Originally Posted by izobelle
Hazelnut, you wouldn't be to blame. You are not responsible for the crimes of other people. You would have made a mistake, an error, but this is not the same as committing a crime.
I'm not sure that's true. Depending on where you are, there are some laws re. leaving kids alone and CPS guidelines where a charge of neglect can be brought if something bad happens to a child who has been left unsupervised.
Am I to blame if I leave a loaded gun on the coffee table with an unsupervised toddler, and someone enters my home and shoots her with it?
I would think some of that responsibility would lie with me. Same in the arsenist scenario. Its why you're not supposed to leave kids alone. Bad, unthinkable, surprising, accidental, fatal, dangerous things can happen in the blink of an eye. And someone is supposed to be there to protect kids from them.
If the loaded gun on the coffee table nevers goes off, does it make it any better an idea to leave it there?
I think the vast majority of the people in this thread who "blame" the parents, think that leaving the kids was a bad idea REGARDLESS of the kidnapping.
Originally Posted by BookGoddess
Yes, they made a bad decision but they are paying for it now. Believe me they know it. No judgment we heap on these parents will ever equal the judgement, recrimination, and guilt they put on themselves now. Nothing we say can equal what they must be telling themselves. Nothing can equal it.
I am not trying to heap anything on these people or add to their suffering or make them feel bad. I'm just interested in discussing this case.
I'm sure none of us here would have this conversation in the parents' presence.
I might be an unsympathetic monster, but I'm not TACKY!