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Would you leave your child in a hotel room?

post #1 of 262
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Like the McCanns did?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/e...re/6623127.stm

This is such a distressing and heartbreaking story and it is also so frightening. We have not left our DD alone in hotel room to sleep, not so much because of fear of kidnapping or even fire but more because I would not want her to wake up in a strange place alone and have no one respond when she called out or cried.

BUT we have left her with a babysitter hired by the hotel, and I am thinking that statistically, she was probably in greater danger being left with a babysitter that we did not know...Should we have left her alone, then?

I bear no judgment on the parents. I am sure that we put our children in greater danger when we take them out in the car on the highway (even with the child in a carseat). But these situations sure are difficult ones when we are in them and the story sure scares the bejeebers out of me.
post #2 of 262
No, I wouldn`t leave my child alone in the hotel. Personally I wouldn`t leave him with a babysitter from the hotel, either.

But I would never, ever blame these poor, poor parents for anything of this! Never. I so, so feel for them. This story makes me cry everyday. I check newspapers online a gazzillion times a day to see if anything new has happened in this case. This case makes me want to throw up. She is just a baby!!!

I can`t stop thinking about what this tiny, little girl maybe is going through. I hope, hope, hope she is safe and that she isn`t abused in the way the police thinks she might be.
post #3 of 262
I feel for them, but I think they did something incredibly stupid and selfish. That poor baby
post #4 of 262
Um no never ever, just like I wouldnt leave my child home alone either. I am sorry for the family but they made a really bad choice.
post #5 of 262
No, I wouldn't.
post #6 of 262
I don't think we would leave dd with a hotel babysitter we almost did at disney paris but just took her with us. I have left her sleeping to go to my moms room which was just across and you could here everything the walls were super thin at this hotel in amsterdam.
post #7 of 262
I would never leave my chiildren at home alone at that age and just check in on them every hour.
post #8 of 262
Bad choice...I would never leave my children of that age alone.

What were they thinking! Maybe I would pay to bring my babysitter on vacation with us if my dh and I felt that strongly that we had to have time alone (have not felt that strongly about it to this point). At least I know the person is trustworthy and my kids would already be comfortable with her.

My heart certainly goes out to this family. I certainly do not need to add to any of the blame I am sure they currently feel. I will keep Madeleine in my prayers. Poor baby.
post #9 of 262
I am very sorry for what has happened to this little girl but I, too, feel this family made some very poor, very selfish decisions. I would NEVER leave my DC alone like that. PERIOD.
post #10 of 262
We stayed at an inn with my then-18 mo in March. The dining room was down a corridor and around the corner from our room and we could see our room from the dining room window, across a garden. The monitor reached, just barely.

After a couple of toddler-ful dinners it was very very tempting to leave him there as it would barely take more time to get there than it would from the basement to his room in our house. And the idea of a calm meal was hugely appealing.

In the end we decided not to, but I really really understand this couple's choice. I really hope for a safe outcome.
post #11 of 262
Absolutely not.

We often get suites and order up room service after dd is asleep in the bedroom. Add a nice bottle of wine, some candles, and a little music and it is a date.
post #12 of 262
No, I wouldn't. And I wouldn't leave DS with a Babysitter hired-by-the-hotel either.

When we travel, the family stays together at all times.
post #13 of 262
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Originally Posted by Yooper View Post
We often get suites and order up room service after dd is asleep in the bedroom. Add a nice bottle of wine, some candles, and a little music and it is a date.
This is exactly what my husband and I are planning to do when we travel this summer with my daughter. We aren't comfortable with leaving her with a hotel babysitter, and we would never even consider leaving her in a hotel room alone.

Honestly though, I feel bad for the parents in this case. They made a foolish mistake, and I am sure I have made some of those before. But, I don't think they were selfish per se, but probably just naive. I think they just thought it was a beautiful, peaceful, lovely place and that nothing like that could ever happen there. I think it's really easy to slip into that way of thinking when you are at one of those sort of unreal vacations spots where things appear so differently than the real world. Everything seems so perfect.

I hope and pray that Madeleine is found alive. I keep thinking about her and what she might be going through.
post #14 of 262
No way. I wouldn't use hotel-hired childcare, either. But since they have it, it must not be that out of the norm to use it.....just not something for my family.

I hope that beautiful little girl is found safe :cry:
post #15 of 262
I really think that in this case it is not a "hotel room" such as Americans usually think of. From what I have read, it seems it was a holiday apartment/suite, which could be SEEN from the outdoor restaurant where they were eating. They were not any further from the sleeping children than parents might be in a larger home, and parents frequently leave children sleeping alone in a bedroom while they putter about in the rest of the house. I can only imagine what this family is going through and how terrifying it must be for them. I truly hope nobody is blaming them - I am sure they are doing enough of that themselves :-/
post #16 of 262
My dd was never that great of an alone sleeper so it wasn't something I ever considered. (dd was a great sleeper as long a someone was besides her!)

Maybe if the room was locked AND dd was in a crib she couldn't get out of AND she was too young to stand up AND I had a monitor AND the door was in sight and close enough that I could hear the child cry and hear the door open AND someone physically checked on her atleast hourly.

I've always lived in tiny apartments so I'm not use to being far away from dd when she takes a nap (dd co-sleeps at night)
post #17 of 262
No I would not. It seems that if they were travelling with that many adults then they could have taken turns with the other adults watching in watching the children. That is very sad. I hope they find her.
post #18 of 262
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Originally Posted by crayolaab View Post
From what I have read, it seems it was a holiday apartment/suite, which could be SEEN from the outdoor restaurant where they were eating. They were not any further from the sleeping children than parents might be in a larger home, and parents frequently leave children sleeping alone in a bedroom while they putter about in the rest of the house. I can only imagine what this family is going through and how terrifying it must be for them. I truly hope nobody is blaming them - I am sure they are doing enough of that themselves :-/
I am not interested in blaming the parents either...what happened is horrible, but they didn't do anything horrible imo.....but the link said:

"Madeleine's parents - both doctors - had been having a meal in a tapas restaurant a few hundred yards from the apartment"

Even if that was 300 yards (a few), that is 3 football fields away. That is much farther than most of us normally leave our children, I would think. But maybe the distance estimate was wrong?
post #19 of 262
I would never leave a 3yo alone in a hotel room.

My 11yo and 12yo? Sure!

IMO, they're not old enough to be alone in a hotel room until they're old enough to be left home alone.

My heart goes out to this family, and I'd never consider pushing my American values onto people from other areas- it sounds like this was a British family?
post #20 of 262
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Originally Posted by Ruthla View Post
My heart goes out to this family, and I'd never consider pushing my American values onto people from other areas- it sounds like this was a British family?
There's another thread about this little girl current events. This same point about American values was brought up there as well and many Brits were quick to jump in and claim no difference. They were pretty offended--understandably, imo.

I'd like to think that I wouldn't leave my children alone in a hotel room but I'd never say "never." If the situation were such that I felt it was safe, who knows??
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