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Poll Results: Who wants to circ?

 
  • 0% (0)
    Mom does and we will
  • 0% (0)
    Mom does and we won't
  • 1% (4)
    Dad does and we will
  • 13% (44)
    Dad does and we won't
  • 82% (265)
    Neither do
  • 2% (7)
    Both do
320 Total Votes  
post #61 of 67
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Originally Posted by sewinmama View Post
This time dbf is circed and so are his sons. I still don't want to, and he sure does. Can the hospital honor my wishes if he disagrees? We are all praying for a girl this time. The easy way out of this particular debate!
If you have a son then he will be safe in the hospital as long as you make it known that you do not want him circumcised (more to avoid accidental circumcision which is almost always a possibility than anything your dbf might try). The mother has to sign the consent form in the hospital. I would be more worried about after the hospital if your dbf is very very insistent... unless you don't put him down as the father, he could always take your ds to a doctor and get him circumcised behind your back :

love and peace.
post #62 of 67
We are both strongly against RIC.

My dh is intact. I remember telling him when I was first pregnant at the same time as a good friend of mine that this friend had told me that she and her husband would circ if they had a boy (luckily, they had a girl). And he was just so so sad for that little baby. He couldn't figure out why in the world anyone would cut a child for no reason.

It took me longer to think about it and become anti-circ. The birth of my ds, to be exact. We were never going to circ, of course, but it was when I was holding my precious, trusting newborn son in my arms and someone asked me if we'd cut him that I realised the full horror of circumcision.
post #63 of 67
I am adamantly opposed; husband was on fence until I forwarded him an article and he looked up some videos online. We are now both pleased to be anti-circ in the event that we end up with a son.
post #64 of 67
Dh and I are both very against mutilating children's genitals!!!!!!!!
post #65 of 67
i have 3 sons who are circ'ed and it still haunts me daily.
DH and I were fully and completely brainwashed by the same nursing school instructor. I remember a time in school, when my instructor told me i had to convince this one family to circ, because "that family is the only one who has said no" i was unsucessful, as well as my classmates (the family were chinese) we were chased out of the room by the grandmother shouting obscenities in chinese.
When we told our instructor what happend. She nearly cried she said "this boy will face a lifetime of pain, infection, and most likely cancer. Sex will never be enjoyable for him, or his wife. Circumcision is the best medical advance we have ever seen." All the nurses and instructors nodded along with what she was saying. So i never even questioned it. Even after researching to UC, i didnt question it. I didnt want my sons to suffer "a lifetime of pain and infection"
I dont even remember now when it hit me that i was wrong, that i had been lied to. But it hit me like a semi-truck at 80mph. I was an emotional wreck. I cried constantly for 6 months, and still occasionally do 2.5 years later.
And no one understood, they said "its no big deal, get over it" or "you have PPD" It was a horrendous and absolutley tortourous thing to go through, but nothing compared to what my sons went through. The only way i get through it, is by educating everyone I meet about the subject.

I am pg again, and this child will remain INTACT regardless of gender. problem is, i am already having nightmares that someone will circ or retract him. I had nightmares for a year after I found out the truth. I honestly almost hope I have a girl, so I dont have to deal with the incredible paranoia about someone hurting my boy. I dont think I would let anyone touch him.

sorry this was so long, i dont think I have ever written this out :
post #66 of 67
Quote:
Originally Posted by cravenab00 View Post
i have 3 sons who are circ'ed and it still haunts me daily.
DH and I were fully and completely brainwashed by the same nursing school instructor. I remember a time in school, when my instructor told me i had to convince this one family to circ, because "that family is the only one who has said no" i was unsucessful, as well as my classmates (the family were chinese) we were chased out of the room by the grandmother shouting obscenities in chinese.
When we told our instructor what happend. She nearly cried she said "this boy will face a lifetime of pain, infection, and most likely cancer. Sex will never be enjoyable for him, or his wife. Circumcision is the best medical advance we have ever seen." All the nurses and instructors nodded along with what she was saying. So i never even questioned it. Even after researching to UC, i didnt question it. I didnt want my sons to suffer "a lifetime of pain and infection"
I dont even remember now when it hit me that i was wrong, that i had been lied to. But it hit me like a semi-truck at 80mph. I was an emotional wreck. I cried constantly for 6 months, and still occasionally do 2.5 years later.
And no one understood, they said "its no big deal, get over it" or "you have PPD" It was a horrendous and absolutley tortourous thing to go through, but nothing compared to what my sons went through. The only way i get through it, is by educating everyone I meet about the subject.

I am pg again, and this child will remain INTACT regardless of gender. problem is, i am already having nightmares that someone will circ or retract him. I had nightmares for a year after I found out the truth. I honestly almost hope I have a girl, so I dont have to deal with the incredible paranoia about someone hurting my boy. I dont think I would let anyone touch him.

sorry this was so long, i dont think I have ever written this out :
OMG... I'm so sorry that you were lied to I wonder how many other parents-to-be (students or patients) were coerced by that instructor or her students to circumcise against their will...

love and peace.
post #67 of 67
Quote:
Originally Posted by cravenab00 View Post
i have 3 sons who are circ'ed and it still haunts me daily.
DH and I were fully and completely brainwashed by the same nursing school instructor. I remember a time in school, when my instructor told me i had to convince this one family to circ, because "that family is the only one who has said no" i was unsucessful, as well as my classmates (the family were chinese) we were chased out of the room by the grandmother shouting obscenities in chinese.
When we told our instructor what happend. She nearly cried she said "this boy will face a lifetime of pain, infection, and most likely cancer. Sex will never be enjoyable for him, or his wife. Circumcision is the best medical advance we have ever seen." All the nurses and instructors nodded along with what she was saying. So i never even questioned it. Even after researching to UC, i didnt question it. I didnt want my sons to suffer "a lifetime of pain and infection"
I dont even remember now when it hit me that i was wrong, that i had been lied to. But it hit me like a semi-truck at 80mph. I was an emotional wreck. I cried constantly for 6 months, and still occasionally do 2.5 years later.
And no one understood, they said "its no big deal, get over it" or "you have PPD" It was a horrendous and absolutley tortourous thing to go through, but nothing compared to what my sons went through. The only way i get through it, is by educating everyone I meet about the subject.

I am pg again, and this child will remain INTACT regardless of gender. problem is, i am already having nightmares that someone will circ or retract him. I had nightmares for a year after I found out the truth. I honestly almost hope I have a girl, so I dont have to deal with the incredible paranoia about someone hurting my boy. I dont think I would let anyone touch him.

sorry this was so long, i dont think I have ever written this out :
Mama... you are so brave to post your struggles with that. Many many *hugs* to you.

How completely ignorant of that instructor. That is so heartbreaking that you were all being taught that. Makes me very angry. :

Congratulations on your new baby to be. *hugs* again.
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