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post #81 of 464
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Originally Posted by papayapetunia View Post
I looked like a 12yo boy before I had Tania.
I haven't looked like a 12-year-old boy since I was a 10-year-old girl - gotta love those southern Italian genes! :


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Like I should be gazing serenely at my perfect child all day long.
This sounds like Stepford to me, not AP.
post #82 of 464
I figure if the house is above health code, I've done my "job."

We need: dishes to eat off of, clean clothes to wear (which in a family of 6 is a full-time job in and of itself), sheets that aren't crunchy, clean diapers for the babes and food in the cupboard.

Since S2 isn't playing in the toilets yet, they don't get cleaned nearly as often as they should (read: once a week at best). I try and clean the stove (it's a glass top) at least once a week.

The fridge desperately needs to be cleaned out. It smells. I have to vacuum every three days just to keep up with the massive amounts of dog hair. I'd love to mop two-three times a week, but frankly just don't have time, and will have even less time when both kids are mobile.

I'm lucky in that B is a huge help, but also doesn't expect much. He does his own laundry, cleans the kitchen while I doze on Saturday mornings, and would eat PB&J for every meal if I let him.

Now that said, I do make our bread (because it's so much cheaper than the grocery store, and tastes better, and is better for us) and bagels, and am trying to run a very very small business, and work out a little.

Speaking of which, J is sleeping and S2 is happy, so I'm gonna sit her on my belly and do as many crunches as I can before she topples over.

I like the feel of the warm cozy quilt that our thread has again. I missed this.
post #83 of 464
i'm glad lu is better, candice! i'mtaking dinner to joi and her sick fam, can i drop by food for you too?
post #84 of 464
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i'm glad lu is better, candice! i'mtaking dinner to joi and her sick fam, can i drop by food for you too?
Aw Korin, thanks. I'm making tuna-noodle casserole per Tania's request, so we're okay. You are so sweet though. :
post #85 of 464
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I figure if the house is above health code, I've done my "job."

We need: dishes to eat off of, clean clothes to wear (which in a family of 6 is a full-time job in and of itself), sheets that aren't crunchy, clean diapers for the babes and food in the cupboard.

Since S2 isn't playing in the toilets yet, they don't get cleaned nearly as often as they should (read: once a week at best). I try and clean the stove (it's a glass top) at least once a week.

The fridge desperately needs to be cleaned out. It smells. I have to vacuum every three days just to keep up with the massive amounts of dog hair. I'd love to mop two-three times a week, but frankly just don't have time, and will have even less time when both kids are mobile.

I'm lucky in that B is a huge help, but also doesn't expect much. He does his own laundry, cleans the kitchen while I doze on Saturday mornings, and would eat PB&J for every meal if I let him.

Now that said, I do make our bread (because it's so much cheaper than the grocery store, and tastes better, and is better for us) and bagels, and am trying to run a very very small business, and work out a little.

Speaking of which, J is sleeping and S2 is happy, so I'm gonna sit her on my belly and do as many crunches as I can before she topples over.

I like the feel of the warm cozy quilt that our thread has again. I missed this.
I have cheated and put an open small bowl of coffee grinds in the fridge, because it eats up the odors (but coffee is easier to spare in our house, bc we dont drink it at all... so we use coffee from gift bags that people have given us, or leftovers from guest). Also, baking soda is my mom's odor eater of choice for the fridge.

Oh and YOU ROCK for holding down the fort!! HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!!!!!
post #86 of 464
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Originally Posted by LJ's Momma View Post
I have cheated and put an open small bowl of coffee grinds in the fridge, because it eats up the odors (but coffee is easier to spare in our house, bc we dont drink it at all... so we use coffee from gift bags that people have given us, or leftovers from guest). Also, baking soda is my mom's odor eater of choice for the fridge.

Oh and YOU ROCK for holding down the fort!! HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!!!!!
We have baking soda in there.

Seriously, it's bad. A bunch of stuff spilled, and naturally instead of doing the smart thing and just wiping it up then, we let it sit, and well, it got disgusting. No mold growing yet, but I'm sure it's close behind.

Thanks. Hopefully this Mother's Day will be better than last, since we spent it in the NICU last year.
post #87 of 464
Candice, thinking of Lu hope all is better by now ... best wishes!

Mamas, you rock!

Things that have helped today:

1. coming here and reading all these kind, supportive, been-there-done-that things

2. reading that others have ring around the toilet, too :

3. un-subbing from two email lists I haven't felt I have much in common with lately but have felt like I had to keep reading because I've been a member for years. I need to stop doing things out of guilt, especially silly things.

4. thinking a customer service issue with a mama-made business who sent me the wrong stuff was going to be a huge hassel, but she's been so cool and promptly replied and all is going to be taken care of no sweat!

5. telling the noisy, but lovable, but NOISY neighbor girl that she had to go home before dinner and standing firm on it (I really just need an evening of peace & quiet and I'm not up to watching 3 kids by myself tonight)

6. my two kids playing quietly together, giggling, and somehow inventing their own kind of 5 to almost 1 year old game and both having fun! : I love how kindly my daughter treats her little brother I must be doing *something* right, eh?

7. looking into grocery delivery services as that is becoming the chore I most dread after scooping the dog poop (and we are now paying our neighbor whose just lost his job $30 a month to do that for us, so I feel good about such a "luxury" as it's doing a good deed for someone in need of a little extra cash now, too and it's less poop around here for me to deal with. literally. LOL)

I bet there are other ways I can find to make my life easier too if I do some brainstorming ...

That's over a half a dozen good things. I can smile about that

Best Wishes!
post #88 of 464
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I figure if the house is above health code, I've done my "job.".



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I like the feel of the warm cozy quilt that our thread has again. I missed this.
me, too
post #89 of 464


I could've sworn I bookmarked this thread, but apparently not. Ange, got the DVD today, thanks! I totally forgot that I'd asked about it. Now to have time to try it in my non-broken dvd player...

My K now walks holding one of my hands, but hasn't got the confidence to try it on her own. She'll stand unsupported until she realizes that's what she's doing, then she has to sit down asap. No "real" words yet, but she imitates a lot. She tried to say caterpillar the other day, came out kadadada. She sometimes says mama & dada but we're not convinced she's meaning them when she says them. The only thing she says with conviction is "Gheegheegheegheeghee!!!" Which apparently means dog. Heeheehee is the horse, and she sometimes says keedee for the cat, but the cat gets gheeghee just as often.

She's all over solid foods, and seems to be the neatest self-feeder ever. We don't use bibs unless Daddy is helping her eat soup. She just takes one piece at a time and that is that. It's hilarious to watch. She has 5 teeth, the 5th just broke this morning, thank goodness. Last night sucked.

We go swimming a couple times a week, K loves it. She goes down the slide now, I put her on it and she scoots her bum to the end and slides off. Doesn't even care if I let her go all the way under water, just demads to do it again.

As far as birth trauma and post-partum and whatnot, I think that my biggest issue at this point is the lack of support I have. I am at peace with the birth I had, and I am at the point now that if we did only have one child, I would be okay with the fact that K's birth was the way it was and it was all I'd experience. And I'm happy to be there. As far as support goes, my DH is gone 2 weeks at a time for work. He's home 2 weeks too, and he's wonderful while he's home. Does as much or more childcare and housework as I do. But when he's gone is hard. People told me they'd help whenever I asked when I was pregnant, and every last one of them has blown me off multiple times since K was born. It was hard at first, but I stopped asking and it got easier. And now it's coming to a head this week when I actually NEED someone. More on that later. It's just frustrating to be told that someone (2 someones!) aren't going to show up when you need them because they decided to stay longer at a scrapbook party. Says a lot about what people think about us, I think.

And the single biggest stress in my life right now is my horse. We stayed overnight in the city the Saturday before last, and came home to find my horse with the fence wrapped around his leg. We spoke with the vet about a course of treatment, proceeded on that course, and it got progressively worse over the next week. So we took him in to be seen, and learned that it is the nature of wire wounds to get worse over a few days, and he should be getting better from now. And a new course of treatment, which involves me giving him 2 penicillin shots a day, by myself, with a baby who I can't take out there with me for safety reasons. She's fine out there on my back just grooming or whatever, but I'm not taking chances with shots or wound dressing. Hooves and teeth are too dangerous. And the last few days she hasn't been napping well, or sleeping at night, so it's been very stressful. Things are looking up though. I'm getting proficient at needle sticking, K's tooth broke through and she's sleeping again, and the horse is healing well. Ah. Only 4 more days of needles.
post #90 of 464
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Originally Posted by KnittingKara View Post
Mamas, you rock!

Things that have helped today:
i have made a renewed commitment to myself to find time to craft everyweek. the new projects i have going are small and quick and make me feel like I'm not just a slave to the house and being mama. and Ruby seems to like fabric so some sewing can take place while she's awake. I'm thinking of opening an etsy shop... just need to perfect my product. I find that doing creative stuff makes all the blah blah boring stuff like doing dishes and making beds not so bad. Now to remedy my work issues. but i'm not in the mood to post about that tonight

I have to say, it's nice to be back. : I know I may not be welcomed by everyone, and if anyone wants me gone, just send me a PM and I'll take off. I understand some people think I 'ruined' this group, and can take a pass if I need to. Otherwise, it's nice to see you all again
post #91 of 464
Oh right, getting out and whatnot.
I get out once a week sans bebe. I drop her off at some friends' house and I go to the pool and I either swim or I go to the weight room. It's nice to get that time to myself, and she loves playing with our friends. We tried to have a night away, but it would've ended up being all night, and she wasn't feeling well (and i wasn't ready for that), so we brought her with us.

Weight loss... I was down to 5lbs under pre-preggo weight by 3 months post-partum, and I've been holding steady since then. However, my clothes are getting smaller, and I notice my muscles getting a lot tighter, so I'm happy with that progress. Supposedly, I'm about 40lbs overweight for my height, but as I sit here in my size 10 jeans and size small t-shirt, I think that guideline isn't going to work for me. I have another 15lbs that I think I could stand to lose, but I'm happy as long as I keep firming up. I like my curves, I just want to lose the jiggles.
post #92 of 464
Korin, please don't go. I missed you terribly. You are so much like my big sister it hurts. :

I know that I need to make a commitment to me, at least once a week, but it's next to impossible with a 1yr old and 3 month old. V, S1 and S2 are fine with Daddy, but J obviously needs me all the time, and will only nap well if he's being held, making solo activities impossible. I did get to clip my nails this morning...does that count? I've become proficient at loading/unloading the dishwasher and washer/dryer one-handed while juggling a baby on my hip.

A friend of mine made a beautiful pair of capris and shorties for S2, and included a little baggie of lemon bath salts. I actually laughed out loud when I opened the package and said, "she's so cute to think I have time to take a bath alone!" of course, she has 5 kids, so I know she sent that as a "light at the end of the tunnel" gift.

I'm in the process of saving money for a "real" website, with a shopping cart to use for my business...pretty excited about that.

Um, getting out alone for me is an ultra-glamorous trip to the grocery store around the corner to get something we forgot j comes with me to mom's night out.

I have all 4 of my babies for Mother's Day weekend. YAY!
post #93 of 464
As far as I'm concerned, this thread has room for ALL June 2006 mamas.
post #94 of 464
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Originally Posted by The4OfUs View Post
As far as I'm concerned, this thread has room for ALL June 2006 mamas.
what she said.

we have:

8 teeth
taking steps alot now (the most at one time happened last night and that was 9. go e!)
sitting to standing w/o holding onto anything
likes to pull sisters hair
like to rip pages out of books
has strong opinions already (hmm wonder where that comes from )
likes to screech
post #95 of 464
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As far as I'm concerned, this thread has room for ALL June 2006 mamas.
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i can't believe all these babies are walking!! didn't we just give birth like a month ago?? it's too fast!

although i will say i'll rejoice the day s2 walks, cause it's getting heavy to carry s2 and j around :
post #96 of 464
Korin, I'm glad you're back. Good thing I see you in real life, so I didn't have to be too sad all that time.

I'm trying to get time to exercise. I think that's the biggie for me. I'm pretty sure it's a scientific fact that endorphins are released during exercise. So I get more depressed if I don't get at least a walk every day. I really want to get back into regular jogging though. I remember toddlerhood being really challenging, and exercise helped me to keep my energy up.

Lu is still sick. She's pretty congested and I think her ears are bothering her. I made her some garlic oil to put in her ears, and we got a humidifier from a friend and ran it last night with thyme oil. She's so miserable. I actually bought some Tylenol for her in case I feel like she's in too much pain. I really believe that fevers are for a purpose, but if she's in pain because of congestion or her ears, I will give her some relief. I'm trying all else to make her comfortable though.

So, what are you all doing for Mother's Day? Or is it a surprise? We are going to get pizza and beer and watch a movie around lunch time, and hopefully go for a short hike and have a light picnic dinner. That is, if the weather and Lu hold up. This was all Joey's idea, and I love every bit of it. I have to say, we've had some hard times, but he's really been super-fab lately. I think that since I started taking some of the responsibility for our problems and trying to treat him the way he deserves to be treated, things have been getting much better. And you have no idea how hard it was when it hit me how controlling and naggy I can be. Ouchie. But I also realized that it was because I was lacking some things from him, and that I needed to work on better ways of communicating my needs to him instead of using ways that were ineffective and even damaging. Uh, I don't know why I just spilled all that, but it seems to be the week for spilling stuff in the DDC, so there!
post #97 of 464
Mother's Day:

I'm under strict orders to not do anything housework related this weekend, so I've been holding my baby boy, and rolling around on the floor with my girls. It's heaven.

Tomorrow my parents are coming over for a dinner of steak, mashed potatoes and steamed asparagus. My choice. B is gonna clean the kitchen. All I have to do is fold a load of laundry, 'cause I don't like the way B does it.

I might even paint my nails tomorrow!!! I haven't done that in almost 8 months.
post #98 of 464
Thanks for the warm welcomes ladies.

Candice, I'm glad things are better between you and Joey. Having a PARTNER in life really makes things easier. Mine has been working in the yard all day. and i"m slightly annoyed, cause I thought it was MY weekend. but I know he's got something up his sleeve for tomorrow, and hopefully I'll get an hour after dinner to sew tonight. : I have no idea what we are doing tomorrow, other than me sleeping in if we don't get great sleep tonight... and eating. I know we shall be eating. and there will be grocery shopping, just dont' know if we're all gonna go, or if they will go while I do something for me. Other than that.. no idea.
post #99 of 464
I don't know what you guys are talking about with this post-partum stuff. My house is spotless, my husband is perpetually attentive and empathetic, my finances are in order, my body is exactly the same as it was before the baby, if not better, and I am really breaking new ground in thought leadership at work. My child is always perky and cheerful, and I get lots of free time. She entertains herself and balances my checkbook. Tonight she told me interesting facts about the wines of France. My worst problem is that everything is going so darn well! I fear I will offend the universe with my incredible perfection.

Oh, and
Did I mention
Srsly, no one I know has had a perfect post-partum experience. I am inclined to think they don't exist.

Anyhoo, I got white roses from my hairstylist. That's a tough act to follow, husband.

Am trying to decide if I can safely leave Monstro for up to 12 hours on a one-time basis in a few weeks. I'd be at least a few hours away in the event that I got an emergency summons home. I can pump and pump, not a biggie, but she doesn't have much interest in drinking EBM. I've tasted it, and it's not a lipase thing or anything. It's a her thing. When I am gone 5 hours 1x a week, she might drink an ounce from a cup. If we stuff her for solids for 1 day, will that kill her? She is a total grazer, not into sitting down for meals. But then I think OMG what if my flight is delayed or whatever and it were longer than 12 hours. The alternative is to wrangle her along with me and have someone watch her while I do my thing. Probably more disruptive for all involved.
post #100 of 464
tomorrow we go to the zoo and possibly geocaching at the zoo...ooh la la! happy mother's day

ah yes, the myth of the perfect mother...elusive creature she is...

working is going alright for me. i'm on 10 hr days which is good and bad...long days, but nice to have a full day off...and for the next two months i'm teaching a spring evening class twice/week so that's 2 10-hr days and 2 15-hr days...grr...it stinks b/c I leave b4 mikey wakes up and come back after he's asleep, so even though i'm sleeping w/him all night, it's like not seeing him for 48 hrs, yk? bleh. dh is enjoying sahdhood though and he is good. he does it all...even cooks me dinner...which i never really did for him

love all the pix - what a bunch of cuties we have!
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