moms who have been preggo before -- really stupid question :)

[Momma Aimee]

ok this is REALLY STUPID

I have my 2nd appt next week, without OB.

I can't think of any questions!!!!

this is our 2nd preggo and iu am by no means an expert -- last time i had soooo many questions each appt. this time i really can't think of any......and i know i don't know it all ... so ........ what am i forgetting?

what kind of things are you talking to your providers about at your appts? what things are you bringing to their attention?

I am, going to tell him T is still nuresing strong -- i forgot at our first appt (which was an hour).......

but other than that......

i must just not be thinking of stuff, yk?

Aimee

[JamesMama]

Lets see....

I asked about lifting James, when it will become an issue (he's 28lbs). I asked about proper diet as I have some MAJOR food aversians (beef for the most part).

Um..not much else, I don't really HAVE any questions. True, I'm not an expert, but at the same time I'm not an idiot, yk? I figure if something really big comes up (Spotting, cramping, etc).

What I do is just leave a notebook out (one of those 'lil chubby' ones) and every once and again I will think of something I want to ask my M/W. Then right before my appt I'll go through the list and see which questions got answered over the course of the month and which questions need to be asked and ask those (typically it's like nothing. LOL)

[pixiesmommy]

Curious- not to steal the thread, but about what they said about lifting. DD is 42 lbs and I lift her all the time and mw said this was fine as long as I was comfortable with it. ??? I lifted things for my job and even moved when I was pregnant with dd and had no probs.

[wwisdomskr]

No such thing as a stupid question!

Is this a new hcp for you? If so, I think it's really important to spread out all your labor/birth related questions over all of your appointments...instead of waiting till the end of your pregnancy. When you ask them all at once, hcp's can have a knack for telling you exactly what you want to hear. Since they're not prepared to answer a little bit at a time, you're more likely to learn their true beliefs and procedures.

So! What did you like/dislike about your late pregnancy care/labor/birth with your first baby? Think about how you could phrase those things into open-ended questions. Don't tell the doc/nurse/mw how to answer your question in the way that you're asking it!

Henci Goer's book is a good reference for standard procedures and treatments, etc.

Maybe you could start by asking: "When do you consider your patients to be 'overdue?'" (If she/he says 40 weeks RUN OUT THE DOOR RIGHT THEN!) Then, "what do you recommend when your patients go beyond that?"

"How do you feel about siblings being present at the birth?"

At another appointment you could ask: "What would you recommend if I had a prolonged second stage?" and "What pushing positions do your patients typically like?"

Keep it down to just a couple each time and allow your hcp to give an unpressured response. You'll really learn a lot and then can make informed decisions about your care.

Hope this helps! Let me know if you need ideas about specific questions.

[scheelimama]

My next appt. is in 2.5 weeks (I'll be 16 weeks). If I still haven't gained any weight, I will probably ask about that. I might ask about my food aversions (though I've been able to eat much better this week, so it may not be an issue at all by then) and my lack of dairy intake (can't tolerate it). I'll probably also ask about running and if it's really not okay to get your heartrate over 140. I can't power walk a lot (due to hip issues) but running is much lower impact on my hip. Oh, and you'll want to ask about scheduling your 20 week ultrasound at your next appt.

I had plenty of appt.'s with my second where I really didn't have any questions. As long as I heard a strong heartbeat and my uterus was measuring correctly, we went on our way if there wasn't anything necessary to talk about.

[Momma Aimee]

Renea -- great reminder -- I don't THHNK there is an issue with lifting T -- berly 20 pounds now -- but i should ask.

yes this is a new OB for us -- but we have done a lot of research he is one of the best respcted in town. He is one of the few in town to support -- strongly VBAC and while we are not a BVAC it shows he is not intervention happy. he is highly recommended -- in fact i have heard a could of the older doulas call him a male midwife -- he just made his pratice a lot smaller but before that he backed up at least two of the local BH MWs........so I have a lot of faith in him -- and also i know that even if he isn't perfect (no one is) he is the best choice in this area with very limited birth choices.

[JamesMama]

My M/W said it'll be fine till the 3rd trimester, after that I can still lift him (she said she wasn't going to tell me not to because she knows I won't listen) but I should avoid it when I can.

Also asked about exercise, she said 125 heartrate is my limit for the 1st tri, 130 for the 2nd and 3rd. And I can't bike or ride on my mom's jet ski, but I can go on the boat.

[sorteep]

I asked if he woudl use a fetoscope after 20 wks.. he actually refused!! but agreed to *try* a stethescope and if could not get it consider doppler

I also askes about policy on his associates poss delivering vs him personally

I also have Q's about delayed cord clamping and cutting and waiting until placenta births naturally instead of pulling the freaking thing out of me

we also need to talk pro con on the 20 wk US.. we say no he wnats one for structural crap

ummmmmm can't think of anything else right now

[Mama Bear]

We are usinig a different mw for this baby. She has a small enough practice that we were able to have a meet-n-greet with her before ever scheduling a prenatal appt. We asked a crapload of question at a meet-n-greet appt (mostly regarding birth/hospital, etc...), then decided to go with the her.
I haven't really asked her anything more b/c I already know her stance on things and I don't really have any questions.