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post #81 of 205
I am so sorry.

Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for standing up to them during labor and afterward. You are amazing!
post #82 of 205
Horrible, unspeakable. Its's so sureal it sounds like some horror film. I bet you could get a movie deal.


Good to hear its over at least in the courts so you can get on with living and healing.
post #83 of 205
What a sad, sad story. Thank you for having the courage to share that.

If there is ANY silver lining in this (and I really don't know if you could even call it that...), it is that your daughter is financially set for life. After the traumatic and inexcusable way that she was brought into the world, it's the very least that they could do....
post #84 of 205
Oh my lord. Thank you so much for fighting this through, I can't even imagine how hard it must have been.

I'm furious at this.
post #85 of 205
The fyre burns through all the clouds
the heat wilts gentle strawberry leaves
water and shade give back the strength of creation.

I had a c section. But I had very careful, gentle, admirable, kind doctors who told me I was the eiptome of a giving mother to relinquish this power to them. When people tell these horror stories I am back in the lovely, quiet, soft room trying to do my best crying soft heavy tears and waiting. I was fortunate, few are. I was given time, space and total honesty and had no force involved. The pain still echos in me as a cost of my love and a reminder of how no price is too great for this child of mine.
I wish I had a better way to combat a health organiszation who teaches medcine that rivals any methods on earth if you are ill and is the most dangerous of all if you are not. Hold fast to the dark and the root of the matter, from your center another was brought forth and into chaos she was protected by you and those you love with vital strength, truth and fortitude which is more then many children can say of thier own mothers!
post #86 of 205
post #87 of 205
I am so sorry for all this and am amazed how strong you are . thank you thank you
Sarah
post #88 of 205
I just read this story and I am shocked! Great big s to you and your family. What an awful thing to have to go through. Kudos for fighting back!
post #89 of 205
I don't have the words to tell you how sorry I am
post #90 of 205
Great bug hugs to you - along with health happiness and peace.

Your story was beyond horrendous . What as done to you and your beautiful DD was nothing short of abuse in every sense of the word : and frankly downright cruelty.
You have my outstanding admiratiomn for your strenth and couage in fighting back. You are not just a survivor but a warrior - for yourself and all women who have been through hell and back in this way.
And sadly yours is not the only case I have heard like this.
Women here in Irl are starting to fight back against the delay and denail of care; assaults and abuse inlicted on them in course of their babies births in the name of medicine.
sadly I have seen hospital M/Ws side aganst them with outrageous arrogance and more or less tell them to "put up and s**t up and this is childbirth and get used to it" which of course is beyonf inexcuseable
Abuse is abuse.
Abuse perpetrated by a medical professionals is STILL abuse.
Uniforms excuse nothing.
post #91 of 205
What a horrifying experience! I'm so sorry that you and your daughter had to go through that.
I'm glad you got some sort of retribution, although I know it will never make up for what you went through.

post #92 of 205
I am so very sorry for what you went through. I applaud your courage in fighting to bring this injustice to light.
post #93 of 205

Peace to you and your family...what an aweful ordeal.Thanx for fighting!
I have learned in my own personal experience that when it comes to the state, medical field,etc.. its always a fight otherwise they'll try and walk all over you. Unfortunate, but true.

**what a beautiful little girl

RayRay~
post #94 of 205
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Originally Posted by pixiesmommy View Post
Thank you for suing. Thank you for standing up for those who might not have had the strength to stand up for themselves. For those babies who get taken away from Mommies for no good reason. For those Mommies who get raped by the medical industry in so many ways. For those of us who live in terror of something just like this happening and feeling so out of control. It might seem small and insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but YOU made a difference in that hospital, in that town, with that CNM.... etc.

BIG HUGS!!!!

'Manda


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Originally Posted by fourlittlebirds View Post
Thank you, thank you, thank you. If more women would fight back and demand restitution for institutional abuse, change would begin to happen. You did a good thing. Now I hope you can begin to heal.

Hugs mama! I am so sorry for what you went through. You are a beautiful example to the many women who are victimized in medical situations each year. Thank you for setting the example and giving them the courage to stand up.
post #95 of 205
I too was raped at a hospital by a "doctor". It was following a miscarriage in which I thought I was hemorraging, though in reality everything was fine. (I knew everything was fine when I delivered the placenta finally and stopped having contractions, stopped bleeding).

I wondered: would you consider writing a letter/ proposal for a show by a program such as Oprah, Primetime, 60 minutes or any other news/talk show. I think with a little research they would discover plenty of women, and possibly men who are abused and rendered powerless in a hospital setting. Doctors, nurses and hospitals have entirely too much power over those they are supposed to care for. My experience is that the majority think our care is their right, their responsibility. It is a fundamental problem with the modern medical establishment.

Love and healing to you
post #96 of 205
What an awful, awful experience. My heart goes out to you and your family. Kudos to you for having the strength to pursue both therapy and justice. Hopefully your story will help this to never be repeated.
post #97 of 205
I just wanted to say hugs to you....and I wanted to say thanks for standing up and suing those bastards instead of just letting it go like a lot of people would have.

It would be hard for me to trust again given your situation but I am glad your daughter will be okay and know that she has a wonderful mom who stood up for her rights.
post #98 of 205
you have the courage to stand up to authority that i only dream of having .. and the patience to see this thing through! an inspiration ...
post #99 of 205
Sister, I am so sorry!!! There truly are no words... but in the end, wow! What a little angel you have! And you're around to enjoy her too! That's the biggest blessing ever, no matter what. God bless your family.
post #100 of 205
Thread Starter 
I am bringing this over from another thread that got hijacked with questions about my experience. I wanted to let the thread get backk to the OP's question so...here is the post and I will try to answer what I can.

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I know you can't talk about the settlement, but can you explain more about the charges you filed against the hospital, staff and police? I think many women can learn from and be inspired by your story. Physicians still love to spread the myth that the only cesarean you get sued for is the one you didn't do. Looks like you proved them wrong. And I'm so very sorry you and your family suffered so much for it. What happened to you was indeed a crime, and I really admire you for making sure people were held accountable for it.

I'm curious to know, too, whether the suit against the hospital was for malpractice--was it a civil suit? And then you also filed criminal charges against the CNM and other staff? Was anyone convicted of criminal charges? I'm assuming you also filed complaints with licensing boards--is that how the CNM lost her license? Or was it the result of criminal charges? Also, how were you able to prove that you were lied to? That would be very helpful information for other women to have.

Sorry for so many questions! But I do think other women can learn more from your experience about how they can see to it that some form of justice done in the aftermath of the type of abuse that you endured.

Also, if you don't mind PM-ing me the name of your attorney, I would really appreciate it (please note that my user name isn't my actual email address--using the PM feature here will work though).

I'd like to get in touch with him/her because I'm working with a group of attorneys who are developing a continuing education program for lawyers where they can get CEUs for learning about the patient rights abuses that birthing women endure and legal strategies (such as yours) for remedying them. We have a physician, too, who will teach a workshop educating malpractice attorneys about the medical misinformation that expert witnesses use in malpractice cases. Another attorney who won a malpractice case for an unnecessary cesarean will be leading a workshop, and I know he would be interested in networking with attorneys who have been involved with similar cases.

Thank you for sharing your story with us.

Katie Prown
Legislative Chair
Wisconsin Guild of Midwives
The suit was civil...my Atty had considered trying to get the DA to file wrongful imprisonment charges for both me and DD but didn't think that if it went to a jury that the general public would understand because it all would have seemed pretty normal to them since most people are very in bedded in the Dr.'s know what's right mentality.

The sexual assault charges were going to be filed by the DA against the CNM as a criminal issue. He had agreed to move forward with them and agreed to let them go to allow mediation to continue. So no, there were no criminal convictions in the case.

The CNM has not yet lost her license, but that is still working it's way through the system via the licensing board due to the complaint that was filed. My understanding is that I am not the first victim that has filed a complaint against this particular CNM. She has however lost her privileges at that hospital due to the suit (they decided that she was a liability).

I was able to prove the lies because DH was quick enough and smart enough to grab our files from out rooms. The hospital threatened to charge him with theft...the mediator advised them that it was really not a great idea to go there and they didn't. We had all the monitoring strips and vitals charts that showed absolutely no fetal or maternal distress, no sign of infection, no fevers etc. It also showed the refusal of pit without an epidural although it can be done. It showed that they drew blood for the HIV test that I refused. They also showed that a perfectly healthy baby was taken to the NICU for no reason and subject to completely unnecessary treatments and tests that had been refused. It showed that they were aware of the medical proxy given to my MIL and went against it. It also in the notes showed their complete contempt for our family and choices...had words like ignorant, combative non compliance in it.

This is not in my Atty's bag of tricks normally. He did not want to get involved at all in this case and will not be doing anymore in t he future. He did this a favor to my family. He had been our Atty for many years and his firm is very well connected in our community. We had no one else to call that day and he was kind enough to step up to the plate and continue with the case since he felt no one else would. He is not a personal injury atty. He actually specializes in probate and real estate!!! He used many resourses within and outside of his firm. I really don't think he would be of any help to you as I think he would like to just put this whole thing behind him and get on with his real job

I think that answered everything...please let me know if there is anything else.
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