Here's where I *will* preach humility. It's fine to decide that for yourself that would not be a valid reason to transfer. Just don't judge that it wasn't for another woman. You see, sometimes the goal isn't "to avoid transfer" or "to have a UC" for a particular woman. Sometimes the goal is a "trauma free birth" or something else. If a particular woman decides in the moment that another course of action will better met her goals, she may change course. That ability to decide for oneself is the essence of UC "for me".
I wasn't able to meet all my goals last birth, but I did meet the main ones by being flexible and evaluating my needs as my labor progressed. I do not mourn a lost UC. I do mourn having those first moments with my baby stolen from me. It was a high price to pay for an untraumatic labor and delivery.
This is why I felt unsafe sharing my birthing with in this forum right away, and why I did not post my birth story for 9 months. To have someone judge that my reasons were not "valid" is unfair. We must not assume that we all have the exact same goals. I've read UC stories where mamas were thrilled, and I would have been horrified by the traumas they endured. We all have different personalities and different ways we define "success".
*my disclaimer* For WOMEN IN GENERAL, NOT SPEAKING OF MYSELF I think that the right birth for them, is the birth they are most comfortable with....be that UC, midwife assisted, doctor assisted or even elected cesarean. FOR MYSELF, I feel that the RIGHT birth, is a birth at home, with my husband, and no medical personnel, in the peace and tranquility of my home. People read birth stories in preparation for their own births, or to compare their birth stories. Maybe not everyone, but that is why I have read them. Why do you care if I don't agree? I'm just some name on the board. I go to UC specific boards to get support for UC. I just don't understand why things said in one context are so often taken out of context. In no way did I say I was judging anyone. I just look at transfers as a researcher would view a case study. In that situation would I or could I have done something different. It has nothing to do with YOU what so ever.
Call it pregnancy hormones but I just have no patience to defend myself anymore. I have UC'd before, it worked, I will do it again. Luckily I don't feel the need to find online encouragement and support for my decision these days because I do not think I would find it here. There are other groups... but that is another chat for another day. But I do have to stay away when things are just so negative and argumentative and defensive. GIP is more important to me than anything, and I would rather remove a negative influence to that, than try to argue my point.
You can find me in the CD, homeschooling, and trading areas of the board.