Originally Posted by Rivka5
So yeah, I would hate to have CPS called on me. But I'm not going to say that, in order to make absolutely sure that *I* never suffer from a false accusation, kids like the ones I grew up with should be left right where they are.
What I don't get is the either/or dichotomy: Either
some wrongly-accused parents have to get mixed up in the system -- or
criminally abused children have to "be left right where they are."
I have a friend who does foster-care, so I've learned a few things about detachment disorder. Apparently, any child who has her relationship with her primary caregiver(s) disrupted in the first 3 years of life, is at risk for developing this disorder.
This means that for parents who haven't been criminally abusive, but are simply under CPS investigation (maybe for having an obese child or for extended breastfeeding) -- to place those children in foster care is to put them at risk for detachment disorder. And, as you've already pointed out -- while children with criminally abusive parents are statistically safer in foster care, children in the general population (even if obese or -- gasp -- still being nurtured at the breast at age 6) are statistically safer when "left right where they are" -- at home.
Okay, the 6yo who's imprisoned in foster-care for extended breastfeeding may be too old to develop detachment disorder -- but what about younger siblings who may also be taken out of the home? (In my state, if CPS perceives one child as being at risk, all the other children are taken out of the home as well, meaning a new baby may be denied her mother's milk while CPS "investigates" the breastfeeding relationship with the older child.) AND, even if the 6yo's too old for detachment disorder, that doesn't mean there's no psychological harm done to an older child who's taken from his parents.
So, if children of wrongly accused parents are placed in foster care -- not only is their risk of abuse increased, so is their risk for developing detachment disorder.
I don't see why recognizing this, has anything to do with leaving children with adult-sized, hand-shaped bruises
on their faces, or infants with broken ribs from being thrown against the wall
, "right where they are."