Originally Posted by angelpie545
Thank you for that-I think I remember writing a paper on that one time? A long time ago perhaps? Anyway, because children are more likely to be abused and neglected when they are in the foster care system, it makes me very hesitant to call CPS, and when other solutions are possible, I employ those first. It is right that, yes some homes are dysfunctional, but if there was an agency that had the resources to at least help these families, not tear them apart, it would be of a great service to children. Some CPS branches DO have services that are directed at "Family Preservation", however in depth they are, I don't know, but I don't think it's anywhere near the degree that we need to be seeing.
The familial unit, and the stability of it is the most influential and important structure in a child's life. Tearing to apart, even when there are some questionable activities(and I am NOT talking about severe abuse here, or cases where the child is in danger of losing his/her life or is risking being beaten black and blue, or is being sexually abused) is proven over and over again to be very detremental to the both the child and the family, and can and most often does result in irreperable emotional scars. Just ask the mothers on here who have been falsely accused-some suffer from PTSD, others live in fear of the next knock on the door. Ideally, if a child HAS to be removed from the house, the best placement is with relatives on either side who have an emotional attachment to the child. Placing a child with strangers who have no emotional attachment to them is going to inevitably place them at risk for abuse, statistically.
I pretty much agree with this. In most cases kids should be kept with family members either pparents, or other relatives, but I don't see what that has to do with calling CPS. CPS agrees with you, too.
I've called seven times and 6 times the child remained in the home and wasn't taken away from the parents for longer than the interview. In the seventh case, it was very extreme and many, many people had called. I call when I have a hunch because if there is just one call on a family, they just "check in" with them, which has even happened with my family, so I don't take it lightly. But, if several people have had a hunch, there might be something going on.
In several cases when I have called, they have not even taken a report. I encourage people to call if they suspect abuse and let CPS decide if it is a valid "reportable" concern. For example, one time I called because I knew a 9 year old who was left home to babysit his 12 month old brother for 8 hours daily in the summer. This particular 9 year old was very immature and not equipped for this, but they said it wasn't reportable unless there was more known danger and they sent me a pamphlet on babysitting guidlines. When you call, the don't immediatly make a report. First, they ask you to tell them the situation, then if it is reportable they start asking for the names and addresses of the people involved.
In many cases, I feel like they haven't done enough. I get a letter back a few weeks later saying that they found nothing which is crazy to me. Another example, a 12 year old girl whose mother had moved away with her boyfriend and left the daughter in the care of the daughters boyfriend who was 21. CPS told me that this boyfriend was actually the child's gaurdian. Ok, she's sleeping with her guardian! What kind of power dynamic is that? They said she seemed mature for her age.
So, in general, I believe that it is usually best for the child to remain with family. I call CPS when I suspect abuse.
I do find it odd that on TAO right now there is a thread that if you hear a man and a woman fighting and you suspect violence you have a moral obligation to call the police, but with children and parents we should butt out because we don't know the situation. I figure that whatever a parent is willing to do in the parking lot is 100% nicer/kinder/gentler than what is going on in the privacy of the home.