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Poll Results: Did nursing come easily to you and your baby?

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post #161 of 195
It wasn't easy at first. My baby knew what to do, my milk came in fine, but my nipples were flat (unbeknownst to me prior to nursing). I had cracked, raw, extremely painful nipples for 10 weeks - for the first few weeks I cried a lot, because it was so hard to deal with the fact that I had no idea how long the pain would last. Everytime he latched out it was like ripping off a scab (although no scabs ever formed - just a metaphor). It was not a latch problem, I did not have thrush. I had my LLL leaders check everything, and we were doing everything right.

My nipples are much more stretched out and "pointy" now than they were prior to breastfeeding. (For example, prior to BFing, if I were out in a thin T-shirt and it was cold, you couldn't tell. Now, holy moly can you ever tell!)
post #162 of 195
My experience is the stuff dreams are made of. she latched on 2 min after birth and never stopped. at 10 1/2 months she is still 98% EBF. she is now self feeding the tiniest amounts on occasion.

we never had an ounce of trouble.
post #163 of 195
yes and no

first baby- had no problems nursing

second baby- yes big problems. she was a preemie and woudln't nurse at all. But I eventually got her to nurse when she was 9 mths and she's still nursing to day
post #164 of 195
I had trouble when I had Emma, becuase I had never nursed a baby before, and all Emma wanted to do was sleep (which I later found out from a lactation consultant from WIC that it was because of my medicine in the breastmilk). Plus, I had a little bit of trouble getting Emma properly latched. Otherwise, my milk came in no problem and I swear, I had enough to feed 8 kids!
When I had Angela, I had no problem at all, except for the excessive sleepiness caused by my medicine.

One thing I did to encourage me when I was teaching Emma to breastfeed was I would just say to myself, "Okay, get through this week, and if we can't work it out, you can quit". But, a week would go by and it would be a little bit easier. Then, I said to myself "Okay, get through one month". By the time a month came along, Emma and I were breastfeeding easily and I had more confidence.

(single mommy to Emma, 3 years and Angela, 2 years)
post #165 of 195
It did not come easy for me with either of my dd's. My first dd would not latch- but I didn't really know what that was at the time. We saw a LLL leader, we tried to get help from our pediatrician, we tried to get help from a midwife at my then OB's office, we tried the LC that was in the hospital. I was not pumping as much as I should have been, and then I stopped because I thought dd was nursing efficiently. She lost almost 2 pounds and had red crystals in her diaper from dehydration. By the time I realized all of this I tried pumping again and my milk supply had plummeted- all of the "professionals" told me to nurse as much as possible to get my supply up, but nobody was able give advice on how to get my dd to latch. We tried the SNS- I tried herbs- but it is really hard to relactate with a pump and a baby that won't latch. I pumped and pumped and pumped until I was getting less than 1/4 ounce in 24 hours when she was almost 6 months old. I stopped trying to nurse her between 4 and 6 weeks.

My second dd was also born not latching well, but I was prepared so much more and had a WONDERFUL LC in the hospital that helped me to start pumping right away. The hospital had a breastfeeding support group that met once a week and our ped's office had a NP that was also an LC and was so passionate about breastfeeding. I saw someone twice a week, trying to get my dd to latch. I learned that it can take some babies up to 4 weeks or more to learn to latch and I was reassured to not give up. So, I fed EBM for the first 3 weeks of her life. On one of my regular LC meetings- we did as we always did- we weighed dd, put her to the breast- and she actually latched and gulped and gained 4 ounces in that session! I don't remember feeling so happy about anything. Once I knew she could latch properly I weaned her from the bottle and started weaning myself off the pump. That took about 2 weeks. My daughter was an awesome nursling after that- she never had another bottle, never had a drop of formula and she is still nursing now (although not much anymore) at 3 years 2 months I am so happy that I did not give up, that I established a good milk supply early on with the pump, and that I had such wonderful support. I don't believe that many people are as dedicated as I, and most of the mamas here, and I really think I could have been easily another one of the "my baby didn't like it, I didn't make enough milk, etc, etc" moms I hear about every day. Breastfeeding was my number 1 priority for both of my girls and it was not an easy task.

My mom breastfed myself and my 2 siblings and we just latched with no problems. She was shocked at the difficulties I had. I also hope that if we have #3 that I might just get a baby that latches from birth. I had relatively flat nipples before, and I think that made it difficult for a newborn to latch, but my dd fixed that problem after 3 years of nursing
post #166 of 195
For some women, it's super easy. That's always been the one thing I was annoyed no one told me before I gave birth to dd. It was all horror stories about how hard it was and how I had to be very committed. For us, though, it was truly easy. It's even still easy now when she's 3 1/2 years old and there's another on the way.

I don't mean to downplay the fact that it isn't easy for some, either in general or during pregnancy, just to point out that sometimes/for some people it *is*. Strangely, though, while people wouldn't usually get upset because someone has an easier time digesting food, or pooping, or growing out their hair, when it comes to nursing and to some degree giving birth, those who find it "easy" are thought to be snubbing those who find it hard.
post #167 of 195
Yes, this time. With dd1 it was so much harder!
post #168 of 195
No. Although I didn't have any problems with latch, cracked nipple, mastitis, engorgement, etc, didn't have any problem with bf on demand, fed them all the time & every time, co-slept & breast-fed constantly (about 16-20 hours a day- don't know about when I slept with baby on breast)...... both of my children had failure-to-thrive. My DD didn't regain her birth weight until she was 14 weeks old, & only after I introduced supplements. My DS (2nd child) was able to maintain his birthweight for 3 months (I think he gained about 500 grams in 3 months) , but started to thrive after I introduced supplements at 12 weeks.

I did nothing but try & feed my babies in the time after they were born. I still have no idea why it went so badly for us. I still struggle, 10 years later, to come to terms with what happened to us. I should have been the poster-child for extended breastfeeding, because that was the only reality I imagined when I first gave birth. I didn't know that there was any other possibility for formula feeding, except after adoption. I just thought it was natural & breast feeding just happened if you tried hard enough & practiced enough & really wanted it to work.... I didn't know what to do about thin, sickly babies who ended up in the neo-natal unit from starvation.... That wasn't even in my realm of possibilities, yk? Even with my second, I thought it would be okay if i just offered the breast for 1/2 an hour whenever he was keen (at least every hour- or continuously) & persevered, yk??

As for pumping...... well, it was a revelation to me when I saw a friend pumping for her twins.... & she had milk coming out from more than one place on her nipple. And at more than a dribble!! I was gobsmacked! I would pump for maybe an hour & be lucky to get 10 millilitres. I pumped at one breast whilst I had bub at the other (hoping to simulate twins & increase supply)- that was when I got my best results.


BUt the short answer is, no, it wasn't easy. And I failed. And the experience scarred my soul. I do take some comfort from the fact that my sister is able to bf my gorgeous new little niece & will not have the experiences that I did, although I don't know how I am going to take it when she ceases bf'ing for the convenience of her job....
post #169 of 195
Yes - my DD1 was 19 days old before I got her to my breast to nurse and that was with a nipple shield. we used that shield for 3 mos exclusively. She nursed for 3 YEARS.

No-DD2 nursed well from day one-we did have over supply issues looking back ,but I thought it was normal She nursed for 3.75 YEARS.

No-DS1 would'nt open his mouth but by day 3 we were nursing champs~He's STILL NURSING.

Yes-DS2 had latch issues (just shy of 3 weeks) that are greatly improving. He falls asleep at the breast, which makes me have to rouse him repeatedly and he isn't gaining weight. He's jaundice and today and tomorrow Im supposed to be giving him formula I'm not because we worked to hard to get his latch corrected,to just start over. Not to mention I don't have any bottles and I'm not buying any.
I can totally see how mamas would give up. It is frustrating to be even an experienced mom and it not go right.
post #170 of 195
I picked "other". DD was sleepy and jaundiced; she could latch, but didn't like my overactive letdown (which is why I think she started sucking her thumb). It took a few months to get things down, but she nursed very happily until her very last nursing at age 3.

DS was awesome from Day 1--nursed for two hours while I was in c/s recovery. I could hear him chugging colostrum, and I swear he brought the milk in earlier. He loved the overactive letdown (though he spit up/vomited frequently because of it!) Since 19 months (he's a little over 2 now), everything has been much calmer, and he nurses very often.

Both were c/s; DS was an attempted VBAC. I believe that it's not so much the drugs that cause breastfeeding problems. I think that it's the hospital attitude. I knew nothing with DD, and let them take her away for all sorts of tests and things while I was in recovery. With DS, I was in a different hospital (a more supportive one), and he was with me the whole time.
post #171 of 195
No, not either time. With DS, I found out I had inverted nipples, and had a very hard time getting him to latch on. LC gave me a nipple shield (grrrr.....) which in turn diminished my supply. At the time, I assumed that I just "wasn't making enough milk," and started him on formula when he was about 3 weeks old.

With DD, I persevered through the inverted nipple crisis, suffered from very bloody nipples for a week or so (new LC checked latch, said it was just from my nipples being 'pulled out'), then things were okay... until she was 4 months old and we both got thrush, which stuck around for 8 months (through gentian violet and grapefruit seed extract and nystatin and bactroban). Finally it went away, and we went on to nurse until she was 3 1/2 years old.

If we do it again, I bet it will be a breeze!
post #172 of 195
i had an unplanned c/s and ds latched on right away...in the beginning...so began my fights with the nurses, who just wanted me to give him formula b/c he had lost "too much" weight and obviously i wasn't going to get any milk (it took 5 days). i made them syringe feed him though, since i was determined to breastfeed no matter how much it took (or how much it hurt...and it hurt pretty darn bad). still mad about that. grrr. they pretend to be bf-ing and natural birth friendly at the local hospital here, but when you get there you find out the truth...c/s, drugs, and ff babies who sleep in the nursery all the way.:
post #173 of 195
It was I who had the problems, not DS.

It was very, very difficult for us at first, and I almost gave up several times. Thankfully "the thing" to do here is to BF. Formula feeding is NOT the norm. So, my support group was tremendous.

I really think that had I not the support group, supportive husband and lactation consultant (free! yay Universal Healthcare), I would have given up.

I still really feel that a charity which pays for lactation consults for women who can't afford them in the States would be a good idea.
post #174 of 195
yes it was hard. We first delt with inverted and flat nipples I needed the shields to help her latche I also needed to prop something under each breast to help her latch on. NIP was very ackward She did learn and around 2 months we were able to drop using them. Then I started having severe supply issues and AF problems, AF returned WAYYYY TOOO early actually right away despite full time nursing by the 2 month she was totally regecting nursing during AF and the days leading up. SHe was also sleeping huge streaches that if I could go back in time I would have woken her MUCH more to nurse but I didn't know . I pumped to keep up supply but soon that didn't work. By 3.5 months she'd latch on suck for a moment or so and latch of screaming. The pumped BM reserve was soon used up. SHe just cried and screamed. I tried to get help but didn't know where to ask try, I was jsut told it was a "nuring strike" or a 'growth spurt" then one day we noticed she no longer had tears we hadn't changed a wet diaper in days and her soft spot was sunken in and she was VERY content she just slept . We took her into th hospital. FTT and for about 3 days delt with NICU and the powers to be at CPS asking up twenty million questions. When we left we were given some special high calorie formula and a rental breast pump (like $1,000+ cost if you buy it).
I was beyond depressed I felt stupid and worthless as a parent. It was hard enough the day I gave my DD a bottle of expressed milk but thought well at least its breastmilk I could even accept the formula when she was in the hospital but now. Now this was proof I was a useless parent. I refused the formula I tried again but still nothing. She then started crying again I put her in crib because I was scared I'd hurt her and locked my self in our bathroom.
I cried and cried and cried untill a "voice" plain as day said. Your daughters hungry feed her it will be okay. I to this day SWEAR someone was in the room with me but I was alone. I went into the kitchen and mixed her first at home bottle of formula. Got her cradled her as close to me as possible and fed her. She drank and drank and I could feel her body relax. I rejoiced that she was finially feeling full and burst into tears again because I wasn't providing it.
I did more research after that I called and asked and finially got ahold of a LC through our local WIC that gave me the time of day. I learned about slings and SNS (which I'd used briefly when dealing with the inverted nipples) So fro the next 3 months I literly slung my DD all day and kept her skin to skin next to my breast and she coslept with me. SHe was allowed to nurse and encouraged all day a suck or two here and there whatever. I still gave formula.. Then slowly she was taking less and less of the FB and more and more breastmilk. Then one day I'm sitting with her watching TV she latches on and drinks and drinks and drinks her head falls back eyes rolled back and her mouth is so full of milk its spilling out the sides of her mouth!
We did countinue to occassionally use formula but our breastfeeding relationship returned 10 fold. I never did pump it got to where she nursed just fine but I never could pump. SO she did take the occasional sumplemental bottle and I to this day remain thankful that I did have a way to feed her when she couldn't BF. At 13 months we officially put the bottle away. She countinued to nurse though and did so untill her 4th birthday. We never set a weaning date she started to naturally wean around age 3 but she nursed for the last time on her 4th birthday.
post #175 of 195
Inverted nipples, c-section, pathological jaundice that REQUIRED therapy, and a tiny mouth. I EP'd for six weeks (getting a lot of CRAP from a few people online, you very much) while I healed and we worked on her latch, then used shields for another six months while her mouth grew.

The upsides: a nursing 19-month-old whose favorite word is "boobie" and who can latch herself on and nurse in any position, and having so much extra milk pumped that I was able to donate about five gallons to a couple with an adopted baby. Other people use me as a go-to reference for successful pumping and fulltime breastfeeding while working outside the home.

So yeah, I really don't buy the "it was too hard" BS from anyone. Supply issues and medical contraindications are the only legit reasons I know to supplement or wean. (And the people I know who fall into these categories agree with me and use the SNS if possible.)
post #176 of 195
It wasn't hard for us. As soon as she was born she nursed for 40 minutes. It was great. I did have a inverted nipple, but it was corrected very quick and the sore nipples lasted 4 weeks, but only at the begining of each feeding.
post #177 of 195
Yeah. My milk came in on the car ride home from the hospital (had her on Friday night and went home Sunday afternoon). I had sore nipples that scabbed over for about a week (the scabs actually started peeling off the following week...that was toe-curling pain, but after that I had no pain until I started nursing while pregnant). I hemorrhaged after birth and lost enough blood to need a transfusion (doctor allowed me to put it off a week...I should have done it while I was already in the hospital, though), but it didn't affect my supply. I had overactive letdown, but DD didn't seem to mind...she just learned to deal with it. She did have reflux that caused her to spit up a lot, but it didn't seem to bother her, so we didn't treat it.

We had a really easy go at it...and we're still going. My biggest problem to date is that it feels like she's flicking my nipple with her tongue while she's latched on and I hate the sensation. She's also stopped latching properly and she thinks it is funny when I try to make her stop to correct it.
post #178 of 195
No. Breastfeeding was more painful than childbirth for me. I think in some ways it was made more challenging by the fact I thought it would be an easy, pleasurable experience. The pain was a huge surprise. And then to read over and over again that it should never hurt to breastfeed, when our latch was flawless, was even more demoralizing. I was exclusively breastfed as a baby and never expected to do anything else and despised the forumula makers. But my bf experience finally gave me some empathy and understanding for why some women don't bf. I'm sticking with breastfeeding for as long as he wants it, and some rare moments it feels ok, but mostly it makes me miserable: my nipples are always tender, I'm developing carpal tunnel in my wrists and my back is a wreck. I hope it gets better because at this point I can't wait for it to be done. (Granted he's only 7 weeks old ... 'spose we have room to improve.)
post #179 of 195
I had very little trouble with all three of mine. A bit of soreness at first each time, but that was about it.
post #180 of 195
Oh man. I was in tears over breastfeeding for the first couple of weeks. It turns out I have (had) "flat nipples..." and was told as much by two different lactation specialists, countless hospital nurses, and the pediatrician. I just couldn't get my dd to latch on at first...I ended up pumping at first and bottle feeding. Finally I discovered that pumping "drew out" my nipple enough that dd could latch on...so I would pump for a couple of minutes and then get her to latch. After a couple of weeks, though, we got the hang of it and the rest is history! I'm a working mama, so that expensive pump I bought is still coming in handy. But I have to admit, I felt like a major failure and was afraid we weren't going to "make it" in the breastfeeding arena at first. But hanging in there was well worth it.
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