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Ugh. sorry candice. for somereason I expected you to say



Pregnant.

and just the opposite!
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awe candice

i got it back 7wks pp
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Yikes. With Lu as sick as she is right now, I've been feeling like waiting a long time until I ttc again. I feel so sad for her, and I am so tired that I just cannot be the patient mama that I should be. :
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I really want to respond to a lot, but Lu is really sick right now. Please keep her in your thoughts/prayers. She has a fever and a really weird cough and has been vomiting and seems lethargic. I want to take her to a doctor, and I just found out by calling that our insurance expired on 4/30...and we never saw a doctor during the time we had it...the irony. Talk about feeling like a failure.
s I know you said she was feeling better, is she even better today?

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WOW! so much i want to reply to. but the monkey is crawling all over and chatty.. morning is such a fun time.. so i'll be brief.

I think this whole post partum period has been difficult for me. mostly because of birth trauma and the effects of it. I don't know if I'mcoming out of it, or not, but I'ma ctively working on doing things (like crafting - see my link in sig!) to give myself balance. I am lucky and have a partner that really is a partner, and does so much around the house, and is so active with ruby.. I know there are others out there who aren't as lucky.

As far as 1st bday goes... I didn't have a baby shower, but I think I'm gonna throw a baby birthday. I think we'll have a bbq at the park. that way everyones kids can run and be wild. an I don't have to clean house.
Are you doing a theme with plates and all? I'm going to buy cake plates to match the ones I had when Caleb turned 1. I thought about going with something different, but I thought they were so cute I'm going to get the same ones, well, except the baby will be a girl. We're doing a bbq at the house. I just hope it won't rain. It's going to be small though so hopefully not too much chaos!

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We have a very similar sounding illness. My dd is still sleeping an extra four hours during the day and has lost a bunch of weight.
Yikes! How's she doing now?

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re: pp issues - I didn't have any with DS, and I didn't realize that I had had them with DD until *after* I started coming out of it...that was at about 3-4 months for me, luckily. Mine mostly revolved around my parenting skills (or lack thereof) with DS in the early months after DD was born, combined with the sleep deprivation and "all mommy, all the time" nature of DD. I do remember describing it as coming out of a haze that I didn't even realize I was in. It's so hard to recognize when you're in the thick of it.

I joke to DH that I'm lucky to have a self-image the size of Wisconsin (don't ask me why I pick Wisconsin), because with the way I look right now, if I didn't have a lot of self confidence I'd be in trouble. I'm about 50 pounds overweight, but I've been overweight for years now since before DS was even conceived, so it's not "mommy weight" for me. I'm actually the lightest I've been in years now, since before DS was born, but I still have a LONG way to go. It bothers me in that I know it's not healthy and that I don't like the way clothes look on me, and I know that I want to do something about it sooner rather than later, but it apparently doesn't bother me enough to do anything right now, and it doesn't impact the way I feel about myself; something my parents did for me has made me never link my outward appearance to my self worth, and for that I am forever grateful (I have to remember to ask my mom how they approached that kind of stuff, cause they really hit it out of the park on that one with me). I know I could look a lot better than I do - but I don't really care enough about it just yet, I'm still too into the stains, dirt, and body fluids stage of small children to put much effort into looking polished.... I bought myself a nicer pair of olive khakis a couple months ago in an effort to be a step up from jeans, and the first time I wore them out I got something greasy on them and now they're ruined. Bah. I've been recently getting more motivated to change my eating habits, so I think within the next 6 months-year I'll probably start a sincere effort, once K is a little more independent. I don't want to be the frumpy, dumpy mom that embarrasses the kids...I want to embarrass them for other reasons, like my goofball personality. DH is a guy who likes curves, so he has no issues with the way I look now - but also loved the way I looked when we met (50 pounds lighter), so he doesn't really care whether I'm heavier or lighter...then again, I don't think I would have married him if he did.

I think the thing that bothers me most and makes me feel badly about myself is the house and housework. When I'm "on" and doing things regularly, I feel great and the house looks good. I tick off the chores on my chore list, and things are good...but if I let things go for even 2 days, it's a disaster area and I get so upset about it, feeling like I'm still just a kid "playing house" and when am I going to grow up? And I'm not even striving for perfection or "white glove"; I'm just striving for not being horrified if someone wants to come over. DH pitches in his share of housework; but he also generates a LOT of mess. His parents are hoarders and messy too, and since I do have a slob tendency I have to really motivate myself to stay on top of things because I feel so much better when things are neat. Not sparkling, but not disaster area (which is all too easy to slip back to).

As far as how I feel about my parenting, I have challenges with DS, but I'm good with DD. With DS it's the standard high-energy-budding independence-preschooler stuff, but I have to regularly remind myself to keep my cool and treat him the way I want to be treated; if I slip up and don't, he lets me know by being an inconvenient but deadly accurate reflection in his words and actions. I think DD is going to give me a run for the money because she's already so intense and opinionated....should be a very interesting next few years.

So while I may overall be pretty "together" and seem to kind of let things roll off my back and just kind of groove on, sometimes it also seems like it's just hanging by a thread, you know? Overall things are great here, but it's hard, hard work.

I think what pains me most is that many women look at this impossible standard of "perfection" and then blame themselves when they fall short. NO ONE is perfect, and most of the things that look perfect on the outside are crumbling on the inside, and/or just not worth the price to be paid for the "perfection".
I could have written your EX.ACT. post. Everything you said sounds like me. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

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I have to say, it's nice to be back. : I know I may not be welcomed by everyone, and if anyone wants me gone, just send me a PM and I'll take off. I understand some people think I 'ruined' this group, and can take a pass if I need to. Otherwise, it's nice to see you all again
I'm glad you're back too. It just didn't feel right reading with no one around so I turned into a major slacker, but I've missed ya'll.

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Originally Posted by papayapetunia View Post
Lu is still sick. She's pretty congested and I think her ears are bothering her. I made her some garlic oil to put in her ears, and we got a humidifier from a friend and ran it last night with thyme oil. She's so miserable. I actually bought some Tylenol for her in case I feel like she's in too much pain. I really believe that fevers are for a purpose, but if she's in pain because of congestion or her ears, I will give her some relief. I'm trying all else to make her comfortable though.
How do you make the garlic oil? Evie's been pulling at her ears again and woke up stuffy this morning. I do.not. want to start with the constant ear infections again!

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Originally Posted by papayapetunia View Post
I use eucalyptus a lot. Haven't used it in the humidifier, but tonight, I'm planning on doing a eucalyptus-thyme-lavender blend. I usually put some of it on a rag and put it by our pillows. It does work great for congestion.
Making a note of this too. She was a snotty-botty this morning. Icky with crusties and all.

Only 5 more weeks of school. I can do this. I can not wait until I'm home. But then the stress of finding somebody to keep her for next school year really begins! I have no idea what I'm going to do, I can't seem to find anyone! I don't really want to put her in a dc center, but it's looking like I'm going to have to. : She's just too little for that!
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Katie, I'm not doing a theme for Ruby's birthday, although we may have a bunch of luau plates from Ryan's 30th... so it may be a hawaiian theme.
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How do you make the garlic oil? Evie's been pulling at her ears again and woke up stuffy this morning. I do.not. want to start with the constant ear infections again!
Haven't caught up on the whole thread, but this caught my eye.

I take a clove, peel it, and crush it (rather than dice it -- crushing it lets more of the juice out), and pop it in a small pan with 2-3 tablespoons of warm olive oil. I keep the stove on, oh, medium-low for about 5 minutes. Not hot enough to have the oil bubbling or spattering. Just warm enough to let the garlic infuse the oil. Then I take it off the burner and let it cool until it's warm to the touch but won't burn and use a dropper to put some in each ear. You can take out the garlic and save the rest of the oil for later use. I usually use it in making dinner, though.
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Have to share this with people who will appreciate it. Took this this morning.
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Have to share this with people who will appreciate it. Took this this morning.
So sweet!

Sam just bit the nipple and drew blood OW!!
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Thread Starter 

sorry for the lack of substance...

Jes- that's a great picture. I see K does the same thing that P does-- gymnastic nursing.

Sarah, is Sam nursing or just inflicting pain?

I hope Lu is feeling better

Aimee good to see you!

My mothers' day went well. I just went to the bookstore and had some time to myself-- I really enjoyed it.

Is everyone's baby still nursing strong? What kinds of food are they eating? I give P something we're eating if it's appropriate (i.e. meets my assorted food criteria for health and quality!) but he also eats Os, green beans, applesauce, banana, and other fruit we're having, sweet potato, broccoli, muffins/bread that I make -- aside from anything on our plates. Jon was thinking P should be eating more food but I think he's gotten over that. I feel good that he's still 90% (at least) nutrition from BM and don't want to rush weaning. I don't even like to THINK about weaning! And I'm frustrated that when I say something like that, DH or MIL suggest it's because I don't want to let go. And even if that is true, so what? You can't force a child to nurse.
DH knows I want to nurse until 2 but I haven't let him in on the fact that I want to go past 2 and possible CLW....
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Oh-- Candice, I thought you were going to say pregnant too!
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Katie, I'm not doing a theme for Ruby's birthday, although we may have a bunch of luau plates from Ryan's 30th... so it may be a hawaiian theme.
A luau would be cool.

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Haven't caught up on the whole thread, but this caught my eye.

I take a clove, peel it, and crush it (rather than dice it -- crushing it lets more of the juice out), and pop it in a small pan with 2-3 tablespoons of warm olive oil. I keep the stove on, oh, medium-low for about 5 minutes. Not hot enough to have the oil bubbling or spattering. Just warm enough to let the garlic infuse the oil. Then I take it off the burner and let it cool until it's warm to the touch but won't burn and use a dropper to put some in each ear. You can take out the garlic and save the rest of the oil for later use. I usually use it in making dinner, though.
Thank you! We're going to definitely make some tomorrow. She seemed ok tonight, still snotty, but it's running so hopefully it won't stick around. We went to the IL and ate tonight, it was fine, but when I was getting ready to leave MIL said "Already!?" Um, yeah, it's been a long day and Evie hasn't been home since 8 a.m. It's bedtime, lady! So we left and she fell asleep in the carseat, then decided that it wasn't time for bed anymore when we got home. grr. : She did finally conk out, but I think I fell asleep in the rocking chair with her for a while.
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I crush 3-4 cloves and let them sit in about 1 oz. of garlic oil for 1-3 days. I got the instructions from the NFL Mothering book. There's supposed to be something extra-special about raw garlic.
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breatmilk also worksd great for ear aches, stuffy noses, crusty eyes - squirt where needed.

Penelope is mainly breastfed. We'll give her food to play with while we eat to keep her occupied. Most food ends up being played with but she does like cucumbers, apples, beans, cat food (not something we give her but she finds it), carrots, sweet potatos.

I'm taking piano lessons and everytime I sit down to practice Penelope is right there poking at the keyboard. I have the keyboard in front of the monitor (extra practice with an on-line lesson) and Penelope keeps reaching back to hit the keys. She's nursing, sleeping and "playing" piano at the same time.
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Hope all the sick babies are feeling better!

I may be about to have one of those.... While I was at a meeting, Daddy let her have a bite of sandwich, which contained cheese. Brilliant. But no rash, and it's been hours, so that's a good sign. She's been asleep since 8 with no waking.... that is a good night for her already. What if we have crossed into a bizarre parallel universe where dairy is now good for her? She may be finally growing out of this allergy bidness.

Cute pic Jes. We're obsessed with nursing on hands and knees and other weird positions, it seems. That reminds me to take more pictures.

I don't think we're having a bday party. Wah. I mentioned to irritating in-laws, and they made excuses months in advance, sooooo. That's about how they feel. I am not sure if it's because they dislike me, or they just don't care about her. There are 3 cousins older than her, so everyone must be all partied out. They've blown us off every weekend for two months. Or maybe we'll have a party but only invite friends. However, I feel weird about that too b/c I've been buried in work for the past 2-3 months and have not kept up with anyone. We'll be on vacation on her actual bday anyway. I don't want to be here with all the reminders of what went wrong last year. I am getting more and more bummed about her turning 1. I love everything she'd doing, but I keep thinking "wow, this is the last baby I will nurse," stuff like that. But I hate hate hated the newborn stage. I logically know I can't do that again without losing it. But she's growing up and doesn't need me as much. Very conflicted.

Jessica, she pretty much eats bites of what we eat. No real meals. Grazing. Today she ate a pear, an organic graham cracker of some sort, and a farkin' roast beef sandwich (thanks to the backsliding new vegetarian convert). And some guacamole. And I think a cracker and some bagel. She is obsessed with bread. Will mug us for food, so I should probably be feeding her more.
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We're having a birthday party. It'll be about a week long since my family has to come so far. Andrew won't be home on her actual birthday because of scheduling for big family events later in the summer. And my parents won't be able to make it until 2 days after her birthday. So the party will be the next week. My parents & grandparents are coming up, apparently my sister thinks that Spain is too long of a commute. Okay, so she'd be here if she could. We're going to have a barbeque, and our cake will be wheat and egg free. My mom is allergic to wheat, and I only want to make one cake. And my sister is allergic to eggs, so we're waiting on introducing those for a while longer. We won't have a theme or anything real fancy. Just family and a couple of friends.

As far as what she eats... When Andrew's home and I cook, she eats mostly what we eat. I also have some fish in the freezer that I bake and share with her. Things we're not feeding her at all are citrus, tomatoes, eggs, nuts, mushrooms, strawberries. Things we're limiting; dairy, wheat.
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I could have written your EX.ACT. post. Everything you said sounds like me. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

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I can not wait until I'm home. But then the stress of finding somebody to keep her for next school year really begins! I have no idea what I'm going to do, I can't seem to find anyone! I don't really want to put her in a dc center, but it's looking like I'm going to have to. : She's just too little for that!
Hey! Nice to know I have a kindred spirit...well, OK, so I have many kindred spirits here.

And about your dilemma for next fall. I hope something unexpected pops up that is a good solution for you both!

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You can take out the garlic and save the rest of the oil for later use. I usually use it in making dinner, though.
- my kind of woman.

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Have to share this with people who will appreciate it. Took this this morning.
Soooo sweet, Jes. Her hair looks RED in that pic. K's looks blond sometimes, and red sometimes - we can't wait to see the final product - with her eyes too - they have some light brown but also some olivey/grayish too, so we're thinking a green/hazel.

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Is everyone's baby still nursing strong? What kinds of food are they eating?
K is still nursing about 8 times a day, but 3-4 of those are overnight. She's really not interested a whole lot during the day because she's busy chasing around after her brother. As far as real people food, well, she loves it - let me qualify: She loves meat and grains. Tolerates vegetables, and doesn't much care for fruit. Lucky me. . I'm just going with it though, cause she must know what she needs. I "trick" her into eating fruit by mashing it and spreading it on toast, then she'll gobble it up. She usually just has some of whatever we're having. Last night she polished off about 1/4 cup of ditalini with a tinge of sauce and 1/2 a meatball. We don't have any allergies in either family at all, so we're just kind of plugging ahead on foods - we haven't done egg whites, nuts (except for one chomp she accidentally got off her brother's PBJ a couple months ago - yeah - THAT was relaxing), citrus, berries, or honey. We are doing wheat and dairy and she's had no problems. I have to think of some new ways to get fruit in her as that seems to be her least favorite food group. Any ideas? Ooh, it's almost smoothie weather here again, so maybe that will help. I think she ate so many O's in the early weeks of food experimentation that she OD'd on them, cause she'll only have a dozen or so and then passes on them. But put a pile of shredded chicken or turkey in front of her and she's a happy lady. I'd say at this point she's about 70% breastfed and 30% grownup food.

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She's nursing, sleeping and "playing" piano at the same time.
Now THAT'S multitasking.
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Sarah, is Sam nursing or just inflicting pain?
Just inflicting pain. I'm really, really, really stubborn, and just not ready to give up on the dream of nursing her, so we're still trying, quite often. Last night when we got home from a long day of playing with a friend, she was clawing at my bra under my shirt, so I offered, and she dove for it. She took the boob about 5 times, just popping it in her mouth, licking up the milk that was spilling, and laughing, and then the 6th time she chomped and drew blood. It was fine by the time J went to bed though, so I could still nurse on that side all night like I usually do.

She had allergic shiners shortly after we weaned her on to whole milk, so I increased my supply so that I could pump more for her, 'cause she was wanting two bottles a day, but now she only wants one before bed, so I'm pumping about 8oz a day now. Since taking her off whole milk, her shiners are gone.

S2 eats a lot of food. She has 2 eggs or oatmeal mixed with applesauce and a teeny bit of cinnamon for breakfast every morning, then gets a bottle of juice for nap, then has a meal for late afternoon (usually pasta and meat and veggies), and then her 8oz bottle for nighttime. She snacks throughout the day. She loves veggies and fruit (apples are her favorite...a snack around here is usually half an apple) and she recently discovered the joys of guacamole. She likes plain avocado too. Pretty much anything, really. She had a teeny bit of peanut butter a week ago, with no reaction, so we might try a little more soon. Peanut butter crackers and apples with peanut butter are such fun snacks! No strawberries or shellfish yet, but we'll probably try strawberries soon. Any time she's had a possibly allergen inducing food, I've given it to her with my shoes on and keys in hand just in case I need to rush her to Urgent Care across the street.
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Haven't posted a pic in quite some time. Here's one from Mother's Day.

http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e319/dm04/051307.jpg
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Such cute babies!
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OMG, we got sleep last night!!!

So what do I do? I wake up at 5:30, even though Lu is still asleep! It's okay, I got to hang out with Joey before he left for school. And can I just say that he stayed home yesterday to help me and he cleaned the whole place and did all the laundry! He also took Lu with him to the store and on a walk. So I feel like a human again. And you know, this may sound crazy, but having my period has made me feel human again too. Maybe I just released a bunch of bad hormones or something.

Lu is not awake yet, so I'm not sure if she's "better," but we didn't have much coughing last night. (I'm so in love with my humidifier. If you don't have one, get one!) She was super cranky last night, and I put her down to sleep around 9:00. She woke up about 30 minutes later and nursed more, then was out until whatever time in the middle of the night she nursed again.

Even though she's sick, she's still ALL OVER THE PLACE! She would not stop trying to climb up to my sewing machine, and every time I moved her, she threw a huge tantrum. She also loves to antagonize the cat. And btw, she is clearly saying "cat" every time the cat walks in. It sounds like "KA" but it's really obviously directed at the cat.

Gosh, I have so many other cute things to share about Lu, but I'll try to stifle myself. We taught her to do "hip-hop hand" though, when Joey listens to hip-hop. And she does this: and she waves at everything and everyone. She waves goodbye when we flush the toilet.

Okay, enough. About food - she's not a big eater. I'd say 95% of her food is still breast milk. She eats whatever we're eating, but she usually has a few bites and then wants to go play. If I give her something she can hold and gnaw on, like a pear, she'll gnaw on it for a while. She'll chew on a piece of raw broccoli longer than she'll sit and eat bites of pasta.

Alright, well, I guess I was really energized from sleeping and needed to post a huge novel.
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