needs vs wants
Originally Posted by revolucionaria
this may not be a popular criticism, bc i am sure most of us on this site are big mothering mag fans, but i am starting to find that mothering mag does not really address issues pertaining to folks like me. ...
sometimes i get overwhelmed by page after page of beautiful advertisements for things i cannot afford.
In my quest to separate needs from wants (and focus on the needs as we strive to reduce/remove our debt)...yeah, I don't get any magazines. I bet Mothering would be cool, but I don't get any. When my mom asks what we want for Christmas, I always tell her The Ensign (a church magazine that I find very uplifting and encouraging) and the Readers Digest. So she usually gets me those subscriptions. Last christmas my MIL asked what she could get me for christmas, and since I had my first baby due in a month, I told her what I really wanted was a good quality nursing bra, so she gave me cash to go get one. Man I love that bra! It's the only really good one I have! (I have a few used from my mom, which are falling apart and don't fit quite right, but I couldnt' afford others, you know? So I make do).
I agree that it's hard to look out at all those things and think 'gee, I could get all organic clothing for my baby' and then realize that would cost $1000...and that i can have plenty of clothing for him (used and gifts) for next to nothing. I think I've spent about $20 on things for him--not counting the cloth diapers (which I make myself, and which cost me about $4/diaper). We debated that one a little bit, but realized that I could make pockets and AIOs of all new materials and that it would STILL be cheaper than disposables, and dh wasn't about to try to deal with prefolds (and, honestly, I didn't want to either, lol!). So we did kinda splurge there i guess, but we did the cheap version of splurging. LOL
We grow our own garden and I cook from scratch and shop sales, but other than dairy, we're not really getting organic foods. We just can't figure out how to afford it. We decided that dairy was the most important to get organic, so we do that, but between our garden for veggies, and a local orchard for fruit, we decided that buying organic produce at the store (and organic everything else) was jsut too pricy.
I sew, and so I do a lot of mending and making things where I can. (I sell some stuff also). DS7 goes through the knees of everything he wears, and so after a patch or two I just cut them off into shorts. The other day he said "mom, my collection of pants keeps shrinking, and my collection of shorts keeps growing!"
Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without, you know?!
So, in the idea of needs vs wants...well, we talked about giving up our netflix subscription, but realized that the reason we got it in the first place was that we don't go out to movies, and so we like to rent them occasionally...we kept track for a couple of months and realized that we were spending about $20/mo on movie rentals just to see 4-5 movies, and that for the same amount we could get three times as many via netflix--with no gas cost. So we switched. We also talked about giving up the internet, or switching to dial up instead of high speed...well, we decided that our sanity was worth the cost (I would go nuts only talking to kids all day! I need MDC and my email groups!) Plus I sell my sewing online, and I need to be able to upload pictures and things like that, and we didnt' want me to be tying up the phoneline for hours at a time to do that. So I guess those are techincally 'wants' that we are keeping, but we both know we'd spend the money in little splurges to still fillthose wants (movies and companionship), so we felt it was the wiser route.