We picked dh up from the airport last night. He had been out of town on a client meeting. The last time he was with this particular client (last October), he had the following conversation:
dh (to client who had had a baby in the past year): How is your baby doing?
client: She finally takes about 7 ounces in her bottle and is just now sleeping through the night.
dh: Oh? How old is she?
client: 7 months. Man, we thought she would never start sleeping through the night.
dh: Well, 7 months is still really young. Our dd just recently cut down to only waking a couple of times a night.
client: Look, I don't know what serious problem your kid has, but that would be a major clue to me to get in and get some help. How old is she?
dh: She's only two. My wife has the philosophy that if the kids wake up and need to nurse, she is going to nurse them. I'm so glad she is such an attentive and caring mother.
client: Nurse???? She still nurses?????!!
dh: of course, she's only two. (pager goes off) Oh, that's me. I have to go.
This trip, it was brought up that we are having a third child.
client: That is why I'm getting snipped after the second. No way am I going to have a mistake. No, you won't catch me in that predicament.
Apparently he went on like that for about 5 minutes.
dh: The baby was not a mistake.
client: what? you mean you planned it?
dh: yes. all of our children have been planned.
client: why? how many are you going to have?
dh: well, we've talked about having six, but realistically we will probably have four. we are taking it one at a time to see how our family feels. Besides (said half-jokingly), we have big car seats and our van can only hold 4 of them.
client: are you Catholic or do you just really like your kids or something?
dh: no, we're not Catholic. We enjoy our children and want a good sized family.
Sometimes I just feel like screaming! Yes, we have a boy and a girl already! Yes we planned to have a third! Is it really anyone else's business?
dh (to client who had had a baby in the past year): How is your baby doing?
client: She finally takes about 7 ounces in her bottle and is just now sleeping through the night.
dh: Oh? How old is she?
client: 7 months. Man, we thought she would never start sleeping through the night.
dh: Well, 7 months is still really young. Our dd just recently cut down to only waking a couple of times a night.
client: Look, I don't know what serious problem your kid has, but that would be a major clue to me to get in and get some help. How old is she?
dh: She's only two. My wife has the philosophy that if the kids wake up and need to nurse, she is going to nurse them. I'm so glad she is such an attentive and caring mother.
client: Nurse???? She still nurses?????!!
dh: of course, she's only two. (pager goes off) Oh, that's me. I have to go.
This trip, it was brought up that we are having a third child.
client: That is why I'm getting snipped after the second. No way am I going to have a mistake. No, you won't catch me in that predicament.
Apparently he went on like that for about 5 minutes.
dh: The baby was not a mistake.
client: what? you mean you planned it?
dh: yes. all of our children have been planned.
client: why? how many are you going to have?
dh: well, we've talked about having six, but realistically we will probably have four. we are taking it one at a time to see how our family feels. Besides (said half-jokingly), we have big car seats and our van can only hold 4 of them.
client: are you Catholic or do you just really like your kids or something?
dh: no, we're not Catholic. We enjoy our children and want a good sized family.
Sometimes I just feel like screaming! Yes, we have a boy and a girl already! Yes we planned to have a third! Is it really anyone else's business?
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: I didn't know how to break it to her that maybe that was why the baby wasn't gaining weight the way the doctor wanted her to (the baby was actually losing a LOT of weight). Of course my daughter's not what my MIL thinks of as a "good baby" because she likes to be held, she's still nursing (at 16 months, of course she's still nursing!), and she still wakes a few times at night. That's not to mention how we're "bad parents" (in my MIL's opinion) because my daughter still sleeps in our bed......
