Diamond Baby Wow!I'd love to have a taste of your second chance! Come join us over at the toddler forum! They are glorious, challenging, life-embracing little people!
I truly believe that she does and will remember you in the deepest part of her being. There are many people exploring the profound bonding that takes place in utero and even pre-conception!
The awesome insights from the people of Quantum Parenting have helped me immensely with understanding separation trauma and ways to heal.
Here on MDC moms have used EMDR, Cranial-Sacral, and homeopathic therapies to gently uncover hidden grief and trauma with many reports of gradual success. Just take it one layer at a time.
The homeopathic Lac Maturnum (mother's milk) is described in depth here:
I've been using it to help my toddler man adjust to reduced nursing/supply from pregnancy until my milk returns. Also for my own maternal loss.
It may be a gentle way to create the space for that previous connection you shared with her at birth.
Check out The Continuum Concept book by Jean Leidloff. Great observations of the paramount importance of physical closeness and compassionate response with our little ones.
As you get more confident and comfortable with her, try out a toddler carrier. Few better ways of bonding than being close and active!
Perhaps consider sleeping with her if she feels best that way. As she heals, you may see regressive behavior resembling a much younger child and allowing her to re-claim an infancy in your arms can have far reaching effects in her level of security.
I love that your partner is so supportive! Give him a huge hug from me!
I've got TONS of info, referrals, resources....PM me anytime
I'm sooooo jealous of you!