As much as that makes me cringe a little, I can sort of understand it. We're protective of eachother here, and it has happened on more than one occasion that someone comes in here spouting off a bunch of sanctimonious or unhelpful crap, simply because they think they know it all, yet they don't have a SN child. The same thing happens in other specialty forums here, where the posters have a history of being belittled, attacked, chastised, etc., and that specialty forum was created to be a haven. You naturally want to protect the haven, kwim?
I will say this....on the 2 other boards I was on before I came here, the SN board was private, much like the abuse survivors board, and any old joe couldn't just wander in and start posting. I can see the benefits of both styles...here, moms who have an as yet undiagnosed sn child can come here and freely ask for help and opinions without having to go through a mod. At the same time, the posters still have to defend the fort, per se, from people who are here to do nothing but display their know-it-all-ness or spout their superior parenting tips to us sn parents who obviously screwed up because we have sn children (some people really do think that way....).
It's a hard line to walk sometimes. Like the whole vax thing, I guess.
However, the level of mutual respect here is really hard-won, and I don't like when someone who has a really strong agenda sort of shows up here to promote it, without realizing that there's been a lot of work done by everyone to make sure we all get along. Things like the Chelation Wars, or the Great 'Autism Speaks' Argument of March 2007, or the ABA vs Son-Rise vs Leave-them-alone-and-let-them-be Disputes have helped me, for one, realize that someone can disagree with me and not be evil.
Do I wish some of you guys would drop the "disorder" part of "ASD"? Do I worry about autistic children being labeled as somehow "lesser" or "broken." Sure. But as a disabled person, I understand the challenges and marginalization that we all face, and I know you guys deal with many of the same issues as parents. You guys are really not the enemy--and I'm sure you all fight various assumptions made about you and your parenting, every day, because you have kids on the spectrum. So, I stay out of arguments in which I'd really just be ranting, and I notice that some other posters who disagree with me do let me have my say without jumping down my throat either. So thanks.
We have a nice "safe place" here. I'd like to keep it that way.