Originally Posted by moonfirefaery
Either they didn't think of what could happen, or they didn't care.
I find the accusation (and you're not the only one) that these parents didnt care absolutely, mind-blowingly astonishing.
The other word that is incredible to me is 'selfish'.
Plus other phrases like 'cant be bothered to take your children with you.'
Sheesh, the lack of compassion here astounds me, over and over.
Sure, imo they made a bad judgement. But a bad judgement does not equate to selfishness or a lack of caring about your child!
None of us know what happened to that family that evening. Had the children eaten earlier and fallen asleep? Was their nap schedule way off, meaning that there was no way they would manage a dinner out? It's a huge leap to take 'parents eating alone' to 'don't care about their children and can't be bothered with them'. Is it a crime to want a dinner out with your partner and no kids? (no I'm not saying I think it's wise to do so and leave the kids, but doing something unwise does not automatically equate selfishness or lack of caring. That is just such an ugly jump to make.)
What amazes me about this thread is that anyone would feel a need to publicly speak out and say, in a world forum, that they would never have made the decision this family made. I'm sure that millions of people around the world, when they read this story, thought "Yikes, bad judgement on the parents' part." But is there really a need to say it? When the child is out there, missing, and the parents are beside themselves with grief and worry? Why do any of you need to say it? Why did anyone need to ask that question in the first place?
I guess at least it wasn't a poll. Like, "Yes, I'd have left my child unattended in a hotel room" or "No, I'd never do that!" And I guess it could have had other options, like "I don't care about my children" or "I'm just too lazy" or "I'm selfish" and even "I'm too AP to do anything like that - this is the action of a clearly unattached, mainstream parent. Bet they did CIO too!"
Sheesh, I'm feeling sarcastic today, but honestly, this thread is getting to me.
I know, for sure, that at any time, something like this could happen to me. I lost my 4 yo for 15 minutes today. It totally freaked me out, and when she was found (hiding, as a 'trick'), I lost it and cried, which is totally out of character for me. I guess that if she'd really gone missing, all these people on the internet would be debating "Would you turn your back to take care of you 2 y/o and lose sight of your 4 y/o, or are you too totally perfect to ever make a mistake." (For those of you about to jump and tell me that yes, it is indeed negligent to lose your child for 15 minutes, she was in her preschool yard, and I did not leave the yard, I just got busy dealing with her brother. But heck, someone could have got her through the gate. She was hidden right by the gate, in some bushes, and it was only a parent searching outside in the parking lot who spotted her hiding there.)
Enough said. I'm just truly stunned by some of the posts here. Truly stunned.