Where do we all stand? - Page 2

[mamacarla]

Ok - I am ready to hear from the both do crowd.

[philomom]

Hopefully, here on Mdc, most folks would never do this to innocent babies. I'm surprised anyone even felt the need for a poll. This is the case against circ forum, after all.

[Fi.]

Hopefully, here on Mdc, most folks would never do this to innocent babies.

Oh no, a fair amount of people do it (hospital circumcisions not ritual) if you look around in other threads...they just don't come to the anti-circ board to post about it.

[onyxravnos]

i'm like the first poster. i put dad does and we wont but really it was he is circed and sees nothing wrong with it so he just assumed ds would be too. i presented my arguments and since i had more arguments and stronger feelings about it he didn't push the subject. same with vaxing, totally my call i just inform him of what i've decided - he asks why- i tell him and he says okay.
basicly he says i've done the reaserch so he will let me make the calls.

[elmh23]

neither of us do now, but when i was pregnant with our first he did and we would have, but we were blessed with a girl.

[calngavinsmom]

Originally Posted by philomom

Hopefully, here on Mdc, most folks would never do this to innocent babies. I'm surprised anyone even felt the need for a poll. This is the case against circ forum, after all.

Yeah, I don't think we will get a true reading from this poll. Most cutters here don't like to frequent CAC, denile and all Sadly, even MDCers are not immune to social conditioning on this issue, check out the "Not so crunchy" style threads and birth boards.

Take care,
Tara

[box_of_rain]

Originally Posted by carriebft

no baby cutting allowed in this fam

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--voted "Neither"

[SammyJr]

Originally Posted by Fi.

The "dad does and we will" makes me feel very sorry for the mom who's probably going to regret it.

And I feel sorry for the boy in this situation and the ones where the answer was "Both do."

[corgimom]

I voted "neither wants it" because "other" wasn't an option.

In reality, I am against it. DF doesn't have an opinion one way or the other. Sometimes he wishes he wasn't circ'd, but since he hasn't experienced being uncirc'd, so he couldn't say which our son would prefer. So when I asked him if he would want to circ a future son, he said, "I don't know." When I said I don't, he said, "okay".

[TypingMarie]

OP, you forgot "other". There's always an "other"

My son is intact, and any future sons will be intact. But...we actually did plan to circumcise our son. We even had an appointment to have it done. But, in the end, we just couldn't go through with it.

I had always leaned toward not doing it. It seemed like a pointless and cruel practice to me. My husband is circumcised and wasn't sure what all the fuss was about, but was open minded. While I was pregnant I researched the subject and read a lot of information here and elsewhere that convinced me that we shouldn't do it. My husband and I agreed not to have it done.

That agreement held until my mother asked me what we were planning to do. She was horrified, and regaled us with family stories of infection and discomfort. She was very convincing, especially to my husband, and we decided to reconsider. We convinced ourselves that circumcision was "the norm" and that we'd be doing our son a favor by having it done while he was a baby so he wouldn't "have to have it done later".

When my son was born, I knew I couldn't go through with it. We declined the circ in the hospital, ostensibly because "our" pediatrician wasn't available to do it. We did make an appointment to have it done later, but I knew already that we'd never go to it.

When we got home I put the appointment slip on the kitchen table, and looking at it would make me burst into tears. One day I pointed to it on the table and said to my husband "we need to get rid of this". We put the appointment slip in the shredder and never looked back.

See why there needs to be an "other"?

[My_Three_Sons]

How interesting that there are 4 "Both do's", and that they're 'here'. To you Both Do's - I hope you're learning something here in this forum and will really think about circumcision prior to have any future sons cut.

[carriebft]

Some circlist sickos lurk here I bet as well as procirc people from other boards, so gotta keep that in mind.

[Clarinet]

I had two girls so I didn't think about it until I joined MDC. My husband and I never discussed circumcision but I ASSumed since he was, he'd want the children done if they were boys. I asked him about a year ago and he was horrified I thought he wanted it done to our children. Eight years together and I had no idea he was angry he was circumcized.

I voted neither of us do because I never *wanted* to do it but I didn't really consider not doing it until my husband enlightened me. I probably would have checked around if one of our girls had been a boy and may have become an intactivist but I honestly don't know. It's amazing to me how clueless I was. There's my awful confession.

[PiePie]

i am strongly against, dh doesn't care much one way or the other, so i win.

[s_kristina]

It's been an evolution here on the circ issue as with many other parenting issues. If dd had been a boy she likely would have been circ'd. However after her birth thanks to bfing I got to know some wonderful people both locally at LLL and online at other boards. They showed me the light and I just keep getting crunchy. Before I was pg with ds I knew I would never allow a child of mine to be cut. When my midwife asked about it when I was around 10 weeks I told her it would not happen and she was relieved. She actually has a copy of a circ video she loans out to parents that think they should circ.

[mamajama]

My kids' dad wanted to have them circ'd but I didn't and I won . I just said they could choose when they're adults if the want it . There didn't seem to be much logic one could use in response to that.

[Momma Aimee]

actually -- AMAZING -- i never had to "convince" or "tell" DH anything. we kinda talked, he asked "well why is it done" I told him no medical reason, "look a like" and so on ....... he said NOPE by himself, and stood up to his fam about it,

[somanythings]

dh wanted it, and I put my big fat pregnant foot down and said, no way, hombre. He drug out his friends from high school who had to be circed at 15 or 16, and I said, well, if he needs it done then, then we'll do it then, won't we?

[trmpetplaya]

I would be interested to know which "both do's" are for religious and which are for aesthetic reasons... I wish there had been seperate options for reasons 'cause I sure as h*ll wouldn't post if I had voted "both do" and I don't expect anyone who did will post to explain... I can't blame them for not posting either. But I wish I knew

love and peace.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Dh wanted to but of course we didnt.