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Who provides the transportation???

post #1 of 5
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Sorry if this has already been discussed but,

Just wondering, who provides the transportation for visits?

The ex has ds, who is 3yrs, tues and thurs on the off weeks(from weekend visits), and wed pm on the opposite week from approx 4-7 pm. He also sees him every other weekend fri-sun but not overnight. Ex will pick up ds from the sitter for most evening visits, approx 1 mile from his home and sometimes brings him home, other times I pick ds up from ex's house 15-20 min drive. Ex feels like he is doing me a favor by bringing ds home. I disagree. Ex does not work. Whole 'nother issue there. I teach and have a 45 min commute each way. I know this is not his issue but I also take care of all primary responsibilites concerning ds. I feel like the least he can do is bring ds home, I have enough on my plate already. I have spoken to many friends who say the noncustodial parent is to provide all transportation for visitation. Ex disagrees. Note - We do not have a formal custory agreement, just follow the same visitation schedule he has with his other son, 11yrs old.

I know it is not the biggest deal but is just the principle of the matter. It irks me to no end. : Ex has no responsibilities outside of himself and I feel like I am running nonstop.

So what do you think?

Suck it up, sometimes it really is not worth the neverending discussion: .

or Ask him to shoulder a small piece of the parenting responsibility.:
post #2 of 5
I went through this with DS#1's father and my lawyer told me it's up to the visiting parent to figure out transportation.
post #3 of 5
The way we work it is a "drop off" policy. Whoever has the kids then drops them off at the other parent's house (or babysitter, or school). That works well for us and by nature splits the driving evenly.
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The way we work it is a "drop off" policy. Whoever has the kids then drops them off at the other parent's house (or babysitter, or school). That works well for us and by nature splits the driving evenly.
We do the opposite (receiving parent picks up the child), but it works out the same way IRT splitting the driving. If one of us has plans that might make being home at the pick-up time difficult, we drop the child off to make it easier.
post #5 of 5
I don't have this issue (my ex lives too far away for regular visitation) but my parents always did visitation parent had the responsibility to pick up/drop off. So when I was living with my mom my dad came and picked us up....when I was living with my dad my mom came and picked us up.
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