That's ridiculouis?????

[twopinknoblue]

Yes, someone actually said that to me yesterday when I was carrying my 17lb, 10 month old in a Moby. A man walked past us, rolled his eyes and said, "you need to buy a stroller, that's ridiculous carrying her around in that thing, she's too big".........I said nothing and walked past wishing I had been carrying my 4 year old instead!!!


Eeeesh, I misspelled in my title, and I can't figure out how to edit it.......sorry

[J's Mombee]

He was jealous. I still carry my 25 lb 11 month old in my carrier. I want a wrap, but I dont know how to use it, and I am afraid that I will drop him out of one after I have wrapped it wrong.

Again, the guy was jealous. I hope that you continue to proudly and fearlessly carry your babe in your moby wrap. HAPPY MOTHER's DAY.

-L

PS: You must be doing something awesome if its getting that much attention. I bet that that guy's legs hurt and he wanted to get in the wrap... and all that he could do was insult you, because of his envy

[mliss]

To rude people who make stupid comments.

M'Liss

[bdavis337]

When is carrying a 10 month old ridiculous? Sheeesh. I carry my 30 lb toddler everywhere. EVERYWHERE. And I don't even have an actual carrier, he's just resting on my big fat 7 month pregnant tummy. Double dog dare someone to tell me that's ridiculous!

[_betsy_]

"It's a lot easier to wear her than lug around the huge, heavy, bulky, awkward car seat bucket."

or the all-encompassing and hard to argue with:

"This works for us" or "She loves it! And so do I! Hands free!"

[sunnmama]

Originally Posted by twopinknoblue

A man walked past us, rolled his eyes and said, "you need to buy a stroller, that's ridiculous carrying her around in that thing, she's too big

A stranger? I think "Did I ask you?" : would just fall out of my mouth!

How strange that he would comment at all.

[Juvysen]

Maybe you should have said "you're not walking so well yourself, you ought to get a wheelchair"

[rzberrymom]

Those are the moments where I break out the "hmmm, that's funny, I don't remember asking for your opinion." I've had to use that on 2 people, and it absolutely stops them in their tracks.

[twopinknoblue]

yeah, I was dumbfounded and really couldn't think of anything to say. I've never had anyone make anything but good comments about any of my carriers (I'm a bit of a carrier freak, and I have tons)!!

I still carry my almost 4 year old in both my sling and my Moby....I wonder what he would have had to say about that???!!!

[earthgirl]

What's ridiculous is a complete stranger making such a stupid comment! :

[babymakesthree]

I agree with pp's. It would have just slipped out~ "Did I ask for your opinion? Wow, mind your own business!" What a jerk.
If you want to edit your title click edit then go advanced and it will let you change your title.

[ledzepplon]

Originally Posted by earthgirl

What's ridiculous is a complete stranger making such a stupid comment! :

My thoughts exactly! Some people have no class.

[Quirky]

I'm sorry you were the victim of drive-by parenting! Ppphtthththt on him. He's probably just jealous because he never got held as baby.

[samantha546]

EXACTLY! I like pp's response-- My response would be "Don't take out your aggressions for your mom on me!" I've used that when people rudely comment when we're NIP. Or even something like, "Your poor kids!"

[Wooly]

how 'bout " if i want bad parenting advice , i'll ask your mother" , ooohhh rude people tick me off!

[jaxxy]

Originally Posted by Juvysen

Maybe you should have said "you're not walking so well yourself, you ought to get a wheelchair"

:

[bellymama]

depending on my mood, i may have kicked him in the shins...i HATE when people look at me funny for babywearing! i have had old ladies shake their heads when i am putting ds in a hotsling, and other people look at me crazy like: where is your stroller? andi live in a super crunchy area, so i can imagine what its like in other places. i went to target a few weeks ago and i was THE ONLY MOMMY WEARING HER BABY. and there were about a million mommies there, with brand new newborns strapped to the cart in their carseats. i saw a man in the waiting room at my doctor whose newborn was crying so hard, and he just kept rocking the carseat and trying to stick a pacifier in her mouth. THAT IS RIDICULOUS! i just wanted to run over and pick her up and cuddle her, because i bet that is all she wanted. people are weird. but i don't say anything to them for what they are doing! why do people think that they can just say things like that....okay, rant over!

[Individuation]

Originally Posted by Juvysen

Maybe you should have said "you're not walking so well yourself, you ought to get a wheelchair"

Sorry to be off-topic, but this just sort of struck me as the sort of offhand comment about wheelchairs that kind of constitutes casual, normalized disablism. I know you didn't mean it that way, and I'm not even so sure why it bothers me so much, but it's sort of the fact that the snappy comeback/insult in the statement lies in implying that the man should be in a wheelchair, which sort of makes a wheelchair=insult connection.

There are wheelchair-using mamas on MDC... I'm not trying to be oversensitive, but I do think disablism passes much more easily on this forum than, for instance, racism or sexism, and it is a pretty prevalent societal problem.

That said, that guy needs to shut his mouth! That comment of his really steamed me : .

[carmel23]

what a dork (is that alright to say?)...

[attachedmamaof3]

I always give "the look" and say

"Do I know you?" while looking repulsed and dismissive.....

it's an art