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That's ridiculouis?????

post #1 of 28
Thread Starter 
Yes, someone actually said that to me yesterday when I was carrying my 17lb, 10 month old in a Moby. A man walked past us, rolled his eyes and said, "you need to buy a stroller, that's ridiculous carrying her around in that thing, she's too big".........I said nothing and walked past wishing I had been carrying my 4 year old instead!!!


Eeeesh, I misspelled in my title, and I can't figure out how to edit it.......sorry
post #2 of 28
He was jealous. I still carry my 25 lb 11 month old in my carrier. I want a wrap, but I dont know how to use it, and I am afraid that I will drop him out of one after I have wrapped it wrong.

Again, the guy was jealous. I hope that you continue to proudly and fearlessly carry your babe in your moby wrap. HAPPY MOTHER's DAY.

-L

PS: You must be doing something awesome if its getting that much attention. I bet that that guy's legs hurt and he wanted to get in the wrap... and all that he could do was insult you, because of his envy
post #3 of 28
To rude people who make stupid comments.

M'Liss
post #4 of 28
When is carrying a 10 month old ridiculous? Sheeesh. I carry my 30 lb toddler everywhere. EVERYWHERE. And I don't even have an actual carrier, he's just resting on my big fat 7 month pregnant tummy. Double dog dare someone to tell me that's ridiculous!
post #5 of 28
"It's a lot easier to wear her than lug around the huge, heavy, bulky, awkward car seat bucket."

or the all-encompassing and hard to argue with:

"This works for us" or "She loves it! And so do I! Hands free!"
post #6 of 28
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Originally Posted by twopinknoblue View Post
A man walked past us, rolled his eyes and said, "you need to buy a stroller, that's ridiculous carrying her around in that thing, she's too big
A stranger? I think "Did I ask you?" : would just fall out of my mouth!

How strange that he would comment at all.
post #7 of 28
Maybe you should have said "you're not walking so well yourself, you ought to get a wheelchair"
post #8 of 28
Those are the moments where I break out the "hmmm, that's funny, I don't remember asking for your opinion." I've had to use that on 2 people, and it absolutely stops them in their tracks.
post #9 of 28
Thread Starter 
yeah, I was dumbfounded and really couldn't think of anything to say. I've never had anyone make anything but good comments about any of my carriers (I'm a bit of a carrier freak, and I have tons)!!

I still carry my almost 4 year old in both my sling and my Moby....I wonder what he would have had to say about that???!!!
post #10 of 28
What's ridiculous is a complete stranger making such a stupid comment! :
post #11 of 28
I agree with pp's. It would have just slipped out~ "Did I ask for your opinion? Wow, mind your own business!" What a jerk.
If you want to edit your title click edit then go advanced and it will let you change your title.
post #12 of 28
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Originally Posted by earthgirl View Post
What's ridiculous is a complete stranger making such a stupid comment! :
My thoughts exactly! Some people have no class.
post #13 of 28
I'm sorry you were the victim of drive-by parenting! Ppphtthththt on him. He's probably just jealous because he never got held as baby.
post #14 of 28
EXACTLY! I like pp's response-- My response would be "Don't take out your aggressions for your mom on me!" I've used that when people rudely comment when we're NIP. Or even something like, "Your poor kids!"
post #15 of 28
how 'bout " if i want bad parenting advice , i'll ask your mother" , ooohhh rude people tick me off!
post #16 of 28
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Originally Posted by Juvysen View Post
Maybe you should have said "you're not walking so well yourself, you ought to get a wheelchair"
:
post #17 of 28
depending on my mood, i may have kicked him in the shins...i HATE when people look at me funny for babywearing! i have had old ladies shake their heads when i am putting ds in a hotsling, and other people look at me crazy like: where is your stroller? andi live in a super crunchy area, so i can imagine what its like in other places. i went to target a few weeks ago and i was THE ONLY MOMMY WEARING HER BABY. and there were about a million mommies there, with brand new newborns strapped to the cart in their carseats. i saw a man in the waiting room at my doctor whose newborn was crying so hard, and he just kept rocking the carseat and trying to stick a pacifier in her mouth. THAT IS RIDICULOUS! i just wanted to run over and pick her up and cuddle her, because i bet that is all she wanted. people are weird. but i don't say anything to them for what they are doing! why do people think that they can just say things like that....okay, rant over!
post #18 of 28
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Originally Posted by Juvysen View Post
Maybe you should have said "you're not walking so well yourself, you ought to get a wheelchair"
Sorry to be off-topic, but this just sort of struck me as the sort of offhand comment about wheelchairs that kind of constitutes casual, normalized disablism. I know you didn't mean it that way, and I'm not even so sure why it bothers me so much, but it's sort of the fact that the snappy comeback/insult in the statement lies in implying that the man should be in a wheelchair, which sort of makes a wheelchair=insult connection.

There are wheelchair-using mamas on MDC... I'm not trying to be oversensitive, but I do think disablism passes much more easily on this forum than, for instance, racism or sexism, and it is a pretty prevalent societal problem.

That said, that guy needs to shut his mouth! That comment of his really steamed me : .
post #19 of 28
what a dork (is that alright to say?)...
post #20 of 28
I always give "the look" and say

"Do I know you?" while looking repulsed and dismissive.....

it's an art
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