We are planning a homebirth this time around with a CNM.
DS was born in a hospital with a midwife. I was in a different state and was unable to find out info on homebirth (it was illegal but I know someone must have done it) - plus I wasn't sure how I would handle birth so I liked having all the options a hospital offered.
KittyTheCat - my friend is interested in doing something very similar to what you want. She was very upfront with the midwife and the mw has no problems with it. So my friend is going to call her when she feels ready but the mw is going to stay away in another room. That way my friend can call her in if she wants/needs her or not. Maybe your mw would be willing to do the same??
Wobit - I have been lucky (I guess) both times my choices were really limited. With my son I could either do an OB (which I didn't want) or there was a midwifery clinic - so no interviewing. This time around there is only one mw who does homebirth in the area. I have been going to a Birth Circle here that is mostly homebirth support and from the stories I have heard about the mw - she sounds exactly like what I have always wanted. I am very excited.
I think something I learned was that you don't have to rush into making any decisions. With my son I felt I had to get into the clinic right away - like the afternoon I tested positive.
It is funny to me now - I mean - I have got 9 months!! Also, you can always change your mind later about what you want. My bff found the *perfect* mw and then halfway through the pregnancy the mw called and told her she wasn't going to do births anymore.
So you never know what is going to happen.
Oh, one more thing - DH read The Birth Partner
and fell in love with birth!!! His brother's wife had a regular hospital birth, induced, no labor at home, etc. DH was stomping around the house spouting out facts and saying but don't they know . . . . It was so funny.
I would highly recommend it. It also has a little section on newborn care (like cord care and stuff) which I never thought of but most dhs don't really know anything about that stuff either.