Originally Posted by Ruthla
I'd never consider pushing my American values onto people from other areas- it sounds like this was a British family?
I said it in the other thread, but there is no difference between British and American values on something like this. (circumcision, yes. Spanking, yes. But supervising your child, no.)
You would get the same cross-section of responses to the question posed on this thread in the UK as you would get here. Most people would not dream of leaving their child in a hotel room. A few people would consider doing it (but would probably never admit that here.)
This is not to say that I agree in any way in pointing fingers of blame at the parents here. I have never left my child unattended in a hotel room, nor would I ever do so. However, I'm not perfect, and but for the grace of God.....
I could not profess to have never had any of my children in a situation where something terrible could have happened. They could have fallen, got run over, got burned... any number of things. I've grabbed hands before they've touched hot stoves. I've dashed out after a toddler in the street. Just tonight I ran through a crowded restaurant after my fast
2 yo. Earlier today I had to yell at my 4 yo to stop before she ran into the street (to pick up a pine cone she'd spotted there.) Any one of those things could have ended up in disaster, and people could then be pointing fingers at me. I'm human. I do the best I can to forsee any situation of danger, but the truth is, we can't guarantee that our children will never get hurt.
Heck, I have a friend whose ds fell into the Grand Canyon, yet she's one of the most sensible people I know. Her son was OK, but he might not have been! Her mistake was not telling him that the other side of the wall was a sheer drop. How could she forsee that a 9 yo would climb the wall in a split second? As it is, it is a great dinner-party story for the family. But it could have been the end of family life as they know it.
My heart goes out to this family, and to anyone else who has suffered such a dreadful situation. I am not smug enough to think that something like this could not happen to my family. Maybe not something identical, but something equally as dreadful.
Praying for that little girl.....