Originally Posted by BelgianSheepDog
I'm definitely not in the "paranoid about CPS" club. But honestly, if I was having depression issues as a parent, they're about the last place I'd turn for help. I got a heavy enough dose of shame and attempts at controlling me from "the system" as a childless 20-year-old with depression. I shudder to think what they would do "for the good of your child."
Seems like Storm Bride found a way through. I agree that we should help parents who are struggling, but I don't think calling in the authorities is "help" per se.
But what about parents who don't want help, who insist they don't need help, and who think that the beatings/name callings are perfectly fine, you don't need to stick your nosy nose into their business?
I give anyone that - if there's another way through, then that's great. Giving the names of local social services, talking with a parent, distracting them, etc. But so many times when you do try this, they tell you to MYOB and those kids are theirs, not yours, so they can do as they see fit. I could share some stories, if that would help. We've had kids show up at the library, crying, in their pajamas, because they're so afraid of mom who was throwing stuff at them. We called the police. The mom shows up and gets mad at us for interfering in her life and calling the police. We've had young children left at the library past closing time, nobody answering the phone at home, we call the police to keep the kids, the parents are all mad because we should've just waited for...hours? What they are, is embarrassed and mad that they got caught doing something they KNEW was wrong. And if they aren't willing to change of their own volition, I don't see anything wrong with CPS helping them along a little.
Most of those CPS-is-Scary sites have long articles on how it's just fine to spank and discipline your kids as you wish, cos the Bible told them so. And that's not even counting the people who look away or don't want to get involved.
People would get more up in arms and DO something if they saw a puppy being called names, hit, or threatened with violence.