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post #1 of 34
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What are your thoughts on this? DD is 5 mos and we still haven't taken her for her 4 mo because we don't want vax or the tear duct surgery being recommended. I know the ultimate answer is finding another ped but we are planning to move within the next 5 mos so it seems silly to switch peds only to move to switch again for checkups where they check her weight, vitals, and that's about it.

I'm not sure what I want to do. Should I go to old ped so they can scold me for skipping a visit, delaying vax, and surgery? Find new ped in area between now and when we move? Find new ped which will be at least an hour's drive away and start going there? Or just wait until we move and not worry about visits unless there is a problem? What are others doing in similar situations?
post #2 of 34
wbv are set up to get you to vaccinate...there really is NO point if you arent vaxing...
the only thing that im wondering about is tear duct surgery? im not really sure what that is, what would happen if you delayed that?
post #3 of 34
dd has never seen an MD.

-Angela
post #4 of 34
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DS3 has seen an MD once to check on his hernia at 1 week old. He hasn't been back.
DS1 and DS2 have not seen an MD in over 2 years.
post #5 of 34
We don't do WBV - total waste of time.
post #6 of 34
Re: the tear duct surgery- is it for a clogged tear duct? My understanding is that it frequently clears up on its own but that there are nonsurgical treatments that you can try. The pedi at the wbv would just refer you on to a specialist so maybe you should just ask for a recommendation if it doesn't clear up on its own.

One thing that a specialist might recommend is antibiotic eye drops as well as massaging the tear duct (there's a specific way to do this and I don't know what it is so don't take my recommendation here)- this clears the problem up in almost all cases. I can also understand wanting to avoid antibiotics at this age but if it enables you to prevent future, more invasive surgery, it might be worth considering. I hope that helps!

My friend's son had this and did end up having the surgery rather early (6 months or so) and it went smoothly but she wonders now if it could have been avoided with the tear duct massage and drops.
post #7 of 34
I think I took James for a quick check up at 18 months...before that it was 4 months. I'm not an idiot. I can look at my child and say 'yup he's healthy' so far I'm doing a bang up job. LOL

I intend to buy one of those infant digital scales from BRU (they are like $100 but o'well) and keep track of Wee One's weight on that. Otherwise, I think they are a total waste of time.

Besides, what it the point of taking my HEALTHY baby into a building full of sick people?
post #8 of 34
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Originally Posted by JamesMama View Post
Besides, what it the point of taking my HEALTHY baby into a building full of sick people?
No kidding!
post #9 of 34
Thread Starter 
Hey everybody, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking I have enough confidence to know if baby needs a check up.

As for the clogged tear duct, we have already tried the massage and eye ointment from early on and it hasn't worked. I've read on here already that sometimes it resolves itself after a year so I don't see any reason to do anything just yet if I don't have to. If anyone has any other suggestions though I'd be happy to hear them since the massage and ointment hasn't helped.
post #10 of 34
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Originally Posted by pixiewytch View Post
Hey everybody, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking I have enough confidence to know if baby needs a check up.

As for the clogged tear duct, we have already tried the massage and eye ointment from early on and it hasn't worked. I've read on here already that sometimes it resolves itself after a year so I don't see any reason to do anything just yet if I don't have to. If anyone has any other suggestions though I'd be happy to hear them since the massage and ointment hasn't helped.
My dd's resolved right around six months. If the fluid started to look a bit yellow, I'd drip some mother's milk in the eye, but other than that left it alone.
post #11 of 34
We do well baby checks. Our family Dr., though not anti-vax, does not hound me about them, so- I feel like I am somewhat covering our butts in case anyone ever does go after us for not vaccinating. If I have to take one of my DC to the hospital, I want to be sure we have a Dr. who knows us well, respects us and will "vouch" for u us, so to speak. YMMV, esp. considering you don't feel your ped does respect you/ your choices.

FWIW, my son's clogged duct finally cleared on it's own at 5 months, and even our ultra-intervention happy ped that we had at the time, felt waiting until after a year was the way to go.
post #12 of 34
We were wondering about this too. We don't vax, so we are basically paying to have him weighed, measured, and to get lectured on "how terrible it would be if he died from a disease we could have prevented". I think it's a waste of time & money but my husband is not so sure. He likes the idea of having records of his trends and whatnot.
post #13 of 34
We've done WBV so far... but I honestly wouldn't go if I had to pay anything... I suppose thats one good thing about being dirt poor - medicaid! I also wouldn't go if my doc wasn't OK with my decision to not vax - which I'm in the process of firming up for both myself and DH with books Z. Miller's and Kirby's books
post #14 of 34
Another "we don't do WBV" here. Until about two weeks ago, my dd#2 hadn't been to the ped since she was about a week old. She got sick and I decided to take her in. I was totally prepared to be interrogated about vaxes and such. After the nurse checked us in, she said, "Are you planning on getting any shots?" My reply was, "We're currently planning on delaying until at least two." (we're really planning on not getting any vaxes at this point) And.......that was the end of the discussion! I was a little surprised, but pleasantly so.

I had my baby checked at birth, one week (or ten days, can't remember), have called the consulting nurse w/questions, and have taken her in to be looked at (once) when I was really concerned. I think that shows that I can and do provide her medical care when necessary. Since we're not vaxing and I can see with my own two eyes that she's healthy and thriving, I'll not be taking her in for WBV.

Jill
post #15 of 34
We don't do them normally.. We went to the 2 month, a 6 month (because dh was hounding me about a rash she had) and that was it until this one last week, and that was just because I keep hearing about people getting divorced, and then during custody battles it not looking good to never take the child to the doctor to the courts, ETC.. and it got me paranoid, even though i don't count on getting divorced or anything, me and DH are perfectly happy. lol like I said, Paranoid. Now that i know the doctor is okay with no vaccines, I'll be doing a yearly thing Possibly now. I haven't decided. I figure I go yearly. lol

I'm actually kinda glad I went as miranda had a chunk of blue playdoh in the ear, and I would of never known if it wasn't for the appt. lol but before this one I didn't count on doctors to make sure she was okay or not, and I still don't. But they are great for Diagnosing Playdoh in the ear. lol
post #16 of 34
WBV are basically vaccine visits, so they are really not necessary. I do them just to have a "medical record" though. They are free with our ins., so might as well, you know? Our doctor has specific hours for only well babies, so we aren't really exposed to too much, I wouldn't think.

As for the tear duct, ds had a blocked one that resolved itself. I don't remember how old he was. I squirted breast milk in it every now and then when the discharge looked yellow and that was it.
post #17 of 34
IMO 4 months is really early to consider surgery for the tear duct. DS had it, cleared at 15 months the Eye Doc we saw said he wouldn't cinsdier anything until at least 12 months. Try breastmilk in the eye and a Chiropractor that is what eventually worked for us. We do not do WBV. I am confident that Elliot is meeting milestones and as long as he his healthy why drag him to a place crawling with the germies?
post #18 of 34
We see a family practice doctor (if/ when we are sick) and he said that wbv are designed to accomodate the vax schedule. He said he saw no point in seeing my ds unless we would like to bring him in or if/ when he is sick. Ds2 saw him at about 4 weeks and has not been back since
post #19 of 34
None of my kids have been for a well baby visit.

Edited to add we only go to a dr when really sick or somethings wrong we cant figure out.
post #20 of 34
I was pretty confident that my MW would have picked up a heart problem or genetic defect of DS had one, so he hasn't been to well visits at all.

I would only take my kiddos to the doctor if I knew there was a SERIOUS problem, otherwise it seems for a number of reasons more dangerous to take them than not to. Learned this the hard way with 1st 2 kids.

However, it's good to have a doctor in place for when the kids DO need them. Preferably one that you can trust not to damage your kids.
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