward. It's tough but we'll make it all somehow...

me: well, I had a massive nervous breakdown. I tried to commti suicide 2x and luckily Nathanael was the one to save me. Just looking at his angelic face brought me back I guess. I found out I have premenstrual dysphoric disorder and though they wanted to admit me in the hospital and keep me for 11-12 weeks I resisted and now I'm on hormone therapy and I am a new and much better person. I can actually wake up each day feeling happy and that hasn't happend in YEARS. What had put me over the top was my mom being admitted to the hospital for pulmonary edema, once they got the fluid drained they found she has pulmonary fibrosis and so hearing your mom has something terminal is just devastating. She's now in a nursing home rehabbing and hopefully will one day return home to live out her days.

Nathanael, our Aug 05 boy. Well, what a sweet and wonderful ray of sunshine he is. He's developmentally around 10-11 months? He can't kneel or stand yet. He's trying! He doesn't say anything other than dada and sort of a "hello" holding his hand to his ear like the phone. He's about 19 lbs soaking wet but keeps growing bit by bit in length. He's got a lot of 2yr old stuff going on like he doesn't want to be fed to sleep at night now, he's very independant. He plays until he can't play anymore then comes to me, I hold him and off he goes. If I sit to play with him he goes off on his own adventures after a few minutes. He just has his own thing going on. He's bringing in the 2 yr molars too..poor guy!! He doesn't really eat solids all that well. He was for a while but slide backwards. He's going to the hospital week after next for a swallow study to see if it's a defect or if he's afraid of choking. He aspirates a lot and we're not sure what's going on. He likes songs, and is learning some sign language. He understands more than he does. Like I told him to roll the ball to mama using purely sign language and he did it. I cried! He has some hearing loss too. He went to a specialist after I wasn't happy with the State's Hearing Outreach Program. They noticed he wasn't truly hearing low tones and only barely passing on higher tones yet they wouldn't refer me to a specialist. I was ticked! So I had the peditrician get us in and voila! They did a tympanogram and his ear drum wasn't moving at all..meaning a lot of middle ear fluid which is common in those with down syndrome because of very narrow canals and the angle at which they lie. He did a fair job on the hearing exam, he'd hear sounds on the left but look right for them. So..anyway, he's getting these tiny tubes put in that will eventually fall out on their own when they're ready and hopefully he'll drain and he'll get to where he can hear properly!!

He's also not seeing all that well, when he looks at things like books he has to get right on top of them. So we're seeing a pediatric opthamologist in a few weeks.

He loves to dance and sing (babble) and is just a pure and utter joy. He has opened my eyes to this whole new world, the world of kids with special needs and I cannot tell you how grateful I am. First of all, because he's so delayed I get to have a baby longer! Also I've met some amazing people, gone through some tragedy, like having friends with down syndrome pass on ...my heart's been shattered by this but it IS a reality. I've witnessed cruelties in the world regarding those with mental disabilities (just go to youtube.com and search for down syndrome and it'll make you ILL). I'm just glad I get to be an advocate and I get to love this amazing boy. I am just scared about what may happen when I'm gone (those aforementioned videos online scare me to death). It's helped me focus on all the kids in general and hope I can teach them the way to advocate for their brother and shed light on those with differences and maybe help humanity in some way.

My other kids are all getting big and it brings tears of joy to my eyes. Soemtimes it's tears of wanting to pack it all in but mostly joy. I see my once pudgy 5 yr old blossom into a tall little 6 yr old finding herself as a reader and artist. I see my 13 yr old navigate the confusing world of teenagerhood and trying to get the help he needs to deal with his problems. I see my now 12 year old daughter mature and grow and the intracacies of watching her bounce between child and young woman. I see my 9 yr old approach 10 and how graceful she is and how beautiful that grace is..except for when her irish temper flares!!! I get to see my 4 yr old slip out of toddlerhood when I wasn't looking and become a sweet adn wonderful little man.

I get to see my husband, see him through this horrible ordeal and nurture his soul back to health. He's not the same guy he was and hopefully we'll be better for it....eventually.

So..I guess we fit in, we're all different in different ways. I'm still the mom to an Aug 05 boy who is still very much a baby, wearing 12 month old clothes and cuddling as much as ever.

sooooo did I miss anything hahahahaa!!! Love and hugs to all! Kitty and nathanael and the whole kit-and-caboodle!
post #102 of 110
Hey Aeriane! Glad to see you, I was wondering how things were going. I'm glad that things are improving for you and that you are feeling better! It sounds like you've been through a lot.

I'm glad that you are back!
post #103 of 110
Tracy! So nice to "see" you! Thanks for posting that - that was great. I mailed it to all of my mom friends.

Kitty, it is nice to have you back, too!! I'm so glad things are improving for you - Nathanael sounds like he is doing beautifully.

Adam is still calling me "mom" ?!?!? I hear "Mom?" from the living room and it's coming out of this tiny face...so odd. He is getting so much more sure of himself in public these days - I wish you all could see him.

My shy guy who has tended to stay in arms or quietly holding a leg while outside of the home walked into the grocery store today and announced "HI!" to everyone at the register. They all know him, and everyone picked their jaws up off the floor in time to return the greeting. He was so pleased with himself.

And he is HUGGING people and giving five and greeting people hello and good bye -- again, I am honestly amazed. He walked up to my friend the other day and simply said "Up." -- he has NEVER done this to anyone but me or dh. Amazing! He's also forming 2-4 word sentences and as of today, Sarah was promoted from "Da" to "Da-wah"! So cool!

And Sarah is almost crawling! She scooted/rolled about 5-6 feet today. And then laughed and laughed and laughed.

I love my life!

Love to all.
post #104 of 110
Also, Andrya, I love your new signature!
post #105 of 110
hey mamas! I've been MIA too a lot but just want to pop in real quick.

Things have been pretty busy lately...as busy as it can be with a toddler and newborn I guess.hen I'm done taking care of one boy, I move to the other guy.

Christopher have developed some serious major independence and social skills...he would love to walk home with a stranger without any hesitation...good thing or bad? He saids hi and bye to strangers too and walk up to little kids and look at what they are doing...he's so curious! His language is pretty much ontrack at his age based on what i read from you guys. He said things like..."Mommy fart, Daddy fart, baby burp, baby bottle, baby night night, drink milk, go out"...just any phrases with 2-3 words. Right now I think the only people who can keep up with his energy and other kids close to his age! He is just moving everywhere and touching everything! C has popped in 2 more teeth on the bottom and top..causing his bedtime to be 10pm now. I'm so tired!

Justin on the other hand is almost 2 months (already!!) This boy is just the total opposite of C! He's so serious, calm and low-maintenance. He only gives a half smile now and it's so hard to see him do just that! DS1 on the hand had a beeming smile by 3 weeks. J has been eating more lately..I find myself thinking "didn't I just feed you?" At night it's feeding every 2 -3 hrs still. He also stays awake for an hour or so now before sleeping again. J can definitely tell who takes care of him more during the day and he's starting to have preferences of who's holding him. The thing that is disturbing to me is J's stomach...he has serious gas issues...i can't keep up with his burps...he burps like 4-5 times after each feeding..once I lie him down to sleep..he needs to be burped again. :

that's my crazy days....very tiring indeed....especially the babywearing J for 2-3 hrs straight. I can hardly find time to brush my teeth, eat breakfast, drink some water, pee, shower, throw out trash without someone crying after 5 min. But they are just so adorable!! I don't know what i would do without my boys!

i do keep reminding myself that I need to take care of my needs too and that if J is crying because Mommy needs to get up, go pee and wash myself before each day starts then that's what Mommy needs to do.

I hope everyone is doing great and taking care of themselves! Days just go by so fast now when we are busy busy!

Happy Memmorial weekend! Lots of barbequeing?? I went to one with my parents and friends and a park...very nice and hot out!
post #106 of 110
How are everyone's mealtimes going? Is anybody else having issues with sitting at the table at dinnertime?

What do you do????
post #107 of 110
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How are everyone's mealtimes going? Is anybody else having issues with sitting at the table at dinnertime?

What do you do????
Sitting at the table?

Kiernen sits on my lap or his Daddy's until he is finished, then he gets down and plays while we finish eating. Sometimes he wants to nurse after he's eaten so he'll stay on my lap while I finish my meal, but mostly he is out of here way before we finish eating.
post #108 of 110
Truthfully?
my boys eat together at the table in the kitchen. Well , used to, until my oldest decided that he couldn't stand eating with the youngest who likes to chew with his mouth open and more so to annoy his biggest brother. The babies eat at their highchairs, but not necessarily iin them - and they are in the dining room. Gedalya likes to climb out of his high chair - the straps are meaningless - he slips right through them. So, he usually stands at his tray and Tehila sits at hers - until she decides to stand on the tray. I eat next to the babies and dh is never home. Gedalya likes to leave his meal and climb into my chair and wrap his arms around me while I"m eating and then lean around and slide into my arms and ask to nurse. I've got to say, he's yummy.
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