(X-posted in Birth Stories after my birth story with dd#1 http://www.mothering.com/discussions...=633390&page=2 )
WWYD - my sister-in-law is now studying to be a doula. She is great - empathetic and super keen. She's 45, has two teenagers, has been working at women's shelters for years. I think she'd be a great support. Plus she'd be free ($)
I have been interviewing doulas since finding out I'm PG with bb#2.
I have deliberately been trying to find someone who has experience working with mothers who had a traumatic birth and have postpartum mood issues. I need that person to be supportive and not judgemental, no matter which way the birth and postpartum goes.
I think my sister-in-law could be helpful..........I've thought about asking her to read that Penny Simpkin book for birth professionals working with abuse survivors.........and telling her very specifically about the kind of words I need her to use during the birth.
So my dilemma is this: Do I ask my sister-in-law to do a bit of preparing and studying and give her a try? Or do I stick specifically to someone who already has a proven track record????
Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.
WWYD - my sister-in-law is now studying to be a doula. She is great - empathetic and super keen. She's 45, has two teenagers, has been working at women's shelters for years. I think she'd be a great support. Plus she'd be free ($)
I have been interviewing doulas since finding out I'm PG with bb#2.
I have deliberately been trying to find someone who has experience working with mothers who had a traumatic birth and have postpartum mood issues. I need that person to be supportive and not judgemental, no matter which way the birth and postpartum goes.
I think my sister-in-law could be helpful..........I've thought about asking her to read that Penny Simpkin book for birth professionals working with abuse survivors.........and telling her very specifically about the kind of words I need her to use during the birth.
So my dilemma is this: Do I ask my sister-in-law to do a bit of preparing and studying and give her a try? Or do I stick specifically to someone who already has a proven track record????
Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.
Goodluck choosing a doula.....follow what your heart is telling you!!
Thanks Zenma. I deleted it because I was embarassed by how raw it was. I also think it's problematic to have too high or unrealistic expectations and to do the whole 'poor me wah-wah' thing. 
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